I think somethings happened to the baby and I have to wait until Monday to find out.

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14+3 weeks.

I've been getting heartbeat on a doppler easily since 9 weeks.

I've had a bad feeling the last few days, something I never got with my other kids. So I tried the doppler today and found nothing. I've been trying since 11am.

I've tried all the tricks in the right places, laying this way and that, pointing it down etc etc and there's absolutely nothing there.

I spoke to EPU but being Friday they can't see me until Monday morning.

It's going to be a long weekend.

Wish I never bought that bloody doppler. I never did with my other pregnancies.

Good luck OP.

OP, it's WAY too early to be even trying to listen in and you've obviously now realised why using home dopplers isn't recommended. They're actually dangerous in untrained hands.

How did you get the 172bpm? Did you count it yourself or is that the number that came up on the Doppler? Even that in itself is worrying. Do you know what heart rate your baby should have? How do you know that the Doppler isn't actually picking up your heartbeat and doubling it, as they are well known to do?

Safe use of a Doppler begins with knowing HOW they work and the pitfalls, then spending years training to use them safely and effectively and then knowing what to do if something isn't normal.

Even doctors and midwives struggle with dopplers and that's with extensive training and daily experience using them. The earliest anyone in the medical profession would try to listen in is 16 weeks and even then it can be difficult for those with experience.

They provide false reassurance and false worry, especially when you don't know what you're doing.

I sincerely do hope everything is ok for you OP, but please throw the sodding Doppler in the bin.

I will be thinking of you today.

Good luck for your appointment later. Will be thinking of you

Good luck for today.

Good luck today

Good luck for your appointment today OP and would just echo what others have said- bin that Doppler! I'm 26 weeks with my first and my midwife used a Doppler to detect the heartbeat 2 days ago but she said that they normally wait until a minimum of 28 weeks or don't use them at all- and this is a fully qualified and trained midwife! Whilst finding heartbeat she commented at one stage "that's your placenta" and I can honestly say that I couldn't tell any strong difference between any of the various noises she was hearing before saying "that's the heartbeat". I considered buying a Doppler in my first trimester for all of ten minutes and then read all the stories online of people who have been put in really stressful situations from relying on them. Obviously I really hope everything's fine (and I'm sure it will be!) but please get rid of the Doppler and don't be tempted to use it again xx

Dopplers can double maternal pulse, even CTG monitors and Fetal scalp electrodes can do it. You have to be so, so careful. Good luck with your scan but please get rid of it afterwards.

Wishing you the best outcome.

Best of luck op. Hope all is well

I don't think Dopplers are all bad. I love mine. I do NOT use it for reassurance though.

Any reduced movement or worries, I call a professional. I do not rely on it to put my mind at rest.

I think it's nice for bonding. Although I didn't use mine until 16+ weeks so was always easy to find baby heartbeat.

Again, they aren't meant for reassurance for mums.

guntymcgee I think a lot women know the pitfalls of using a doppler at home but still we get them, it can be so hard in the early days and they are way too easily accessible. I speak from experience, I also said I wouldn't get one etc etc, but after my 4th mmc the anxiety was too much. I knew all the negative things about them. I had a couple of blips with it but I found my baby's heartbeat at 10 weeks, it is doable depending on position etc. That being said we know they're not reliable in most circumstances and cause more stress than good, I would support a ban on them being available online,

OP I hope all is ok at your scan today

Just read your thread, I sincerely hope all is well!

Appointment soon running a bit late. Then lady before me was here for a gender scan and the baby wasn't playing ball so it took a while.

Hope it all went ok

Well in this instance the doppler was very accurate indeed.
I was finding the heartbeat and then I didn't.

Today the scan showed that my baby died a few days ago at 14 weeks.

I'm beyond gutted. My poor children had told all their little friends. They were so excited.

I'm doing the most unhealthy thing for my mental health and I bought a bottle of wine. I know I shouldn't but I don't care today.

DH has come home from work. He seems upset as well, he really didn't want another baby but he's not made of stone.

Does anyone know how I manage this? I will go to my EPU on Monday as usual but where do I pass the baby? At home or hospital? I don't want the pain unmanaged, they won't just send me home to cope with ibuprofen will they?

What happens please can someone help me, I've no experience in this.

I am so so sorry OP

I'm so incredibly sorry, I have no advice but I'm thinking of you

So very sorry to read this :(
Thinking of you

So sorry to read this, no advice I'm afraid but my thoughts are with you and your family.

Oh I'm so, so sorry

I'm so so sorry for your loss. It so hard when you get your head round having another baby then to loose it after we feel 'safe' at 12 weeks is tough.
Usually you'll be given a choice to either wait for your body to miscarry, or medically manage by taking pills or a peasany, or surgically. But you don't have to make any decisions quickly. Take your time. If you have a medical management you usually would be at home unless it became difficult for you to cope.

Very sorry for your loss

I'm so sorry OP. They gave me the option of letting it happen naturally or having an ERPC under general anaesthetic when I miscarried at 13 weeks. I had the ERPC and it was fine.

Oh goodness. I am so sorry. Well done for following your instincts. What an awful time xx