Well the doctor definitely thinks I am miscarrying

[AnguaVonUberwald]

Had severe cramping for the last three evenings, followed by slight spotting yesterday and this morning.

Am seven weeks and 1 day pregnant. Can already see the baby in my head.

the doctor said - "will have to wait and see but, the good news is that you managed to get pregnant and than you should therefore be able to do it again", and "these are not good signs". No suggestions that it was likely to be anything else.

Very clear she thinks its most likely a miscariage.

i am so very sorry for your loss. there is really nothing else i can say, just sorry

I'm so sorry Angua. Please try to rest and heal as much as possible. So sorry again to hear your sad news

So sorry to hear this angua. Nate was a real person and you'll need some time to grieve.

Your experience from the medics will have been extremely unhelpful to this process. I had a similar experience first time round. Feel free to disregard it if it doesn't appeal.

My MIL really helped me out by doing a sort of funeral type thing, more of a goodbye ceremony or a letting go ritual. You could do whatever you liked. Sje just took some pumpkin seeds, because I was cooking with pumpkin at the time, and we all went down to the river, said some things to the child who never came, and said 'goodybey'. It was hard but it really helped.

So sorry once again. xx

Thank you all.

Spidermama, we are planning on doing something very like that, we are going get some flowers and go to the river and say goodby and throw them in.

We want to make it a formal ceremony. Then we will go to a nearby church and pray quietly together for him.

Just thinking about it makes me want to cry, but I think we need something formal and proper.

Have you thought about planting a tree in Nate's memory? My bf suffered in a very similar way to you and she planted a tree in her back garden so she could watch her baby grow even though he/she was no longer with her. I've never been through something like this but it really made sense.

Piglit, unfortunatly we don't have a garden at the moment, so not an option, but its a lovely idea and I will remember it for when we buy a house.

Angua, so sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself. x

aahh no! im so sorry to hear about this xx

Hi AnguaVonUberwald, so sorry to hear about Nate. Best Wishes X