Staying posifrickentive- Thread 14 for ladies pg after mc

[LynseyH]

This is last time I'll be able to start up a new thread...so here we go ladies!!!

[Gingerbreadmam]

Thanks whatser lovely hearing about willow she sounds like a little treasure. Ahh it's the baby blues let them out.

alb that's tough but good that the scan was good and im assuming there will be no surprises at the anomally one. Do you attend a sands group? I imagine they would be a great support to you at the moment. If the consultant doesnt see a problem and i know it's difficult when they didn't pick it up the last time i would try and trust them.

[purpleviolet1]

Aw whatser that is great news that she is feeding well! She sounds like a content baby 😀

Each day that passes is hopefully a day closer to meeting our babies. Thinking of everyone on this thread xxx

[Gingerbreadmam]

Thanks purple.

I am in a right stress today, going on too long now so i have rang epu. The lady i spoke to was lovely. I was basically exploring my options should it be bad news monday as with my history i think thats whats stressing me.

We talked about what i could do, although she told me i have to stay positive. It does seem like they would push me for medical but i said.i would refuse it so we discussed how quick i could get in for erpc and then she said if i opted for mva i could likely have it the same day.

Been searching mn for peoples mva experiences and oliver popped up with a very informative post. This is seeming like a good option although im scared of the pain side of things but if gas and air is available i guess that would help? Tbh after all the invasive stuff i had with first mmc i think the thought of someone going inside me is scaring me more than anything so i think id need something to relax. How the flipping heck do they inject your cervix lol?

[AButterflyLightsBesideUs]

mike huge congratulations on your baby girl! Amazing how 7 weeks with a baby zooms past and 7 weeks of pregnancy drags on for about 3x as long!

whatser I am SO chuffed for you that the feeding is working out and Willow seems such a placid baby - long may it last!

40+2 today and no signs apart from grumpiness and 2 random contractions in the night . DD decided to muck around from 1.30am-4am this morning so I am feeling particularly knackered today, esp as I was awake from half midnight already with rib pain (baby's bum has bruised me horribly and it is agony to lie down with). I think today will be a nap /tv day! Tomorrow I am going to see if I can tolerate a sweep.

popcorn great news on your scan.

alb that is quite rubbish of them. I've also had experience of being promised things during the post late loss follow ups that didn't materialise. It's so hard because you cling so tightly to each check as a way of preserving sanity and keeping anxiety in check. I hope you have someone decent do your anomaly scan and no surprises come up. My top tip would be don't be brave, make sure your mw and consultant know how hard this all is and ask for what you need.

[oliversmummy26]

ginger I'm so sorry your spotting seems to have increased again That's good that the epu were helpful this time and talking you through your options.

I'm glad you found my post, I was searching for some before I had mine, and there don't seem to be too many experiences on mn. I honestly can't recommend the mva enough, and would absolutely do it again if I had to. The pain really isn't that bad and I didn't need the gas and air, it was uncomfortable at times, and the injection wasn't pleasant, but manageable. The worst bit is right at the end and the Dr did day that's the worst and you'll know then that it's almost over. It was really like very bad period pains more than anything else. Happy for you to PM me if you want to chat about it.

Having said all that, I am staying positive for you and really hoping that you won't need it, sending hugs x

[Gingerbreadmam]

Thanks oliver yes im surprised theres not much on here.

I may drop you a message if i have any questions. I was induced with my son so i should be able to handle the pain especially for a short period of time. Will see how things pan out.

[Edenslight]

Wow, this is a busy board! And lovely new babies to cheer us on, makes me smile!!

ginger sorry to hear about the spotting, but a dear friend of mine had a very heavy bleed at 7 weeks and had a beautiful healthy baby at the end so you really do never know. Good to hear you are getting some constructive help now though, fingers crossed for you that all goes well.

I feel fine today, insofar as there is no more pain, but there are also no symptoms. Have to try to stay sane/calm until next Tuesday when I will see consultant & have another scan. Keep telling myself there is nothing anyone can do anyway and if it goes wrong I will just have another D&C and not think about things. I cannot believe how cold & clinical I sound about this pregnancy, this is not me to my babies at all. I just hope if the next round is positive I can learn to relax a bit more. Oh the worry never ends..

[Gingerbreadmam]

eden i have been exactly the same as you. To me, a bfp is only the first hurdle. It's helped me tbh as in my first mmc emotionally i was a wreck whereas with this one i am just thinking logically.

I am getting red blood now. Not loads but lots of stringy stuff. No cramps still but im now in the predicament of staying at work or leaving. I dont know what to bloody do!

