When you thought it was a boy and turns out to be a girl!

[pinkcandyflossy]

So that's just it really.

Found out today I'm having a girl. We already have 2 girls. We really thought this one was a boy, since the kicks and movements have been really strong right from the get go. And in the first scan the skull and face looked more male than female. But no - another girl! I've gotten my head around it more now and DH says to just be happy the baby is perfectly healthy and I am grateful for that, of course I am. But....a girl?!!!

Thank god we found out before the baby was born as I think that 'surprise' may have been a lot harder to take at that stage!

We hadn't even thought about girls' names....!

"My ds kicked much more than my dd. With her I was at the eadu twice a week for checks as she wasn't moving much. I know from my nct group that those carrying boys felt movement much earlier and stronger. What exactly is the problem with that?"

The problem with that is that it's "anecdata" and its complete nonsense. I'm pregnant with a boy and started feeling him kick very late. Does that make him girly or something?! (Clue: of course it doesn't)

I know from my nct group that those carrying boys felt movement much earlier and stronger

Your experience = an anecdote. Your NCT group members' experiences put together = anecdotes.

Establishing a correlation between factor X (sex of a fetus) and feature Y (higher strength) cannot be made based on anecdotes. It requires data and massive amounts of it usually if we are dealing with these kinds of corelations.

Scientists deal with biology, at the level of large volumes of data. That data does not show that a fetus having male genitals has greater strength than a fetus having female genitals.

Your NCT group - why your entire friendship groups' experiences being the other way does not equate evidence that penis-owning fetuses kick stronger than vagina-owning fetuses.

What you are doing though by saying these things is -

(1) Confusing individual anecdotes (plural) to be evidence
(2) Presenting 'evidence' which is simply sexist (One might say then - of all my 5 friends the ones who are white have children who are geniuses and the ones who are black seem to have children who are quite weak. That could be factually correct for 5 specific people - but if we said from there that "White students are stronger than black students" - I am sure you see how incorrect that statement is scientifically - and that it seeks to establish a racist claim. If someone then piped up and said "hey what's wrong with that sentence - in my NCT group - that's exactly what happened" - well that's what you are saying.

Just apropos of Jaago's awesome post: I'm pregnant with DD2. She's kicking WAY more than DS did. Does that also prove the old adage that boys are lazy?

Nope.

I would try to think positive, if baby is healthy is the best result. I have dd and ds and now pregnant with dd.
When pregnant with first dd we always wished for ds, we found she is a girl but always knew we wanted a boy also. So got pregnant again. Dream come true, it is a boy. He came out, once he started to become mobile it turned into a nightmare, as one of 3 girls, I was not prepared for a crazy, risk taking absolute nutcase of a boy. It was such stress at times as I always always feared for his life until he turned 3 and became slightly more logical. I was so relieved to find out that 3rd one is dd. Just wait though she will be a crazy dd.
Children are blessings of any kind really, just take it as a gift :-)

So you don't think parents of all girls and parents of all boys have ANY different experiences? Really? Of course they do!

California why would it make a difference to the way you parent? I'm genuinely interested.

How one could be a 'parent of boys', a 'parent of girls' or 'not understand what to do with a boy' etc makes no sense to me.

All parents have different experiences due to having to parent individual children with their own personalities.

Forehead and chin shape....really. must be in conjunction with the strong kicks....a doubt a sonograoher would actually say that about their head and chin, imagine if they said that and it indicated a boy then scanned the baby's bits and said it's a girl.....think you'd be more than a little annoyed

Posted by a mother of a son

I have 3 girls, all very close in age.

I absolutely love it, in fact if we had anymore, I'd probably wish for another girl!

It's just so easy having all of the same sex, they like similar things, share toys & clothes etc.

They are referred to by all as 'the girls'