New thread for TTC graduates - PinkB, MrsmcJ, Bodkin, Fettle, Chooster etc!

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Hello! Thought we should leave those lovely TTCers in peace!!

Oh babymad, what a scare. Glad everything is ok.

Oh dear Babymad- what a horrid shock! Glad to hear it was a false alarm.

Good luck for Mrsmcjnr tommorrow. Cant wait to hear all about it.

We had cot in our room until DD was 1 yrs old!

We were going to call DD Lola- but told DP's mum and she had a fit! Saying it was a name of a prostitute! She just made SUCH a big deal about it! DD is now Matilda. (which MIL approves of!) It is true that people do give you there way to honest opinions about names whilst you are PG- but if you wait until baby born and say, heh he's called Gandolph.... well they can only laugh behind your back!

I love odd names. I think middle names are a prefect opportunity to call your kid something silly!

Firstly, thank you all SO much for your good wishes for me tomorrow. I?ll let you know how I get on as soon as I can.

Greedy ? I have heard that a few babies don?t like moses baskets

Hello Chooster ? you?ve made me tingle with your scan story, I really am over the moon for you! would you like to borrow the 3 books I have on babies names?! I love Euan but can?t use it because my sister has already. In fact I?ll show you the names in my little note book that DH refuses to consider (like Alexander ? I liked that!!) I?ll let you know how it goes tomorrow, thanks for the good wishes.

Hello Natty I hope they don?t change my EDD too much from what I think it is or I won?t be entitled to 6 weeks at 90% salary!! Glad things are going well for you hon and it?s lovely that you?ll have one of each. I have my early scan tomorrow to check that the pregnancy is viable, fingers crossed.

KitKat ? I like Luke too.

Honeyapple ? you are such a fabulous resource of info!! We like Lola but there is that whole ?she was a show girl? thing isn?t there!?

Firststar ? so glad things went so well today and that you are low risk on the tests, great news!

On the subject of BFing, I really hope to give it a go and that I can as I have always been told that it?s really good for the baby if you can (and also from a very selfish perspective, my Mum told me that it is the best way to get rid of the baby bulges!!)

Hello Pinkranger ? thanks for the wishes. It?s at 9.15.

Thanks Pinkbutterfly and you too Iwillbe

Babymad ? poor you, how awful, so glad all is ok now xx

crashing thread ladies sorry

MrsMcJnr just wanted to send you my best wishes for tomorrow hunny.

Take carexx

Mrsmcjnr,

just poping on to wish you luck tomorrow. Cant wait to hear how you got on.

I had a nuchal scan yesterday ( I was 14+1 but consultant said it wouldnt affect the result.)The measurement was 2.3, and the doc was happy with this. Does anyone know what the normal range for this measurement is?? Im having the triple test next week.

Babymad......thats some list!!!!!!!

love dd1

Good luck MrsMc hope it all goes well for you, dont forget to get some pic's! Thinking of you! Babymad!

Morning all - busy morning at work today, so just a quick helloo for now! Three cheers for it being Friday and almost the weekend.

Babymad - that sounds like a terrible scare. What happened? Hope you're OK hon?

MrsMcJ - good luck for the scan, let us know how it went?

Hope everyone else is OK this morning?

Chat later!!

PS. Have finally uploaded my scan photo on my public profile! He's very little but you can just about make him out...

Hi DD1 - When I had my nuchal I was told that any measurement up to 3 is classed as normal and anything over means further investigation although I still dont think it necessarily means there is definately an issue. With my last pregnancy which we unfortunately lost, the measurement was 13 and even then they said that it could have a harmless cause.

2.3 seems just perfect! This time round my little one measured 2.5 and everything (including triple test) has been fine.

Hopefully you are out of your scan MrsMc and looking at your little picture!!

babymad - Gosh, I hope you are OK now! What happened? Whats the explanation?

Ahhh, Kitkat - your little fella looks fab!! Cute picture xx

Morning all. There's been some great posts over the last 24 hours - I've cried, i've laughed....

Firstly, hope it all goes well today Mrs (how sweet of everyone to pop in and post for you!) I'll be waiting by the 'pooter all day!

Chooster - Another blue one!!!! That's so exciting that you found out the sex. You must be chuffed - although it's nice to have one of each, 2 brothers - well that is just fab. My sis has 2 boys and they are such good pals (there is 3 years between them and it has been a great age gap)

Natty - a pink one for you! That's lovely.

Babymad - sorry to hear of your day at the hospital - that must have been terrifying. So pleased all is well.

Honeyapple - you are a girl after my own heart! I too am too lazy to do anything other than wap the old bazooma out to feed a baby - all that sterilising and faffing! I hope those of you who want to try it this time or for the first time have success as it really is lovely when you get past the first few days. Plus the weight DROPPED off me after BF for 6 months - always a good incentive! Chooster - I totally agree about it being a generational thing - my MIL was very suspicious of it!

