Rude / unusual things people have said to you

[KayTee87]

What are the rudest / most unusual things people have said to you since becoming pregnant? I've had;

Was there nothing on TV that month? Some people plan their children thanks!

Was it planned? Erm no I got married 6 months ago and then suddenly forgot how to use contraception.

You're absolutely huge, you're going to have a massive baby! Ok I'm 18 weeks pregnant, have put on 2lbs and measuring just right but yeah I'm sure your informed comment makes sense.

Are they going to charge you extra to tan your stomach snigger snigger (from a work colleague). I replied no as my stomach is still a lot smaller than many people's...

Same work colleague told me to lose a few pounds (she's 3 stones heavier than me and the same height )

Also the belly rubbing arghh.. good to have somewhere to rant

[Woodenmouse]

I'm getting a lot of "you're huge, is it twins?"
I keep wondering if I can blame hormones if I punch someone! (And no its not twins)

[LaurieLemons]

I used to hate all the omg your huge/your tiny and I still get it now with 7 month old DS! I've come to the conclusion we are just average and no one's got a fucking clue what they're talking about .

I had the most annoying co worker ever that didn't just politely feel my bump she used to prod me and keep her hands there until he moved ffs!

I also had a glaring look and 'I take it it wasn't planned' from my grandad who still lives in the 50s because I'm not married yet.

[greenlizard]

Are you sure there isn't two in there? You are massive?

Thing was I conceived twins and lost one at 9 weeks. Used to get upset just grit my teeth and say yes i am quite sure!

Also was it planned? None of your feckin' business! Why people think it's okay to ask such a personal question is beyond me

[WombOfOnesOwn]

It's the best part of being a fat woman and pregnant: I'm 39+5 and NO ONE has asked me in public about my pregnancy! Not one person! I read these stories and feel strangely comforted...I've had no belly rubs from intrusive strangers, no ugly questions. I suppose they'll start up after the baby comes!

[Mermaid36]

I'm having twins and the amount of people going "OMG - you're going to be HUGE!!!" is driving me to distraction....my current answer is "yes, there are two of them in there" (FWIW, I measure at about 6 weeks ahead of where I am, so 18wks with twins is about the same as 24wks with a singleton)

Or, the IVF question....and last week I had someone ask why we'd chosen twins instead of a single baby...

And the utter surprise when they ask if it was a planned pregnancy, because DH and I have been together for 17 years and everyone thought we were "too selfish for children" sigh

[HelsBels3000]

^^ someone actually said that to you mermaid

[insideout]

Well as you are so massively overweight you have got to start running, its better for the baby ( my 'D'M and i was a size 12, yes bigger than before my first but there you go)

Me: ive lost 6 kg in the first trimester because of morning sickness
DM: thats excellent, you wont be quite as fat now
Me: the consultant is worried about it as DS is only 18 months and my body is not totally recovered.
DM: what do they know keep losing weight then it will be easier to keep it off after the baby is born

I am barely speaking to her at the moment

[mrsjskelton]

Is this a planned pregnancy?

No! I've been in this relationship 10 years, married for 3, we own our home, have good jobs and suddenly forgot how to stay childless!

[Angelto5]

Not while pregnant but in labour (about 10 minutes before dc5 was born).

Cheeky consultant surrounded by student doctors told me I should think about not having anymore children !!!!

Wtf .......... Ok ........ errmmm do you mind if I birth this one before we discuss my future contraception??????

[Mermaid36]

hels oh yes! And we've had comments off the family about how now I'm pregnant, we're not "wasting our marriage".....

[KayTee87]

Mermaid people can be so rude!! Imagine saying that to someone . What does 'wasting your marriage' even mean. What about people that can't have children, should they not bother getting married then as it's a waste

[AnnaMarlowe]

Veda I eventually learned to respond to the IVF question with
"Hmmm, what position were you in when you conceived?"

For those who've been asked 'is it twins?' Or 'are you sure there's only one in there'. I found that people were quite put out when I responded 'yes it is twins' so I can only assume that they meant to offend.

[Dixiechick17]

"So that's what you were doing when it rained on your holiday..." my parents neighbour when we announced the pregnancy

[Pixilicious]

A girl who worked for me said 'god your tiny. Are you sure your baby's growing properly' yeah thanks for that!

[Jem01]

The other day someone asked me was my pregnancy planned and I asked them were they? That shut them up! If someone asks me a personal question they better be ready for my response!!

[Applecrumbling]

Had to take time of work for hospital appointment due to bleeding last week..
Manager 'we'll hold off the congratulations then'
Off work again due to bleeding and hospital appointments ( not sure if miscarried yet)
Manager 'there is nothing you can do, wear a pad for work'
😔

[Gutterflower]

'Oooohhh that ones going to hurt'

From a sour faced old bat cashier in Morrisons. I wanted to slap her with my bread rolls!

[Littledafty]

Aunt in law who is not quite right so gets away with say all sorts of nasty stuff. I suspect she knows fine what she's saying. A month after having my second she announced in front of giant family get together, I think dafty needs to go to the hospital to check they've not missed another baby in her stomach. It looks like there's still a baby in there and these things happen you know.

[kate1516]

Last week the supermarket I got asked my a middle aged self service checkout attendant and her teenage sidekick if I was hoping for a valentines baby. To which I replied I still had 8 weeks to go. The teenagers response to this was "that's disgusting" (not sure what exactly about my situation was disgusting) and the women's was (after looking me up and down " I always lost weight in pregnancy but we can't all be lucky".

[5hell]

apple thanks AWFUL!

[cheekstime]

I think talking about their birthing problems and how bad it was for them the minute they know the news is pretty rude and weird. 'yea der cheers for that' yea real love thanks

& this one's good....that the reason why you are preg is because they asked their dead mother from the grave. umm

x

[twopinkkittens]

Whilst having a lung scan for suspected blood clot - general conversation with the technician...

so how far gone are you
19 weeks
ah nice - when are you due
they are due end of May as I will only go to 36 weeks.
Oh so your having twins
yes twin girls, identical
Oh - your a mug!

Gee, thanks! Actually it's a bloody miracle and I feel lucky!

[Shelby1981]

the rudest I've had is "well it's about time" or "took you long enough" what business is it of anyone else's! I'm 34 so not ancient to be having a baby.

[bessie84]

this morning i got "your massive, you must be eating too much"

[Woodenmouse]

I know I mentioned about the twins thing. Well today I was walking Ds1 into town. He was walking but I had the pushchair as its quite far and he gets tired. A couple was walking down the pavement on the other side of the road and she yelled over "is that 2?" I thought she was asking if I had another in the pushchair so unasked her to repeat herself, she pointed to my bump and said "have you got 2 in there?" I told her no it's just one and she replied "my daughter is having twins and she's being induced on Thursday, youre the same size you must be over due". Nope I'm due in a week and a half and when I told her she just shrugged and carried on walking! I'm not feeling great about my size at the mo!!