Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.
There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is great: 024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!scenario

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

lemon congrats!!

Hi Ruby don’t think we ever crossed paths, but congratulations on your arrival, and well done for ignoring work!

Yaaay Lemon hope e stunting is good I’m so pleased for you. Mini Lemon is going to love their nursery and you are going to love eating all the foods

Congrats Ruby so glad, that’s a cracking weight and I’m so impressed at how quick the birth was. Was that the pool at hospital? Enjoy all the baby cuddles they are only little for so long.

Glad you are being looked after Pippa and I’m ok, im definitely going to say to mw about how low I feel but nervous they will want to stick me on meds. Any way I’m not complaining to you Hun you have your hands full as it it.

Sorry the thread got so busy can’t keep up

Congrats to you Ruby!

Congrats Ruby!

Congrats *Ruby

Any tip tips for puking in public. I hav to go to docs in a minute and have been sick hourly all afternoon. I don’t want to do this in front of people! 🤢

Ziploc bag to throw up into then you can just throw it away, or literally just throw up. You're pregnant and suffering, just stare at anyone who makes a comment. I've been there and it's horrible but knowing I was throwing up because I couldn't do anything about it made it easier for me. And always carry a drink with you to have afterwards

Second the sick kit. Ziploc bag/drink/wet wipes. Good luck.

congratulations ruby

Hope your dr visit was sick free.

My only advice don’t puke into the wind never ends well. Chunky tights is never a good look.

mustang

Congrats Ruby!

My advice for public puking is cross your legs when you do it - lessens the risk of a pelvic floor related incident too!

Welcome to Twinkletoes007. Sorry, I have just got on the pc. You have already had great advice, and it sounds as if you are dehydrated what with dark urine and the others symtpoms and as others say, you do probably need fluids and also, hopefully, stronger meds. Do invest in some kesostix to check for the early stages of dehydration - available from any chemists. You are certainly suffering from something worse than normal MS and what with that massive proportion of body loss, did last time too. Do get an emergency appointment with the GP or alternatively, go straight to A and E -but then you may have to wait.Can you stand ice cubes or ice lollies or flat coke? Other liquids that have helped others are orange squash, soda water, Dr Pepper, Lucoazade, Elderflower Water, fizzy orange,
sips of chocolate milkshake (someone suggested banana too), and some foods that people have found bearable are cuppa soup, jelly,

cheap ice cream, nibbles of crisps,and lemon. Don't put off getting emergency treatment as one gets to a certain stage of dehydration where you are unable to take in how ill you are!
RubyReins What happy news! And how lovely that it went for you at sixteen weeks this time, wheras last time you suffered throughout.
Congratulations on Baby Reins. What a hefty size.
. Thank you for coming on with your happy message.
Flumplet I so agree with the advice of Oklahoma and others - you need stronger meds and an anti acid might help a lot. You have had such great advice about Public Puking kits and I am coming too late to it, so that I can't add anything, except you can hide your head if you use a doubled up carrier bag! So agree about crossing legs, Natsku. I hope all went well at the dr's and you excaped without needing the advice.
Mustang Oh dear, I had to smile about 'Puking in the Wind' an excellent varient on 'pissing in the wind' .
DeadDoorPost I meant the belly trick. Remind me about the 'old man' trick?
Batman Good luck with train journey. I hope you are near the loos (can you request that?), and you are very brave.
justtheone Welcome back.
Great advice from everyone...

@Lemondrop99 I'm so pleased to hear you've had a wee one! Will you be naming them after a character in Harry Potter?

Dear everyone else, I am sorry I've been a bit vacant. I'm still plodding on. I'm 26 weeks and only vomiting a few times a week now & not on medication but the fatigue, heart burn and depression. I am definitely now glowing! I'm always saddened to read about everyone's awful sickness. Even though I'm through the worst of it now (I hope!), I still feel traumatised by those few months. You just have to keep on and take it day by day and if all you can manage is to stay in bed each day and eat 1/2 packet of hula hoops then that is fine!

*NOT glowing!

thingymaboob Nice to hear from you with your supportive message. Can you get a more effective anti acid? That can make such a difference, or are you still getting the heartburn with Omprazole or Ranitidine?
I so agree about the happy news from Lemondrop and RubyReins.

Does anyone have any tips for coping mentally?

I'm only 7+4 and been really sick since 6 weeks. Potentially still ages to go and already feeling like I'm losing it.

I've not been to work for 2 weeks (been working from home as much as I can manage). Am hardly managing to leave the house.

DH is out 6.30am -8pm each day. I have no local friends or family who could visit, and very few friends in general so no one really to chat to.

I'm normally very sporty so missing my sports is making me feel very down and I'm conscious of the effect it's having on my body as all I can eat is crap. Being fit is important to me.