On the subject of moses baskets - if you are BFing, it is much easier if the baby is sleeping in a moses basket next to your bed at night - then you can just lift them out and bung them back in again after. although it is true that DD hated it at first - we used to refer to it as the "MB" in her earshot so as not to upset her!!! But after a few weeks she was fine. This time I think I'll try swaddling to help.

Nappies - disp. vs washable. I was quite virtuous and used mainly washables for DD with a disposable for nights and when away from home. don't know if I'll be able to do it 2nd time round, but will give it a go.

Top tips for first few weeks - oh probaly loads that I can't think of at the mo - but deff. agree with Greedy about just putting them down to sleep if you think they ought to be tired. I used to put DD down, and then find something to do straight away (i.e. washing up or load washing machine) to distract me from the crying for the next 5-10 mins. By the time I had finished the chore, she would be soundly asleep, and if for any reason she didn't go to sleep after that, well, at least I had got SOMETHING DONE!

Also, don't panic if they don't want to be in a cot or moses basket for the first few weeks. Our DD would only sleep on us for the first 2 weeks, but after that, she got used to being in the outside world and was fine. No habits are unbreakable at that early stage, and it is a very big change of environment for them!

It is my birthday today (34) - well actually mine and DPs (we have the same birthday - bit rubbish really cos they kind of cancel each other out) but have had some flowers, choccies and posh soaps, plus we are out for a lovely meal tonight. Will have to slip a bottle of Gaviscon in my handbag though - 2nd trimester indigestion has well and truly started BOOOOO!

Beat that for a long post

Chooster, thanks for the info on the nuchal scan, lets hope the triple tests are ok too. However, even though Im having all the tests, I still wouldnt do anything if the results came back indicating a high risk. Its more a case of being able to prepare yourself.

Nappies debate....Im defo for disposable, Im green enough in all other aspects of life, but washable just make me squirm....sorry but thats how I feel

BFing....will definately be giving this a go...give the little beanie the best possible start in life. Will probably torture myself if it dosnt work out this way as Im really keen on BFing

Anywork on Mrsmcbump's scan yet?? what time was she having it at??

dd1

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Ladies, I wanted to check in and tell you how things went this morning. It will also help me come to terms with what is or isn?t going on. Basically the scan showed a very small pregnancy sac in the right place in my womb by external scan and showed a yolk inside it on an internal scan. Therefore, it is a pregnancy but not of 7+5 or 8 weeks but of 5 ½ or 6 weeks. They have no way of knowing if it is alive or not at this stage. This apparently means that my dates are either wrong or that the embryo died at 5 ½ or 6 weeks. All I can do is go back for another scan a week on Wednesday and see if things have progressed or stayed the same and then I will have my answer.

I?m in a bit of a state. I have been trying to prepare myself for an outcome good or bad but deep down inside, I really thought everything would be ok and it was such an awful shock when it wasn?t what we?d hoped for. I just couldn?t control the tears at the hospital and I felt so weak. I also felt awful for DH. I asked him last night what he thought he?d see today. He started getting angry with me saying that I read too much and came on here too much and that I shouldn?t build myself up to see something I might not. I actually wanted to warn him how little he would see because I thought that even if all had been perfect, there would be less to see than he would have thought. Anyway, when we got in there and the scan started, I couldn?t see the screen but he could and he started excited laughing before she said anything. He thought that my womb was the baby and that the sac was the heart and when she started telling us that it was too small and things were not quite right, he started to cry. It broke my heart.

I have to say that both the sonographer and the midwife were lovely to us, they really didn?t want to say anymore than that we have a 50/50 chance and I guess I was probably pushing them quite hard to be more negative so that somehow I could face that more easily if that is the outcome.

I couldn?t bear to go to work today and got DH to call my divisional manager who is a close friend of ours, she was lovely about it of course. My thinking is that if I allow myself to be on here today, to talk to you all and see if anyone has had similar experiences either way I?ll be better prepared for what comes next but after that, I may well take a break from Mumsnet until the next scan as I am going to try really hard to not think about it, I really feel that is all I can do for self preservation at the moment.

Sitting here eating a box of chocolates ? no good for my body or my baby?s, if she?s still there, but seems to help the heart!

Thank you all for listening, I feel guilty for being so indulgent when others have been through so much more and so much worse but this baby has been the centre of our universe for the last 4 weeks and it will be so hard if we have to let go.

