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I think somethings happened to the baby and I have to wait until Monday to find out.

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 30/06/2017 18:25

14+3 weeks.

I've been getting heartbeat on a doppler easily since 9 weeks.

I've had a bad feeling the last few days, something I never got with my other kids. So I tried the doppler today and found nothing. I've been trying since 11am.

I've tried all the tricks in the right places, laying this way and that, pointing it down etc etc and there's absolutely nothing there.

I spoke to EPU but being Friday they can't see me until Monday morning.

It's going to be a long weekend.

Wish I never bought that bloody doppler. I never did with my other pregnancies.

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Bluerose27 · 01/07/2017 14:15

I'm so sorry to hear that. I had a MC at 15 weeks. I'll write what my experience was in case it helps but it may need a trigger warning for people to whom the issue is sensitive.

The hospital kept me as soon as they realised the pregnancy was over. I was losing amniotic fluid , was bleeding for about 2 weeks prior and had an infection so circumstances were perhaps different to yours. They admitted me immediately, nothing happened the first night . The second day they gave me a tablet which I believe was anti-progesterone. It stopped the pregnancy hormones and within an hour or so I began to get contractions/cramps. Once it got really bad a midwife gave me strong painkillers and stayed with me as I delivered the baby. (My husband was with me all the time except when he went home to sleep). That was the afternoon. I stayed that night and went home the next evening or stayed maybe one more night. My memory is a bit fuzzy. But I was closely monitored in hospital. (This was in Ireland.). I'm not sure that if I had wanted to stay at home and let nature take its course if I would have had the option. I think it was necessary to be in hospital.

Again, I'm so so sorry this has happened, it's heart breaking for you xxx

ValentineFizz · 01/07/2017 14:15

So sorry to read this, thinking of you today

TallRedhead · 01/07/2017 14:16

Oh I am sorry.

Go to the EPU on Monday and they will advise on a plan or you might start bleeding before then.
I had a MC at 11 weeks and there was a lot of blood & clots. You'll just have to see how it goes and take it from there. If nothing happens then the EPU will talk about intervention to remove.

Again I'm so sorry for your loss.

Noisybastardsshutup · 01/07/2017 14:19

I'm so sorry Op. They might give you the option of letting it happen naturally at home, going to hospital to have it medically managed or having a ERPC under general anaesthetic. I chose to have the ERPC but miscarried naturally on the ward waiting for surgery. I was nil by mouth so couldn't have any pain relief. Make sure you stock up on painkillers if you're going to do it at home and you will need someone with you to look after the kids.

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 01/07/2017 14:27

Thank you.

bluerose I really appreciate you sharing that with me because I've had absolutely no experience with this at all and totally clueless as to how it works.

Can I ask you why you chose to do it that way as opposed to having it surgically removed?

I actually want to see the baby. Is that weird? I mean he has a cute nose and lips, I saw on my first scan. He was so cute.

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TippyTinkleTrousers · 01/07/2017 14:27

What is ERPC?

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valeriarrgh · 01/07/2017 14:50

Oh OP I'm so sorry. It's not weird to want to see them, not at all. All my love to you.

EllenJanethickerknickers · 01/07/2017 14:52

Evacuation of retained products of conception. I had a MMC but some spotting at 11 weeks, was scanned next day and baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had an ERPC under general anaesthetic the same day. Sad but painless.

Brenna24 · 01/07/2017 14:54

I am so sorry.

I don't have any experience with one that late. My latest was at 11+3 but baby had been dead since 8. I found out at 10 weeks and was given the option of surgical or medical if I wanted it, but I wanted neither. I sent home and lost the baby over a week later. I didn't need any painkillers at all, just a hot water bottle and a lot of cuddles. Everyone is different there though.

peachgreen · 01/07/2017 15:26

Oh tippy, I'm so sorry. I was so hoping that everything was okay.

PayingMyWayYouSay · 01/07/2017 15:26

I am concerned for the OP, surely 14 weeks is too late for the baby to just come away in clots?

