When you thought it was a boy and turns out to be a girl!

[pinkcandyflossy]

So that's just it really.

Found out today I'm having a girl. We already have 2 girls. We really thought this one was a boy, since the kicks and movements have been really strong right from the get go. And in the first scan the skull and face looked more male than female. But no - another girl! I've gotten my head around it more now and DH says to just be happy the baby is perfectly healthy and I am grateful for that, of course I am. But....a girl?!!!

Thank god we found out before the baby was born as I think that 'surprise' may have been a lot harder to take at that stage!

We hadn't even thought about girls' names....!

purple I thought how sweet it would be to have a mini dh when my son was born. Turns out he's a mini me and looks nothing like DH! haha

I mean at this rate they're just going to catch the gay, right?

Mine isn't a strong kicker in utero, so I think he'll be born with the gay. He's already inherited some clothes and toys from a friend's daughter though - including pink muslins - so I suppose it's for the best.

All this gender stereotyping bollocks makes me want to weep.

Well OP the very first comment for a start. And there's 'poor me' sat here with 3 boys

To be fair, I read the OP as being disappointed to be having another girl?

Choccyhobnob yes! you expect one thing and get another. But that's all part of the fun I think. Watching them grow and identifying little aspects of yourself or your dp. But my dd is a mini me of dh not just in looks but in personality, annoying traits as well. Neither of them ever look at the table when they're putting a cup or a plate down and frequently we end up with them on the floor. They never look at their feet or where they're walking and we're forever cleaning off dog poo from their shoes. I find it so strange that it's almost genetic.

at this rate they're just going to catch the gay, right?
Oh my, my bitter lemon drink came out of my nose with this one.

namechange I see, it was a compliment!

Lauging out loud here and DH looks puzzled. I said "catch the gay" and he looks concerned.

Mine isn't a strong kicker in utero, so I think he'll be born with the gay. ahhhh
Cheering me up today

Bluebell, it's probably why I'm overdue. He's too weak and feminine to barge his way out. Probably doesn't have a sense of direction either, because of the pink muslins.

ravioli did you not drink Stella and watch match of the day through your pregnancy? If you didn't your boy has probably caught gay through the placenta. That's child abuse you know.

I just don't get the uproar.

Everyone with at least one girl and one boy knows that there are, in many case (in fact vast majority) very very real differences between girls and boys. Why is that something so abhorrent to accept by some people??

Oh, Diana! I didn't know! Because of horrific reflux, I've been drinking raspberry milkshakes. WHAT HAVE I DONE?! WHAT WILL BECOME OF HIM?!

"But a girl?!!!" Just be happy for a healthy baby! I don't understand how you can be disappointed because you didn't get the sex you wanted...get a grip and focus on getting excited to welcome a new addition into the family.

It's insulting and shitty to make jokes about 'catching the gay' even if your intention is sarcasm and to indicate that your are ok and cool with people being gay. Not a single person even slightly suggested it might be in the back of their minds. Which is the way it should be. Not even 'a thing'. So therefore, not even something to make sarcastic jokes about. You've drawn attention to yourselves by doing it. Not the gender stereotyping that is the actual topic of this discussion.

Blinkyblink - agreed, I don't know why people are getting so offended and so offensive. Girls and boys do tend to be different. There are exceptions, which of course should be celebrated, but a general observation is that they are different.

Back to the original point- I think I read somewhere that whatever gender your first child is you still have a 50/50 chance with the next one. However if you have two of the same gender your odds of a third the same goes up to something like 75%. I have no idea why or where I read this, but it always sticks in my head.

I have 2 DSs and they are like chalk and cheese. I'm not sure exactly what to attribute this to as they are the same sex?

FellOutOfBed2wice nope biologically that's bollocks. 50/50 with every baby. Think it though logically!

A mother of sons type! I've heard it all!!! How would you know unless you had a son. I have 1 girl and 2 boys and pregnant my kids are lovely all of them, my boys are so loving and handsome and I'm very proud of my kids. That's possibly the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard

People on Mumsnet are fucking bonkers I swear. Can't believe women took offence for the "mother of boys" remark. What exactly is wrong with that?
And why exactly does one need to boast for using pink glitter with boys? Does that make me a lesser parent if mine play football and don't use pink glitter? Should I take offence maybe?

My ds kicked much more than my dd. With her I was at the eadu twice a week for checks as she wasn't moving much. I know from my nct group that those carrying boys felt movement much earlier and stronger. What exactly is the problem with that?

News flash: boys and girls are different! The horror!

Ready to get bollocked for using the word "women"

Not a single person even slightly suggested it might be in the back of their minds.
You are very naive

Can't believe women took offence for the "mother of boys" remark. What exactly is wrong with that?

That you raise people, not girls or boys

Because there's no such thing as being a mother of boys or girls. You are just a mother. Why would it make you a different mother?!

Am I going to grow a penis eventually or something?

The mother of sons thing isn't offensive but it's bloody bonkers! How does that work when you have one gender and then 3, 5, 7 years down the line have a child of a different gender? Did I suddenly change overnight because #2 was female?