Pregnancy After Infertility IV

[Blueroses99]

Pregnancy after infertility or fertility treatment can be a scary place, from scanxiety to unexplained bleeding to other random symptoms.

We are a supportive group of women across all stages of pregnancy who are used to being on the wrong side of the odds and still can't believe it's really happening.

Previous thread here:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2755564-Pregnancy-after-infertility-III

Loving the rotisserie chicken comparison Sara I'm the same, 22+1 and just cannot get comfortable! I can still sleep on my front comfortably but worry it will squish the baby so spend the night wriggling around. Poor DH!

Blondes so good to hear you and bubs are doing well.

Sara I have an anterior placenta too, I think it makes it harder to feel movement, only when she kicks the sides. Also harder with Doppler, some midwives find her straight away and other listen to several minutes of placenta before finding a heartbeat. Happy birthday and have a wonderful weekend

I'm seeing the consultant tomorrow. I will find out whether the situation has improved, stayed the same or (gulp) worsened. 12 more days to viability...

Trixie glad I'm not the only one not feeling full of energy, I'm finding I'm really having to pace myself. Hope the back pain has improved

MPP hope everything is ok

Blondes sounds like you're very organised with the feeds

Sara happy birthday hope you have a lovely break. I know what you mean about rotating, I try to sleep on my left but always end up on my right and rolling over with my body pillow is a bit of a performance!

Blueroses good luck for today

Custard hope you get some energy back soon but if not maybe take it as a sign that you need to rest!

I'm just back from my consultant appointment. The cervix is now closed, which is great, but it has shortened to 8mm, which is really short. The best news is that the fetal fibronectin which indicates likelihood of going into premature labour has reduced from 155 to 58 (I should be 30-40 so heading in the right direction!). So I'm still in the danger zone overall but things aren't quite as bleak as they were looking last week. I just need to rest and hope baby stays put for a bit longer.

Blueroses I'm getting better at listening to my body and resting when I need to. Really glad you've had mostly positive news today, hopefully baby will stay put for a bit longer.

Blueroses so glad to hear things looking more positive.

Had scan today, mostly ok, measured 6wks 6days but am 7+1 so going back in two weeks for another scan.

Hello all!

Apologies for not updating you all sooner. Its been a rough week but we are out the other side!

I managed to stay out of hospital until Sunday night when I had to go in ready for my section monday morning. Had a short wait Monday due to an emergency section that needed to go first, but by 11.30 I was on my way to theatre. My son was born at 12.27 weighing a whopping 10lb 1.5oz but even though he was breathing, he wasnt getting enough oxygen as his lungs were a bit immature so they rushed him straight up to SCBU. My DH was able to see him for two minutes and take a quick pic to show me but I didnt get to see him until 5pm when they wheeled my bed up, by which time he was in an incubator and hooked up to wires and tubes. It was terrifying. He actually recovered from the oxygen issue fairly quickly but when they started to feed him, his stomach got distended and they thought he might have an infection. Tuesday and Wednesday he was nil by mouth, and had antobiotics and fluids via drip. He was stable but no one wanted to give us an idea of how long he'd be in. On Thursday they tried feeding him small amounts again and he's come on in leaps and bounds since then. Friday (yesterday) he was taken out of the incubator and off his drip, and they allowed us to dress him, then we went up to feed him at 5pm and were told that if he drank all his milk, he could come down to the ward with me! We'd been expecting at least a few more days in SCBU, so it was quite a shock! So, he came onto the ward with me last night, and this morning we were released! Its been a total rollercoaster, and seeing some of the tiny babies in the special care unit, I cant imagine how their parents manage when they're in there for so long. It must be heartbreaking. Just the last five days have been so hard, and I dont think I've ever cried so much in such a short space of time. But we're home, and my boy is gorgeous! I've had a quick read back, and I'd just like to say thank you all for thinking of me over the last week, and for all the support you've given me over the last 9(ish) months. You've all been fab, and I'll be following the rest of your journeys from afar, even if I dont post as much.

Blueroses I am pleased to see that things are looking a bit more positive. I'm thinking of you and have everything crossed that baby stays put for longer!

Friends how are you doing?

Blondes Glad all is going well with you.

Everyone else... I'll keep an eye out for your updates!

Wow MPP what an ordeal you have had. So pleased your gorgeous boy is a little fighter and home already! I cannot imagine how that must have felt for you and DH. It's wonderful that you're home already as a family. Please keep us updated on how it is being a new mummy and I hope your recovery from the section is speedy.
blue I am glad to see you have received some good news. Thank God something was able to be done last week to help you get to this point. I am keeping my fingers crossed that your FF levels continue to fall and everything stays steady for you. You must just want all this worry to go away. Keep up the resting and take it very easy.
madgwick hope the next scan goes well, they are such nerve wracking appointments.
Hope you had a fantastic birthday sara
It really is amazing reading back over everyone's journey to get to this point. There must be so many people who have read our posts and feel truly inspired by them.

Hope you are all doing well and getting to enjoy pregnancy.

