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Does everyone lie about their due date?

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FluffyEwok · 08/04/2017 18:29

I'm due 25th November but I'm a very private person and don't want people mithering me so aibu if i say im due beginning of December? anyone else done this?

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Gunpowder · 08/04/2017 18:30

It's a great idea. Although I did this with DD2 and forgot

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FluffyEwok · 08/04/2017 18:32

hahaha gunpowder.
I don't want people knowing I'm in labour etc either and speculating and shit

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kittytom · 08/04/2017 18:36

Do it. I was stupidly honest both times and was driven insane by my mother well wishers.

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FluffyEwok · 08/04/2017 18:37

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Gunpowder · 08/04/2017 18:37

I'm completely with you. It's horrible feeling like a watched pot! I don't like anyone except for DH and MWs knowing I'm in labour. Poor old Princess Kate with all those ppl outside the hospital.

ANiceSliceOfCake · 08/04/2017 18:38

Just keep it vague and say end of November / beginning of December, if they press for a date just say you arnt even thinking of a date as babies never really come on their due date, so you are being vague for your own sanity. People should get the message.

glitterglitters · 08/04/2017 18:39

lol I tell people my dd is actually my 42 week date. Stops the "have you had the baby yet?" nonsense lol

adjsavedmylife · 08/04/2017 18:43

We did this. No regrets at all. Baby was early so we needn't have bothered in the end but I just wanted privacy.

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FluffyEwok · 08/04/2017 18:47

I feel better now lol

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LHReturns · 08/04/2017 18:53

I lie because I am so huge....I am 32.5 weeks but I currently tell people I am about 35 weeks. It gets confusing as I cannot recall what I have told different people. I like the vagueness tho (I am having a c section at 38.5 weeks and certainly don't share that date with anyone). If I am honest I get constant jokes about how big my bump is and I don't really want to discuss it. I am fully aware I look ridiculous....

ILoveDolly · 08/04/2017 18:56

If it makes you feel more comfortable and takes the pressure off then sure. I did tell a few people my due date but generally people are happy to be given a vague answer.

Jemimapiddleduck · 08/04/2017 18:56

I do it also forget when what I have told people.
I also say I am trying hard not to focus on the due date but it around a month away

LokisSister · 08/04/2017 18:58

I'm due 4th June and have just said I'm due in June to most people

Kr1stina · 08/04/2017 18:58

LH you don't look ridiculous. You look like a pregnant woman growing a beautiful and healthy baby. It's a miracle . Please don't let people put you down.

LHReturns · 08/04/2017 19:49

Thank you so much Kr1stina....my bump size and baby measurements (he measures 4 weeks ahead) have been a source of stress for me since I was about 22 weeks. Have had three GTT tests as well (all negative) so I am just bored of being the huge one while everyone else is due well before me. Saying I'm due earlier just slips out naturally now! Not long to go...

Kr1stina · 09/04/2017 16:44

I'm sorry to hear that you are having all this stress and worry about baby's size. Say whatever you like to people to get you through and cut out any questions that you don't want to deal with. I never gave exact dates to anyone , just said " around the end of April, but who knows, after all babies come when they want " .

It's not unusual to have your EDD changed anyway. In my first antenatal class there was woman who had moved in to the UK in mid pregnancy from another country ( France I think ) and so her EDD was changed too. Obviously baby would come earlier now it was to be born here [ hmm]

IME ( not as a HCP ) bumps come in many different types shapes and sizes and all are wonderful because they are about new life. And I know many people who were told their baby was big / small and it was nonsense. As well as women who were told they were " neat " and had a big baby.

It sounds like you are getting well looked after by your healthcare team so please try your best not to worry too much

neversleepagain · 10/04/2017 12:12

I just said I am due in November. I was pregnant with twins so had people asking me when I was due from 28 weeks. Babies came at 34 weeks with me measuring 52 weeks!

MissMooMoo · 10/04/2017 12:14

I wish I had done this to begin with!
I have started saying May now but a lot of people know my actual due date and I know they will start txting/msg from the beginning of next month.

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FluffyEwok · 10/04/2017 12:30

I'm going to say I'm due 5th December not 25th november as my trust doesn't let you go more than 10 days over. I can't be bothered telling people I'm pregnant tbh lol

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littlemisseatsherfeelings · 10/04/2017 13:26

Yep I'm being super vague too ' end of September' is all I'll say, whilst I know that it will be the end of the first week of Sept as I'm having a planned CS. It's definitely so they leave me alone with the 'due date pestering' until it's too late.. muwahahahaha!!!

It was planned the first time too but I stupidly told people my due date which was 18th December and I was told 50,000,000,000 times (approximately) that as it was my first it would be late and wouldn't it be HILAAAARIOUS if he was born on Christmas Day or New Year?! I got pretty bored with nodding and smiling.

Oh2weealone · 10/04/2017 13:29

I didn't announce my pregnancy outside of close family and friends until I was unable to hide it anymore. I always give a vague date and when pressed I just say 'mid month' - a lot of people ask a lot of questions when you're pregnant like you're public property and it's hard to remain silent when questioned!

OdinsLoveChild · 10/04/2017 13:31

Isnt saying 'the end of November' the same as saying 25th November? Not one of my children have bothered to appear on time, ranging from 3 weeks early to 19 days late. Its not lying by saying end of/beginning of a month because babies come when they feel like it. Just say whatever makes you feel comfortable.

marmitecheesetoast · 10/04/2017 13:47

I WISH I had thought of this, I'm due on Friday and already getting bombarded by messages which I was not expecting until at least next weekend

melonribena · 10/04/2017 13:49

I did. Had excess fluid with both of mine so said I was due two weeks earlier so people wouldn't comment on how big I was

kel1493 · 10/04/2017 13:55

I didn't. It didn't bother me. Though I wasn't inundated with wishes anyway. A few people asked, but mostly people waited to hear from us. I assumed they figured we'd let people know

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