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When you thought it was a boy and turns out to be a girl!

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pinkcandyflossy · 07/02/2017 18:12

So that's just it really.

Found out today I'm having a girl. We already have 2 girls. We really thought this one was a boy, since the kicks and movements have been really strong right from the get go. And in the first scan the skull and face looked more male than female. But no - another girl! I've gotten my head around it more now and DH says to just be happy the baby is perfectly healthy and I am grateful for that, of course I am. But....a girl?!!!

Thank god we found out before the baby was born as I think that 'surprise' may have been a lot harder to take at that stage!

We hadn't even thought about girls' names....!

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haveacupoftea · 08/02/2017 21:45

You can convince yourself of any scenario you like, doesn't make it true.

Californiasoul · 08/02/2017 23:17

I just don't know what to do with little boys. No doubt I would've learnt and adored them. Was just saying that coming from a family of girls (2 big sisters) and loads of girl cousins, I felt I was in known territory with girls.

Californiasoul · 08/02/2017 23:20

I'm also not remotely sporty (yes I know both sexes enjoy sports) and that some little boys hate football etc but I feel there's a stronger possibility of having to stand round in the freezing, pissing rain watching sons kicking a ball about than a daughter. A cliche maybe but cliches are such for a reason.

rainingkitsandpups · 09/02/2017 04:09

Well OP the very first comment for a start. And there's 'poor me' sat here with 3 boys.

Luckily I'm the "type" i guess. Ie human and female.

UsedToBeAPaxmanFan · 09/02/2017 04:55

The "mother of sons type" comment is offensive because of the stereotypes it alludes to - boys are sporty, girls like pink etc etc. It isn't just offensive to mothers of boys, it's offensive to everyone, because it reinforces gender stereotypes.

As for the comment about thinking a foetus has a pens because it kicks strongly......

Jaagojaago · 09/02/2017 06:07

That comment about penis owning fetus kicking stronger - is such fucked up sexist shite.

mellongoose · 09/02/2017 06:17

Paxman you are jumping to a conclusion there. Sporty etc? No mention.

I'm the youngest of three girls. I think my mum was relieved to see another girl. I think my dad would have loved a boy but it never changed the way they both loved me and parented me.

I have had the usual ups and downs with my big sisters but we have all been a huge support for each other. We are friends

Californiasoul · 09/02/2017 07:28

You do realise gender stereotypes came about because there are often differences in the behaviour of the sexes? For every boy who likes dolls and dress up there are a lot more who prefer football?

OneLumpOrSeven · 09/02/2017 07:48

Paxman you are jumping to a conclusion there. Sporty etc?

Except the poster came back to say 'I'm also not remotely sporty (yes I know both sexes enjoy sports) and that some little boys hate football etc but I feel there's a stronger possibility of having to stand round in the freezing, pissing rain watching sons kicking a ball about than a daughter'

You wouldn't know what to do with a boy Californiasoul? How about stop putting children into little boxes.

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 07:59

We really thought this one was a boy, since the kicks and movements have been really strong right from the get go. And in the first scan the skull and face looked more male than female.
Well I am sure you wont be teaching your DDs that boys are strong and girls are weak
I have never thought of using 12 weeks scans to illustrate the differences in the skull of a male and a female, I use adult replica skulls and people find it challenging even then but maybe you have some sort of talent that science has yet to meet.

Californiasoul · 09/02/2017 08:00

I'm only speaking from my own life experiences. If I'd had a boy (as I said in a previous post) I'd have learnt how to mother a son. And I'd have adored him. My daughters after school football club has 3 girl members and all the rest are boys. Why is that? Possibly because boys are generally more interested I. Football, but not always.
I'm not putting my girls in boxes. They're free to do any activity they like. I haven't discouraged anything.

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:00

I just don't know what to do with little boys. Exactly the same as with little girls???

Let me grab a coffee and time travel back from the 1950s

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:03

California you havent encouraged either
It is not about NOT telling little girls that they can not be footballers. It is about telling them that they can be anything they want.
It is about encouraging all children to be amd achieve whatever they desire regardless of their gender.

Honestly wht do you think you have to treat them differently????

This is the kind of thinking that is doing so much wrong for equality. It hurts more coming from a woman

NameChange30 · 09/02/2017 08:06

"It hurts more coming from a woman"

Why? I think men and women have an equal responsibility to challenge gender stereotypes and inequality. Let's not fall into the usual trap of blaming women and not men!

OneLumpOrSeven · 09/02/2017 08:07

You'd have learnt to mother them? You mother them just as you would any other child!

Being a mother of a son is not hard! It's not a challenge, or a punishment.

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:08

And even the radiographher said you can tell a lot from the skull shape especially around the forehead and chin
Yes OP you can tell a lot. Like that you misheard or your radiographer needs to come to one of my forensic workshops. Did she/he also agree that the strength of the kicks indicated a strong case of XY?

What a pair

namechange20050 · 09/02/2017 08:08

There's so much stupid on this thread. Boys kick stronger in the womb?! Someone alert the BMA! What a load of sexist bollocks. And boy babies are pretty much the same as Girl babies; just really little people, until posters like california fill their heads with sexist drivel.

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:11

namechange I am not blaming women but this particular poster.
It hurts more simply becAuse as women we are exposed to all this bulls#%% daily. All the barriers that society puts in front of us and it hurts that there are people out there that dont see it.
Let me get my favourite scientist to explain:
m.youtube.com/watch?v=z7ihNLEDiuM

oleoleoleole · 09/02/2017 08:12

A shock to,you as you were obviously hoping for a boy, you can't tell by a first scan or kicks what the sex is going to be.

As long as you're baby is much loved and wanted and healthy that's what's important. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Girl power!

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:17

And yes to this " I think men and women have an equal responsibility to challenge gender stereotypes and inequality" completely agree which is seen more and more often and I love it

DumbledoresArmy · 09/02/2017 08:21

I didn't realise there was boy type mums.
Perhaps we're stronger coz we had boys lol

OneLumpOrSeven · 09/02/2017 08:23

But you are putting children in boxes by assuming that mothering a boy is something you have to learn. You have pre conceived ideas.

NapQueen · 09/02/2017 08:26

I have one of each and the only differences in them are down to personality not genitals. Apart from the nappies. Boy nappies are so difficult! The shit just sticks to the balls.

Literally the only area of child rearing I've noticed a difference.

Bluebellevergreen · 09/02/2017 08:29

Boy nappies are so difficult! The shit just sticks to the balls.
Are you serious? My boy is due anytime now. I've been warned about the wee coming out like a garden sprinkler but this????!

NameChange30 · 09/02/2017 08:32

Yep I'm having a boy soon too, poo on balls is not an exciting prospect

Having said that my friends with a girl say that the poo gets into all the folds of her vulva and even in her vagina... so at least with a boy it's all external, right?!

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