Staying posifrickentive- Thread 15 for ladies pg after mc

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Hya ladies, hope you find this!
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Only if you want too, Purple. You can also formula feed. Your gorgeous little boy will be fine so so do what is best for you xx

Aw thanks whatser. I am getting myself into a bit of a tiZzy over it all.

Don't stress purple, you're doing great. If you can get to a support group that will help. It's nice to chat to other mums going through the same troubles.

If midwife is happy I would be really encouraged and know that you are doing really well despite the tongue tie.

It's still really early days and hopefully things will get easier but if they don't and it's too much then don't beat yourself up if you need to stop, your health and happiness is just as important as baby's.
I want to encourage you as much as possible but don't want to be pushy!

Oh and don't worry about the naming either - it took us (me) almost 2 weeks to name DD!

Really do not stress. I know it seems like the biggest deal now but, and this is a promise, it makes no difference at all how you feed in the long run. I beat myself up when bf failed with dd1 but she is the healthiest, most brilliant kid you could ever wish to meet. She is very bright, placing top of her year group in a standardised test earlier this year despite being one of the youngest. I'm bfing dd2 because I wanted too, but if I ran into problems again I wouldn't hesitate to use formula and do so without any guilt. There is so much more to parenting. The early days are the most challenging but so precious. Enjoy your little boy. It's been a tough challenge for us to get here, do not let things beyond your control make this stressful for you. Whatever you decide will be right and your little one is perfect x

Hi, I'm new here. Just found out I'm pregnant (5 wks) after 3 miscarriages. 2mmc and 1 natural. I'm trying so hard to stay positive. Taking steriods and progesterone pessaries. I'd love to hear some success stories to help me stay positive until my scan in a couple of weeks xx

Congratulations liz and fingers crossed for you. So sorry you had to go through all that.

I'm at 5+4 and currently stressing... lost my last one at 6w and the symptoms I had last week have faded (except the huge sore boobs) so feeling very worried.

However, trying to stay positive and remember the mantra that 'today I am pregnant'...

Congratulations liz sorry you've been through so much, fingers crossed for you.

Ginger my symptoms come and go too. I'll get up in the morning a lot of the times and feel fine only for it to hit me later on in the day. Keep breathing and keep telling yourself you're pregnant like you said.

I've felt like dog poo the last two days. Yesterday I had to go back to bed as I felt weird. A bit sick but more like I had this floaty feeling and couldn't stay upright for any longer then the nausea really hit me later on. Today I feel drained, sick and my lower abdomen feels bruised. I've got a massive case of fire boob, dd2 bashed me straight in the tit when I was doing her hair. I could have cried!
Back to work this afternoon after my lovely week off, don't want to go back 😭

Have a good day all...

Hello ladies, welcome to all the newcomers. Got everything crossed for all of you, try to focus on the here and now.

Anyway, I just wanted to check in and reaffirm the mantra - today, I am pregnant.

Thanks Amy... I'm just freaking out a bit as I haven't had any nausea or exhaustion since Thursday... trying to convince myself that they weren't really there properly in the first place as I wasn't even five weeks then. Not doing so well on that front but I'll keep trying!

Off on leave until next Tuesday after today so desperately trying to just put one foot in front of the other until I can go home at 16:00. That and put on a brave face to the world as solid meetings and all I want to do is eat chocolate.

Just got back from 20 week scan this morning. Baby all present and correct.

Didn't get very good photos, so have added the best of a bad bunch.

I was very worried they would gind something wrong so am very glad it went well. Bizarrely not that reassured that it won't wnd horribly but trying to take one day at a time and celebrate today's win !

Lovely scan pic i'mgonna. Did you find out the sex or are you going for a surprise?

to all those in early pregnancy. I agree with whoever said denial and distraction is the way forward. It helped me stay sane.

purple your little boy is gorgeous. I hope the feeding issues are getting easier. I've got nothing to add to the great advice that has already been given but make sure you take care of yourself too and I found pure lanolin nipple cream an absolute lifesaver in early days.

alb I hope that coming off the medication sorts out the problem and that you and baby are ding well today.

I've hit yet another bump in the road. MW appointment on Saturday and baby hasn't grown at all for 4 weeks so is now 6weeks behind. I'm having an extra scan this week and really hoping he's just in a word position but I made the mistake of googling low-growth and I'm getting a bit more stressed about what could be going on.

Oh purple you sound exactly like I did with my DS! He had a tongue tie and it wasn't spotted properly until he was about a week old. He couldn't latch and was getting very stressed out and frustrated. My nipples were agony, bleeding and I still have the scars! The problem for me was because he couldn't get his tongue over is bottom gum it was like razor blades digging into my nipple. Definitely push as much as you can to get the tongue tie fixed as quickly as possible. DS's was only very slight but it made an immediate difference to his latch and once it was sorted I breastfed until he was just over a year old!