AFM I am wondering if I can use my pregnancy pillow for the rest of my life, it's done wonders for my sleep, back and my poor DH's sleep too! I am 28 weeks and just have the typical complaints for now, sore back, huge boobs, bit emosh and getting slower at everything. None of it bothers me though, after being so down and desperate last year.

Huge congratulations MPP! You have had such a rough couple of months- so glad that you are now home and able to enjoy your little one. You must be over the moon.

Friends How are you doing? Still holding in there?

Blue so pleased the stitch was a success and you are now feeling a tad more positive. It must be so so scary- we are all rooting for you!

Pebbles I'm 28+2 so we are very close! The emotions are crazy aren't they- I cried when someone on TV sang happy birthday last night Ridiculous! And I sobbed my heart out watching Beauty and the Beast! (And the car journey all the way home )

AFM- I had my GTT last week which was all fine and have been certified fit to fly for our babymoon! We leave this eve for 2 weeks of relaxation in the Canary Islands.... cannot wait!

Mpp. Congrats 💙💙💙 and what a weight !!! Well done - sorry for the extreme start in his life but hope you can now relax and be a family

Blue. Fab you are heading in right direction with numbers tho again still scary how short cervix is but it is closed and continue with bed rest 💐🍰💐

My pump is good but one slight hitch. Has to be plugged into USB cable 🙄 Tho we have those in kitchen - but I just plug into laptop. Will try and find a link

I'm expressing slightly less now but madam is gaining weight well - back to birth weight and over 😇😇 and been signed off hv and mw

Madgewick there's mm of difference at this stage so it's hard to be accurate. It's good that you're booked in for another scan though.

MPP congratulations on your little boy, but I can imagine it was a scary few days - so glad you got through it!

Pebbles sounds like a wonder pillow! I'm sure you can find excuses to hang onto it.

Rosebud have a lovely relaxing holiday.

Blondes so pleased you and little one are doing well (is she blonde too?!)

No real news from me. Starting to struggle a bit from my confinement and stress and anxiety but just trying to be patient. Miss Blue has some fierce kicks when she's in the right position, I've been videoing my belly move 😂

Hi guys. ( I wrote a post but clearly it didn't send so this will be a long one)

Blondes: Huge congratulations on the birth of your little girl. Sorry it was so stressful but I bet it's all just a distant memory now you're holding her. I'm getting so anxious about breastfeeding, I'm nervous I'm not going to be able to do it. How did you find it?

MPP, Huge congratulations on your baby boy! He was a good weight hey ;). So that was 37 weeks? I'm sorry about all the complications, it must of been so scary. I bet it was really hard watching that unfold and not being able to be with him. Did you have Steroids too? I'm really glad he's at home now and doing well.

Blueroses. I'm really glad it went well for you. Fingers crossed things continue to improve and you make it a lot further then the magic 24 weeks. How long is it until then now? I know what you mean about the confinement, it started to depress me too! It sounds like baby blue is showing you what a fighter she is! Keep staying strong!

Pebbles, I'm really emotional! I cried yesterday because I don't think i've made enough notes about "what to do" I'm a serious control freak and think my notes should have notes. Poor Hubby!

Hi Rosebud.
Hope you're doing well. Hope you have a fantastic holiday. Great news on the GTT by the way, doughnuts all around ;).

Happy belated birthday Sara, Hope you had a lovely day.

AFM, I've been in & out of the hospital again, mainly because they've been over cautious with me and they've taken no chances. (Which i'm really glad about) I'm now 34.5 weeks, I had a scan 5 days ago and he's doing well, currently weighing about 5.5lbs.I've got an appointment on Wednesday to be booked in to be induced, they won't let me go past 36 weeks. I'm so scared! I know 36 weeks is really good on the scheme of things but I just have this desire to continue to cook him.

TBH friends it is hard to begin with. Make sure you have latch right and milk took a while to come in due to severe blood loss. I don't think she has tons as boobs aren't over flowing but then I don't feed at every feed

But always wanted to mix feed so dad can help. And no baby is dark. Like daddy. A miniature daddy she is

Friends you've come so far and done so well with Baby Friends getting to where you are. Good luck for Wednesday xx

Good news that your cervix is closed and your fetal fibronectin has reduced so much Blueroses I'm not surprised you are struggling, you are on the home straight to viability now though and fingers crossed baby stays put for a lot longer. I also video bump movement Forget TV, if I feel any movement DH and I will sit watching my bump waiting to see if she'llmove more. She especially likes to kick when I get into bed so think I have a little night owl on my hands.

Happy belated birthday Sara hope you have a lovely relaxing break.

Happy one week birthday to baby MPP! Congratulations on the birth of your little boy. Sorry to hear you had such a tough week but so happy to hear that you are home now and all is well. It's so lovely reading the birth announcement posts but especially from a fellow 10 plusser.

Hope you're managing to take it easy Custard

Enjoy your babymoon Rosebud 2 weeks in the Canary Islands sounds fab!

Good luck for Wednesday Friends like you say, 36 weeks is really good.

I think baby must be laying on my bladder at times, some days I am in and out of the loo constantly. Have done a sample at my GPs twice in the last two weeks but comes back clear.
It's my anomaly scan this afternoon. Excited to see baby but nervous of them findinga problem - eek!