[MrsAlanPartridge]

ginger thinking of you and hoping you're OK.. I have also had an MVA for my last MMC. It was above and beyond the least traumatic experience, having had MCS that were complete and incomplete and ERPCs.
They put pessaries up my bottom and I had the procedure about half an hour later. It wasn't at all painful, just surreal and kind of uncomfortable and I was well looked after throughout. Was over fast and the bleeding was minimal afterwards, unlike when I've had ERPCs. This was 2 days before Christmas and I was able to enjoy the day itself relatively normally.
I'm still rooting for you that you donot have to make that decision, but please know I'm here if you would like support/ a chat/ rant

[Gingerbreadmam]

Thanks alan i appreciate that and glad to hear your experience wasnt too bad.

[purpleviolet1]

Leave work ginger. You may feel better being able to be in your own surroundings doing whatever you wish to go rather than putting on a smiley face for your colleagues. Wishing you all the best and so glad you phoned EPU. Xx

[Edenslight]

ginger if you have any distance at all to travel go home if you can. If it's nothing, happy days you can go back in tmrw. If it's more serious, work is not the place to have it happen. You need to put yourself first now.

[Gingerbreadmam]

Well i rang epu theyre still not concerned. I mentioned i was worried about being at work and she said she wouldnt go home lol. God knows. I think i probs will. Its just all my colleagues are going to want to know why i have left half way through the day especially if im not in tomorrow too!

It's not bad at the moment but definitely more red and definitely more bits. I cant decide if i have cramps or not. I would say not but i feel like i can feel something.

[theAntsareMyFriends]

ginger I'm really sorry to hear you are going through this. I hope you have a good outcome. Lots of people on here with bleeds that have gone on to have successful pregnancies and I hope you are one of them. If things do not work out for you I hope it is over quickly and as pain free as possible. Take care of yourself and just make up an excuse if you need to go home. I recommend claiming you have a dodgy tummy - no one ever wants any more information when diarrhoea might be involved.

[Gingerbreadmam]

Thanks ants its not really come as a shock i've not really felt pregnant at all. Just tired and very occasional nausea.

Just a shame when i have been using the aspirin and higher dose folic acid. That was to have a succesful pregnancy.

[oliversmummy26]

Oh ginger I'm so sorry you're not having a good day, try to remember "it's not over til it's over"...? I would try and go home if I were you, maybe even try and have the rest of the week off? If you're not well, you're not well, you don't have to produce physical signs of it for them..?

Just back from my booking in, mw has agreed that I should have an early scan to confirm dates, so she's referring me today and I should get a letter through the post which has put my mind at rest a bit and will save me £100!

[Gingerbreadmam]

Bonus about saving the £100 oliver.

Im giving it an hour. Keep nipping to loo. Nothing coming out on pad but definitely more red when i wipe but it's not bad so does seem a bit silly going home on the off chance? I finish at 4 and it's a half hour drive away. I might just stick it out unless anything changes.

Dont know whether to flag it up with line manager or now.

[ImGonnaSingTheDoomSongNow]

I would go home if I were you ginger but then I went home in floods of tears when my very light spotting started in work at 6 weeks with this pregnancy. I just left saying I wasn't feeling well and needed to go home.
You've got to go by how you feel though. Really hope it's just a scare and you'll see your happy heartbeat on Monday.

[Gingerbreadmam]

I feel ok at the moment. No cramps. In the toilet runs ive done, nothing coming out on pad only when i wipe. I'm leaving it for now.

Work with some ex mw's so debating popping my head in on one for some advice.

[Edenslight]

You know best what you can handle ginger and I admire how pragmatic you're being but you do need to look after yourself. Def talk to one of the others of you think they could help but bear in mind some peoples instinctive reaction is to expect the worst so they may freak you out more. Can you go to your clinic/hospital/GP at all to find out what the hell is actually going on. This is mental torture for you if nothing else.

Great news for you oliver hope scan goes well. When will it be? How far along are you again?

[Gingerbreadmam]

Tbh between now and monday theres not even time to do the hcg tests so i am best just waiting and seeing how it pans out.

My colleague is a bit old school but i think it might be a good thing tbh. She will probably be like what on earth are you doing here.

[oliversmummy26]

Eden I'm putting myself at 8+1 today, but this is based on the date of first bleed from my mmc as haven't had a period since then...so mw agreed it would be best to get a date. I have to wait for a letter through from the hospital, but hoping it will be next week sometime, we will see..

Ginger definitely have a chat with your lady at work, she might help put your mind at rest...either that or just send you home!

[Gingerbreadmam]

It seems to be slowing / stopping! Im trying to catch her between meetings ha!

[Edenslight]

That's great ginger. Catch her if you can, but either way it's nearly home time for you so get out of there and get some real rest tonight.

[Gingerbreadmam]

Not managed to catch her but at the moment it's pretty much stopped. Very weird!