While I was waiting for the tongue tie appointment I expressed a lot to give my nipples a break and breastfed him when I felt I could take the pain. It was absolute agony but I persevered. I used the tommee tippee bottles as the medela (I had the medela swing) he couldn't get anything out of.

Also he's only 4 days old and I think it was about then that my milk finally came in. I was topping him up with formula from a cup at that stage as he seemed so hungry and just wouldn't latch. It won't hurt him and if you keep expressing then your supply will continue to increase.

I really hope you get his tongue tie sorted asap as I expect that will solve all your problems. It's horrendous, and so awful to see your baby go through it, but it's over very quickly. They don't use anaesthetic as it would be more stressful and painful for them to have the injection than it is to just snip his tongue tie. Then they gave me a private room to feed him and he latched perfectly straight away, he knew what he needed to do and was fine, tears stopped within minutes. He still has a very slight heart shape to his tongue, but no problems now

I say, I think he was about a week old when a new midwife saw him and agreed that it needed to be looked at. And it only took a week to get him seen by a consultant who did the procedure there and then. Good luck and feel free to PM me if you want to

Hi Liz, congratulations on your BFP. I hope this one works out for you, it sounds like you've been through a lot.

Grain! How are you? I was thinking you hadn't checked in for a while. Any news in the 3 mini grains?

Hope you're getting on ok Purple. I can't offer any more advice than others have. I mixed fed dd from about day 2 (she was too exhausted to boobfeed so we had to get formula top ups in to her to get us going while I expressed) until she was 6 months. It was the right thing for us and I'm sure you'll figure out the right thing for you and your baby boy, whatever it is.

Sorry you're feeling rough Amy.

We are still with my DPs until tomorrow morning and then leaving early so I can make a conference call at 12.30 . I've napped a lot the last few days and didn't get up until 8 today but still tired! 13 weeks today so hoping the tiredness will start to lesson soon, think it was about 14 weeks with dd when I noticed a difference. I had grand plans of going in to Leeds today and doing some shopping at Seraphine but am mooching around the house instead and hoping DPs occupy DD while my DD is out at a meeting.

That's a lovely pic ImGonna. Glad it all went well.

Good luck for the scan this week Ants.

Beautiful picture I'mGonna.

Sorry to hear that Ants - it's so hard to stay off Dr Google isn't it? Bloody addiction. Fingers crossed for you that it all works out well and the baby is just being a bugger.

I've had my first waves of nausea today, I am 5 weeks tomorrow. I also have a million spots.

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How far along are you? I was 9weeks yesterday and all of a sudden my tits have zits. Plus I was poleaxed with nausea all day.

I welcome my tit zits as I had them at 9w bang on with DD and I didn't get them last time.

So it seems wrong to go into details on this thread say but after lots of discussion and soul searching 3 little grains are now one. This includes itself increases risk of miscarriage a lot, but decreases the risk of very preterm delivery a lot, so it was the right decision for our family. So I'm in real hypervigilance mode, overanalysing every sensation below my belly button. Bottom line is, today I am pregnant and I need to hold onto that otherwise I will go mad!

@TheLegendOfBeans I am 5 weeks tomorrow according to all the apps, but think they base everything on a 28 day cycle even if you input different data. This doesn't add up to me, i think it's out by a good few days and I'm closer to 6 weeks.

Oh Grain good luck everything crossed for your little grain.

I've just come back from getting my whooping cough injection was told off at my 28week check for not having had it by then. I feel like a pin cushion, they took bloods at 12 weeks, gtt at 24 weeks, more bloods at 28 weeks and whooping cough jab now. I have a needle phobia so passed out at a couple of appointments. I'm such a wimp.

Congratulations on your bfp liz
Hope you find this thread helpful.
I'm 10 weeks today, feeling a lot of sharp growing pains... nausea & sickness also made a re appearance after disappearing almost completely
It's so amazing reading about your baby's development, it's my first child and I'm just on awe everytime I read updates every week!

cookie hopefully it'll be my third and it still completely blows my mind. it's so incredible what our bodies can do. I mean making an actual human. It's nuts.

I am i think 6 weeks tomorrow, well i'm going by that anyway, and i have like a flu like ache but no flu symptoms. Anyone else got this - it's making working really hard. I work from home, but the thought of the sofa is calling to me but i have far too much to do.

Grain I'm sorry if I pried. I feel insensitive for putting you on the spot. I can't imagine how tough a decision that was. I hope little grain is a safe and successful pregnancy for you.

say not at all, I needed to say it to stay on the thread which I would like to do.

grain you sound very brave, what a decision for you. I really hope that little grain is a success and goes on to a healthy pregnancy. It's amazing what we all go through hey?!