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how long did it take you to fall pregnant after a mc?

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Anna2006 · 07/04/2017 12:29

How long did it take any of you lovely pregnant ladies to fall again after a mc?

How long did it take to fall pregnant 1st time and then after?

I fell pregnant first time and mc at 13 weeks (blighted ovum). It's been 6 months and no sign of a BFP. Now heading onto try 7. Just want some reassurance from ladies that this can be normal & roughly everyone else's experiences.

I'm trying not to worry as obviously we did conceive very quickly an so it should just be a matter of time....But can't help but fear somethings changed & it won't ever happen again. I just think something surely can't of been wrong before ,ie DH sperm must be fine cos otherwise we wouldn't of hit bingo first time surely?!

Thanks very much.

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Metalhead · 07/04/2017 12:52

I'm sorry for your loss OP. When we were ttc #2 I conceived after 4 cycles but that ended in a mmc, and after that it took me 11 cycles to conceive again! Not sure why it took so much longer, but we got there in the end. Don't lose hope!

GreedyDuck · 07/04/2017 12:54

Sorry for your loss. It took me six months to conceive after my first mmc, and six weeks after my second!

After my first, I was convinced that I would never get pregnant again, or have children. However once what would have been my due date passed, my sadness did lift a bit and I stopped obsessing about my mc. I conceived about two weeks later. I do think that there is a strong mind/body link when it comes to fertility. The month I conceived we were quite distracted and busy with other stuff and not really trying.

I know it's very difficult to relax about it all when you want something so badly, but I do think it helps. Good luck.

pa55methecake · 07/04/2017 13:23

Hi Anna, sorry to hear about your loss. I had a missed miscarriage early Feb 2016 after trying for around 14 months in total but within that stopped trying for a year in the lead up to our wedding.

I am now pregnant again (6+5) and was just getting to the end of tests after the year gap of not getting pregnant. I definitely felt as though it was never going to happen again and even now I'm struggling to believe it. Just keeping everything crossed that everything this time goes okay.

Hope you have some good news soon, don't give up

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Anna2006 · 07/04/2017 14:11

Thanks girls for your reassuring words!

@GreedyDuck. Yes very true I think about the due date thing. I was due 25th April so it's rapidly approaching. And feel once it's passed maybe I can move on & hopefully we get lucky very soon.

I feel completely irrational some day an think it won't ever happen again & we will be childless forever. But I know it's probabaly quite unlikely seeing as we fell with no problem and although I had a mc it was natural an no complications.

Fx it will be our time. And we just have to keep going! I deff won't be giving up as we're so desperate for it. Will try to relax and think it WILL happen. And that's it when and not if.

Xxx

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GreedyDuck · 07/04/2017 16:03

I'm sure you will conceive again soon. Be kind to yourself this month, it is so so tough.

10storeylovesong · 07/04/2017 17:33

We ttc for 2 years for #2 before having 4 consecutive early mc then 6 months before another bfp. Currently 14+5.

Algebraic · 07/04/2017 17:53

Sorry for your loss. I was first month each time. Miscarriage at 8 weeks. I did wait for one cycle before trying again but was encouraged not to wait longer.

sunshine916 · 07/04/2017 20:26

Sorry you've had a tough time. It took 6 months after my MMC which I found really stressful as the first time round conceived on second cycle of trying. Convinced myself I would never have children and was hard as was surrounded with friends with children or who were due v close to what would have been my due date. Am also late 30s so worried about age.

Went through some dark times (have since read articles that say 40% of women suffer PTSD post-miscarriage so maybe that was what happened to me). Things I tried that helped raise my general wellbeing: joining a miscarriage support group, going swimming regularly, making myself eat/sleep properly, reflexology to help relaxation.

I also found a very sympathetic GP who was about to refer me for tests when I got a positive pregnancy test (two weeks after our original due date). The same GP also recommended digital ovulation tests, which I first used the month I fell pregnant.

Am now 20w preg, hasn't been an easy ride so far but am hoping everything works out ok now.

Good luck and take time out to do something nice around your due date if you can. Xxx

Teabagtits · 07/04/2017 20:30

It was about 9/10 months.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 07/04/2017 20:40

2.5 years for first pregnancy = live birth
Not really sure for second pregnancy, maybe 6m = miscarriage at maybe 9 weeks
5 months for 3rd pregnancy, now 37 weeks in

Don't give up hope, its very early days. Try not to obsess about it. Positive non baby things to occupy your time/mind are a good idea.

Pineapple80 · 08/04/2017 13:17

Sorry for your loss OP.