Enjoy your holiday rosebud not jealous at all I'll let you off, as it's safe to say you've been waiting a long time to babymoon!
blue I have the dreamgennie pillow, it is great. Get DH to treat you, even without backache it helps position you and bump nicely.
Wow friends Wednesday will be here v.soon. You must be so nervous now. Just think about having your baby here very soon. Will be thinking of you on Wed.
trixie your scan will be fine, it would be weird not to have scaniexty!

Glad to see I am not the only emotional one here, I suppose it's only natural. We'll miss being able to cry for no reason

MPP congratulations! Sorry your little boy had a rough start it must have been awful to see him like that, so glad you're both home now

Madgwick I think I was told at my first scan that +/- 3 days was ok at that stage, hopefully your next scan will reassure you

Pebbles I'm not sure I'll be able to give up my pillow either!

Hope you have a good holiday RoseBud

Blueroses the confinement must be hard work, the fierce kicks are lovely though aren't they? It's only been in the last few days that DH has felt what he recognises as a kick as opposed to gentle movements which he wasn't 100% sure he could feel.

Friends glad to hear you're being well looked after, you've done so well to get this far, good luck on Wednesday

Trixie hope the scan went ok today

Morning everyone!

Thank you for the congrats. Baby MPP is settling in at home nicely, and we are all adjusting to our new life together. Its awesome! :-)

Pebbles My recovery so far has been awesome (touch wood) and I'm feeling pretty good overall. I loved my pregnancy pillow too, though its a different make to yours. I've gotten away with continuing to use it for a few days since I've been home on the basis that I had a section, but last night it was finally relegated to the floor and DH breathed a sigh of relief that he had more space in the bed. Plus, it was nice to cuddle up to him without one of the 'legs' between us for the first time since Christmas!

Rosebud Great news about the GTT and being fit to fly. I hope you have an amazing babymoon and come back all relaxed! Have a good time!

Blondes Wow, a breast pump with a usb cord! I'm intrigued. I'm using a manual pump atm and trying to decide whether to invest in an electric one or not.

Blue You are doing so amazingly well, and its no wonder you're getting anxious. I am thinking of you xx

Friends Yes, he was a bouncer! He's lost almost a pound in the last week though, as he was nil by mouth for a few days, and apparently they lose some weight after birth anyway, so we've been told to try and increase his feeds a little to get his weight back up. It was horrible when he was in SCBU and crying when they pricked his heels etc and I couldnt comfort him. That was one of the hardest parts I think. I did have steroids at 33 weeks, so apparently they helped his lungs too. Good luck with your appointment on wednesday. 36 weeks is good. When they changed me to 37 from 38 they said they were balancing the risks of early delivery with the risks of staying in when they didnt know what was going wrong so I assume thats a similar scenario to yours? I'm sure baby will be fine, but can understand your fear. I'll be thinking of you.

Trixie I hope the scan went ok yesterday. Did you find out what you are having?

Hope everyone else is ok xx

Anomaly scan went well, was amazing to see and feel kicks at the same time

MPP, we are having a little girl, had a private gender scan at 16 weeks (I'm impatient!) and was confirmed yesterday. It was funny cos we had the same sonographer as our 12 week scan and he'd said 70% boy then.

Great to see some good news on the thread and things going well.

I'm back in hospital I'm afraid. I came in with some brown discharge/blood (not unusual after stitch) but my fFN result is sky high so they are keeping me in for observation. Other test results are fine - cervix closed, no contractions etc so they believe fFN is a blip - it's not accurate during bleeding esp old blood. If it goes down after bleeding stops then they don't believe I'll go into labour imminently. Otherwise I may be transferred to hospital with larger neonatal facilities or be introduced to neonatal here. I'm 23+2 today... just 5 days from V day...

Sorry to hear you are back in hospital Blueroses hopefully reassuring that the fFN is not accurate during bleeding, keeping everything crossed that the bleeding stops soon and you get a nice low fFN result.

Trixie good news on your scan

Blueroses sorry to hear you're in hospital again, fingers crossed they are correct and the fFN results are a blip, hope the bleeding stops soon

I'm so sorry to hear your back in blue. Hopefully things improve. Not long until V day.

I'm being induced on Sunday. I feel really sad about it, I don't think I was expecting it that soon. ( I know your going through a lot worse Blue, so I'm sorry to moan )

SORRY you are back in blue. But it's the best place for you and baby blue

I hated being induced :( hurt lots but prob due to cervix being scarred and unusual shape due to cone biopsy

Hi blue - counting down the days with you. Sorry you gave all this to deal with. Hang on in there. Thinking of you.
Mpp- glad you're doing so well! Lovely to think of you and baby bonding. Well done!
Friends- thinking of you and getting through this weekend - is there an option of csection or do you have to be induced?
Just Trixie - glad scan was good anxious times! I felt same. And a girl! How wonderous.
Pebbles - I have been crazy emotional lately. Including weeping in sainsburys after trolley rammed into bump then couldn't find cucumbers.
AFM - can't feel anything - midwife says its cause placenta is anterior but I know others can still feel something. Need the reassurance. Waves to all.