We have found out the gender and I don't know how I feel about it...

[DuRezidal]

I am 16 weeks today and we made an appointment for a private gender scan. I had no idea what I was having, but I did always envisage having two daughters.

We took my 5 year old daughter with us as she wanted to know.

The baby was not very cooperative for quite some time, and then finally the sonographer asked if we still wanted to know. We said yes and she announced we were having a boy.

Since that moment I've just felt strange and don't feel as excited as I would do. I can't say this to my husband as he is absolutely delighted, he never imagined we would be having a boy but he is so so happy. So I feel a bit guilty that I am not glad I am having a boy.

It's silly because I know that I have a daughter who is perfect, but I just envisaged having another little girl.

As soon as I read the title, I knew you'd just found out you were having a boy.

Poor little lad!

I've got two sons. They're lovely. When I had my 20-week scan with DS2, the lady told me he was a girl, and I burst into ecstatic tears... then she had to say, "No, no, I'm sorry I got that wrong - definitely a boy."

It's probably natural to favour the idea of having a child the same sex as yourself (hence your DH's joy), but you've already got a girl. It'll be amazing for you to have both. And boys are A LOT easier than girls, from what I've witnessed watching my friends cope with their daughters!

Oh @WhatsGoingOnEh what an emotional rollercoaster that scan was for you!

My daughter has been super easy, she slept through from 2 weeks, she is my little friend who comes everywhere with me and who has such a wonderful personality. Everyone keeps telling me I will have the devil this time as I don't deserve one as good as my daughter (I was an absolute nightmare as a child as didn't, and don't, sleep!)

I think we are settling on a name now so I am moving forwards with the idea of having a boy. I am just happy we found out as it gives both me and my daughter the time to adjust to having a boy in the house.

Do you get that that's all because she's your child and not because she's a girl? Even if you had a girl you would t be replicating the same experience? Her sleeping at two weeks and being your friend is because you love her and she loves you and you have helped shape her as a human being. This will also happen with a son.

I hate that you think girl= good and boy= bad. He will be as wonderful as your daughter and you really really shouldn't be projecting these feelings on to your daughter too. She's five. She shouldn't need to 'get used to the idea of a boy in the house'. A new baby yes, but all the way along you must have known it was a 50/50 chance of either sex? No?

If your son is more difficult than your daughter please don't think it's because he's a boy!
After having an easy baby you're bound to worry your next won't be the same and you could very well have had a difficult girl.
Remember for a while he'll just be 'a baby'- kinda genderless apart from what you dress him in! It'll take some time for any boy-associated interests to kick in, and you never know, he may very well want to join in with tea parties and be a sensitive soul.

All the people saying "you'll have a devil of a time" just need to be ignored!

I have one of each and my DS has always been the calmest and easiest! I am absolutely mad about my DD but she's far more sarcastic and needy (even though she's 17!)

Probably says more about me, as I have a lot less patience nowadays than when my son was growing up (8 yr gap in between) but boys are lovely too, promise!

Just to clarify we haven't projected anything to our daughter. From the very start we have said to her that it could be a brother or a sister, she opted for her own preference.

I think its fairly normal for children to want a sibling to be the same gender as themselves. The projecting comment was rather harsh.

DuRezidal I don't think you should need to defend your stance on being pregnant and having a range of emotions about it. Can't think of anything more natural.

Totally get it! My last pregnancy I had no idea what we were having, just assumed another girl as that's what I already had and was quite shocked to get a boy! Not disappointed in the slightest, just wasn't what I was expecting. But he's honestly the snuggliest and funniest of all of my babies. Now I'm pregnant again I'm almost hoping for a girl as I don't know if another boy will ever match up to his brother

Surely most people secretly have a preference? We haven't found out, and I'm honestly just so delighted that so far my scans have been great and baby is healthy, but deep down I really hope it's a little boy.