Oh honey - I'm sorry, but dont give up hope yet. There's always a chance that you just have your dates wrong. Thinking and wishing the very best for you. xxx

Oh MrsMcJ - I am so sorry that you have come away from scan with no definitive result. I have no experience with this but sure someone else will and I will continue to pray for a positive outcome at your next scan. Can completely understand why taking a break from mn may be the best thing for you right now. (((((hugs)))))

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MrsMc - really really sorry to hear about your situation. It must be very tough, especially not really knowing one way or the other. I saw your post on the other thread and read a couple of the replies - some positive outcomes, but can understand if you would prefer not to get your hopes up. Do whatever gets you through the next few days - be it avoiding mn completely or coming on as and when you need to let off steam (don't worry about us lot, we will all be more than happy to return the support you have given us over the months!) Thinking of you and your DH and big hugs xx

MrsMc - I've been thinking about you constantly since we spoke this morning and I'm so so sorry that this has happened. Whatever you do for the next week and a half just be really really kind to yourself and take care. I'm sure you and DH will be a support to each other for the next wee while until you know for sure what the outcome will be. We will all be here for you whether you come on MN or not. Just promise you wont start wondering whether you did anything wrong. Even if the worst happens it wont be because of anything you have done.

oh my god mrs, i just dont know what to say to you. i have been sitting here for ages trying to decide what to write and i still dont know. i have also been searching on the internet, as i am sure you have, to try and find stories of hope. there seems to be lots of positive stories about people in the same situation as you, but also lots of negative, so i guess that doesn't help much and the 50/50 thing is quite accurate. i cant imagine how you must be feeling (im crying FGS and i dont even know you in RL).

12 days seems like such a long time to wait too, but i guess its better than going back early next week and them telling you they are still none the wiser.

for what its worth......the sonographers aren't always right. everyone makes mistakes in their jobs right? so maybe this is one of them, a mistake in measurements or something. i know this sounds unlikely BUT, my friend got scanned at 6 wks and they didnt even notice she was having twins. she then got scanned again at 7 weeks and they (2 seperate sonographers)told her she was having twins, but there was no membrane between them and they would almost certainly die before about 20 wks. turns out, they got it wrong afterall and they turned out just fine. my point is............you are pretty sure of your dates aren't you? so maybe a positive to hang onto is that it is human error and the sonographers just got it wrong.

sorry, i thought for so long what to say and its all come out wrong. i completely agree with chooster though, dont try and blame yourself in ANY way. thinking of you and i am so sorry i wont be here to support you when you have your next scan, doesnt mean im not thinking of you.

xxxxx

MrsMc - just saw your post on another thread so popped on here to say that I am thinking of you and sending you lots of positive vibes.

I'm so sorry your having a hard time MrsMc but please don't worry to much, I know it's hard not to, but take time out, look after yourself and try not to think about it. 50/50 chance is better than no chance at all, these early scan are so hard, as I believe some babies grow faster and some babies grow slower than normal, WE know my cycle and scan date's me as if I conceived 1 week before AF (AF that was normal 5 days long and I had 3 BPN) when in fact I know I conceived on day 14 of my next cycle so size really doesn't matter (I think ) at this stage, please don't worry or get too upset. Thinking of you always, cat me at any time and cat me with updates on yourself!

Ever since my scare yesterday I've been very down and upset, I was okay yesterday but last night it hit home, and now every time I think about it I get upset and cry, they still don't know why I have so much CM and how come it's so watery, one of them thing we may never get to find out the consultant said, I had an internal exam, and when I was getting ready for it, they told me to strip my bottom half, I sat there for a moment while they were getting things ready for this exam and I left a puddle lets say (it's not wee they checked that too) on this sheet, the internal (allot like a smear) they got a sample from inside than put it on this PH stick kinda thing and then checked it to see weather it's baby water, wee, and so on IYSWIM, which in my case nothing to worry about, still don't know what IT is or where IT comes from! Still left me worried but reassured (I think), but now emotional on what COULD of been and very down. DH said and I'm in agreement to gave MN a break for a while until I fell ready to take on the world again!

Good luck everyone and I will be thinking about you all. Babymadxx

Take care Babymad. Hope you are back with us again soon. x

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Babymad - I know this sounds ridiculous, but could it have been bath water or have you been swimming very recently? TMi alert but I sometimes have a bit of a "gush" after both

MrsMc, I've been keeping up with your other thread and its great to see some positive stories on there. The sonographer who measured me at my 13 week scan put my EDD at 13th July (I reckon more like 15th) and at my 20 week one on Weds this week they ahve put me at 19th! So that makes the first scan nearly a week out. What I'm trying to say is that if it is so easy to get it wrong when they are measuring somethign that is 7cm, they must really struggle with 11mm!

Greedy - I forgot to say earlier - re. bringing the kids to the scan - it was clearly fine at mine because they had toys and books in the room to keep little ones amused. I thought DD would get the idea of what was going on (she's 3), but she was just a bit confused really, and a bit freaked out by the "glue" as she called it that they put on my tummy!