Aibu to think about not going

[hoolahoola22]

I went to the midwife on Tuesday and have been told I'm 2 cm dilated,so far nothing has happened,im due to go to a wedding on sunday which is 2 hours away and would invove staying over Saturday and sunday night,would you go?

Is the wedding near a hospital?!

How far along are you Hoola?

No I probably wouldn't tbh. I wouldn't want to be that far away if I went into labour in an unknown hospital and having a 2 hr drive home after giving birth with a new born wouldn't appeal to me.

the nearest hospital to the wedding venue doesn't have a maternity bit I'm 37 weeks

Also me and hubby don't drive so are getting a lift with family,if I did go into labour at the wedding I don't know how we would all get back

It's obviously the right thing not to go.

Absolutely no I wouldn't go. Not in that situation. Actually at 37 weeks I wouldn't have been going anyway no matter what, but given the closest hospital doesn't have a maternity department, you're far enough away from home that you'd need to stay elsewhere, and you don't drive, I wouldn't even consider it.

Well my best friend came to stay for 2 nights at my wedding when 40+2 with DC2... however my auntie (at the wedding) is a midwife and there was a hospital 5 mins away.
In your circumstances I probably wouldn't go.

Just remembered I went overnight to a wedding at 39+2 too! It was London though so I knew there were plenty of hospitals. We went on the train.

Absolutely wouldn't.
Even if nothing happened, I'd be on such tenterhooks.

Such a high chance you'll have baby before weekend is out.

And would the happy couple want you drama crashing their day if something urgent happens?

ok so what if it was your brothers wedding?

Immediate family I would.

Anybody else I wouldn't.

Yes I would for my brother's wedding.

Would anyone not go

I wouldn't have gone if I knew I was already dilated.

I would have gone if I was near term or overdue but nothing was happening yet.

I would have gone if I wasn't dialated,but now I'm thinking I probably shouldn't,but its my brother I really don't know what to do

Would definitely go if it was my brother. Wouldn't stay though, surely you could arrange to o to wedding and stay for dinner, and then get a lift back to avoid staying overnight. Two hours is not that far.

no as everyone wants to stay for the whole thing no one would want to leave to take us back

I would probably go so long as there was no contractions or any progression. You can stay 2cm dilated for weeks without anything happening.

If it was my brother I'd go. Obviously you need a plan though!

and we would have to stay as the people taking us there are going the day before and leaving the day after the wedding as they want to drink,if we made our own way we would have to get lots of trains and taxis and its a bit of a faff,dont fancy that when I'm 37 weeks

There's no way I'd miss my brothers wedding if I could help it. Lots of people are 2cm dilated for weeks. Take your hospital bag and car seat with you and worst case scenario you get a taxi to hospital if you go into labour and I'm sure one of your relatives would come and drive you home after the birth.

Talk to your brother. I would be disappointed to miss it but in your circumstances, it would be best not to go. Could you video link the wedding so you see the ceremony. If you go into labour at home, how do you plan to get to the Hospital if neither of you drive and everyone is at the wedding?

I would like to go but I don't know what the plan would be,how would we get back,who would have our other child if I did go into labour there,where would hubby stay if I ended up staying in hospital a few days,then also what would happen to my other child

I would go. In all likelyhood nothing will happen and you'll have missed your brothers wedding for nothing.