I lost twins at bear in 16 weeks OP, and they had to be delivered with my cervix dilated. I did see them, it gave me peace to do so. They were cremated with other lost babies of a similar gestation within the hospital grounds

I really do hope you're managed well, whatever you decide to do.

I am sincerely sorry you're going through this. It's bloody hard.

Please be kind to yourself you amazing woman

Holdbacktheriver · 01/07/2017 15:26

Oh op I'm so sorry
If you get any heavy bleeding or pain go straight to a&e and they'll be able to refer you to the on call gynae.

If you have a number for the gynae Ward they may see you over the weekend. Sometimes the number is in the epaus answerphone message so worth trying their number and seeing if it's on there.

You will most likely be in hospital for this. They won't send you home with ibuprofen. If you want to see your baby then you can deliver him. Nothing weird or wrong with that at all.

Do you and DH have support? I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Just in case you're wondering and no one else tells you this. This is not your fault. You did nothing wrong.

BrutusMcDogface · 01/07/2017 15:26

Of course it's not weird to want to see your baby. So sorry for your loss

Bluerose27 · 01/07/2017 15:28

Hi Tippy. Surgical removal was never offered to me as an option. I think perhaps the pregnancy was too far along for that to happen. It also happened very quickly with the tablet . Maybe they prefer to avoid ab operation when possible? I'm also not sure that the medical expertise in Ireland extends to that option. Friends of mine have had D&C's here but they were much less along, maybe 6 or 8 weeks.

If you would like to see the baby it's not weird at all, it's totally understandable. I chose not to see our baby but my husband chose to see it. He didn't choose to hold it at the time and I think is sorry he didn't. (he was only asked once but had he been asked again he would have said yes) . It's your little baby so absolutely do what you think is right for you.

The staff in the hospital were all so lovely and kind, they helped a lot

NotAnotherUserName5 · 01/07/2017 15:42

I'm so sorry. I was hoping you would get good news.

I sadly had the same outcome from the situation as you. I couldn't find the heartbeat and private scan confirmed the worst. Baby died a day or something before at 13 weeks.
Please be kind to yourself. Let yourself cry and talk through it.

Don't worry about the kids, they will be fine. Mine were/are.

With me the next step was contact the midwife who booked a scan to confirm, then I had to wait a week for a second confirmation scan (hospital policy)

Nothing happened in the meantime so when I went back I went through the options and decided on medical management. A D&C was an option too, as was waiting it out.

So sorry you are going through this

Ilovewillow · 01/07/2017 19:27

I'm so very sorry for your loss

Ginlinessisnexttogodliness · 01/07/2017 19:58

Oh I am so very sorry to read this.
I hope you are bearing up ok. Have that wine and make sure you have lots of tlc.

I don't know what else to say other than I am thinking of you and so sorry for your loss. 💐 xx

KeepFuckingGoing · 01/07/2017 20:05

Oh my love I am so sorry to read this. I had a surgical EPC following a MMC at 9 wks. I am not sure if the policy at 14 wks.

If you have a choice I would strongly recommend a surgical procedure.

Wishing you strength. Xx

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BeanSprout79 · 01/07/2017 20:22

Omg I'm so sorry, I didn't read at the bottom, please ignore my other reply. I'm so so sorry for your loss. Nothing can make you feel better but im wishing you best wishes. Take care of yourself. x

daffo · 01/07/2017 20:37

So sorry to hear this. I've experienced it myself and it is horrible.

AnneofGreenGablesAgain · 01/07/2017 20:45

I'm so sorry to hear you have lost your baby. I had a mmc picked up at the 12 week scan and had a surgical procedure at 13.5 weeks to complete the Mc as my body wasn't doing it by itself. I found the Erpc the best route for me at a very difficult time and physically it was a good approach I think - you know when you are going in and can start to accept what has happened and recover from the ga and miscarriage itself xxx

HillaryWinshaw · 01/07/2017 20:51

I'm so sorry, OP.

LookImAHooman · 01/07/2017 22:05

I'm so sorry.

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