It took us 6months. I had a mmc, found out around 9-10wks. It felt like an eternity and struggled quite a bit emotionally.

By 6 months it was the time my due date for that baby had passed and I don't now maybe it was a sign I wasn't ready to be pregnant till that time had gone by?

Wishing you all the best and take care.

Pineapple80 · 08/04/2017 13:18

Forgot to add I am now 31 wks, with my rainbow baby x

jinglebellmel · 08/04/2017 20:00

Sorry you're going through this :( I concieved Dc 2 first month of trying but sadly turned out to be a blight ed ovum at 11 weeks. It took around 5 cycles to concieve again (miscarried at 5 weeks) and I then conceived again the next month (29 weeks now). I think it took my body and hormones a long time to get back to normal after the blighted ovum. I don't think 7 cycles sounds abnormal but I fully appreciate it feels like a life time in this situation. Are you timing conception over your fertile days?

Zaberwocky · 08/04/2017 20:02

12 months.

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Anna2006 · 08/04/2017 20:21

@jinglebellmel yes we are deff timing over fertile days so I know we're not missing it. We're trying everything we can! It's frustrating.

Tbh thought the first monthwe weren't actually trying to conceive as it was straight after mc. I was waiting on my period after the mc an we had unprotected sex a couple of times. But I wasn't tracking at all & my period showed up after 6 weeks as I expected it to. So if I discount that one, we're now starting the 6th attempt at ttc. So 5 failed attempts. Hoping it will happen very soon!

Deff think my blighted ovum messed up my body too. I got to 13 weeks before it realised and so maybe my bodies just needed more time.

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jinglebellmel · 08/04/2017 20:43

Yes, I took much longer than I expected to get back to my normal, predictable cycle - I was desperately trying right from the start but I think things were probably so out of balance in the first few months that it was never going to happen. You will get there, dh sperm is obviously all good, you're ovulating, I think probably the rest is just down to chance unfortunately. The trying after the miscarriages was a very low time for me, try to be kind to yourself and keep hope. I researched vitamins and things to help, they probably didn't to be honest, but it made me feel like I was doing something. I hope it happens for you very soon.

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Anna2006 · 08/04/2017 23:27

Yes I agree we try and be proactive as much as we can in hope that maybe it helps. It's unlikely it does but at least it makes us feel better.

Quite a varied response in length of time. Reassuring that it does all vary and we just need to keep going and try to stay calm.

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orangejumper · 09/04/2017 15:52

It took us 8 months after a very early miscarriage (though possibly there were 'chemical pregnancies' in that time), but it was about 12 cycles because my body went into a bit of hyperdrive. When my cycle settled down we conceived again. I'm 33 weeks now. I'm sure it will happen for you, and good luck.

Backhometothenorth · 09/04/2017 15:59

6 months and 8 months after two mmc's. We were at the point where we had given up hope but now have two beautiful daughters. Really hard to keep trying so sending genuine best wishes to you

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Anna2006 · 09/04/2017 17:23

Thank you all?

Did everyone periods return to normal after mc or were they altered in anyway.

I used to have what I call a normal period. Starts off heavy and then tapers off which used to last 4-5 days. Since the mc my first period was very heavy an now I seem to only have a period that lasts 3 days tbh.

Day 1-2 is fairly heavy. Needing to use super tampons and change every 4 hours. Day 3 goes suddenly quite light only needing light tampons. An then I get spotting for couple days an that's it. Hoping this can still be normal and doesn't mean my lining isn't adequate etc.

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jld128 · 09/04/2017 18:21

i had a miscarriage in june last year and fell pregnant again in October

jinglebellmel · 10/04/2017 20:39

Mine were longer and heavier for a couple of months, I also had spotting in between and things just weren't the same. It took a while for everything to settle back down.

champagneplanet · 10/04/2017 20:50

Sorry for your loss
After my first miscarriage (at 12 weeks) it took about four months, for the first two months I wouldn't say we really tried. I unfortunately miscarried that one too.

The next time I think it was about a year, that was on off on off trying, I tried not to get too hung up on it. I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant so luckily this one was a sticky one.

Happyhippy45 · 10/04/2017 21:03

So sorry for your loss.
I gave birth to dd, then fell pregnant about 18 months later. I miscarried at about 4 1/2 months. Fell pregnant within a few months (2-3) and gave birth to Ds. GP had recommended I wait for longer than that before trying to conceive but it just kind of "happened." This was back in the 90s.

CoffeeCoffeeAndLotsOfIt · 10/04/2017 21:41

Ds it took me 2 cycles

Mmc took 2 cycles

Dd (conceived after mmc) took 10 cycles.

Best of luck OP

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