Not sure how I'll get through the coming weeks / months.

Bunny the mental side of HG is one of the hardest aspects. The isolation, lack of human contact and lack of support/understanding is almost as bad as the nausea and sickness. In terms of how to cope I broke it down into bite size chunks. So each day/week would try and have something to look forward to (DH leaving work half an hour early, my favourite tv show, clean sheets on the bed) it can be really small things. Try not to think about the I’ve got X eeeks left as that is soul destroying and doesn’t help at all. It is really really hard and accepting that it is mentally hard helps too. It’s normal to hate / not bond with / not want the baby. It doesn’t mean you won’t love it when it comes out and it doesn’t make you a bad person / mother. If you are worried you are getting depressed speak to your GP, antenatal depression is common with HG too. Use this thread, everyone on here has been through / is going through the same and the black humour often helps me get through the day. Sending strength, you will get through this however bleak it seems now.

Bunny where are you in the UK? Someone on here might live close to you and be able to provide some real and understanding contact.

Thanks all for the supportive messages and tips. I shall report back hopefully with progress and in the meantime I'm sending my best to everyone else out there going through similar.

bunny no tips I'm afraid. I'm cripplingly lonely. I am trying to fill my days with games/MN/radio/audiobooks but I'm fucking lonely.
I will say that it's not as bad now I'm 18 weeks. I can get out of bed and lay on sofa and I'm no longer vomiting all day thanks to high ondansetron dose. Nothing compares to the early days for misery and illness.

Lucinda the old man trick was the shower seat I mentioned to someone.
bunny I found sleeping most of the day helped but I was in a position where I could do that. Having things to look forward to helped as Well, and sometimes just having a 2 hour phonecall with my nan was what I needed. I also spent a lot of time on YouTube watching pregnancy announcement videos and DH would come home and day 'again?! Really??' It kept me company for many many weeks. Once the ondansetron kicked in and worked though that helped. I found I could go and socialise a bit then. Even if that meant going to the shops just to interact.

HG 3 - hannah 0. Back in hospital again 3rd time this month 😩 have asked for a belt and braces approach this time as I’m so down. Fingers crossed!

Congrats lemon and ruby!
Bunny I've been on bed rest and now off work. I'm only 9.5 weeks but it's 3 weeks of this. I'm losing count. I had pnd with ds. So I worry about it. I try and set myself goals. At the beginning it was just, I'll get into new pjs. But now it's things like. I'll tidy the kitchen, put a laundry on, do my Christmas shopping. I'm very goal driven, so that helps. Def speak to your gp. Sometimes you just need a wee bit of help. That said I joined this group when I was on bedrest in a hotel room in Cyprus, this amazing bunch were a real life line. What about a hobby? Someone suggested scrapbooks to me. Instead I'm learning to make clothes (ok mainly learning how to rip out stitches when I mess up) and it passes the time. I do sleep a lot. Seem to get really tired and not sure if it's the meds but I have no energy.
Finally, I bought an old lady stool for the shower. Hair is washed. Not dried mine you but at least I feel clean.

Fluffybunny As others say, it is very hard to bear. It is harder if you haven't got family/friends close by (though at least you don't have to drag yourself up to be polite to incomprehending visitors that way).
It is probably one of the hardest things you will ever have to endure - most people find birth and a new born easy to bear in comparison - but almost nobody, even those unlucky minority who suffer throughout, feels as bad later on as in the early days. As others say, don't worry about not bonding with the baby - that will sort itself out soon enough after birth, trust me. Audio books and so on are a way of passing the time, and others' ideas about small treats are excellent.
Remember the words of the sage - (a man; but applicable in this case) - that apply to both the best and the worst times - 'This Too Shall Pass'.
As always wonderful support and advice from everyone.
DeadDoorPost about Old Man Seat.
Here's the new due dates list. Wasn't it wonderful that RubyReins who suffered throughout last time, didn't suffer after week sixteen this time?

Due Dates
FlapAttack 10 October
Heartburn247 23 October
FluteyTootey 26 October
mrsgembles 27 October
BlueButTrue 17 November
putput 17 November
DeadDoorPost 19 November
pippasnippa 19 November
Oklahoma 21 November
NonStopDisco 23 November
OnNature'sCourse 23 November
Satsooma 4 December
Mustang 18 December
millsbynight 20 December
mumoftheark 28 December
can'tdothisagain late December
Thingymaboob 10 January
mrsb87 13 January
Flossyfloss 13 January
1984fs 27 January
Natsku 27 or 28 January
Ameliablue 22 February
justtheone 9 March
Shenz21 22 March
AndInShortIWasAfraid 27 March
weasledee 5 June