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Rude / unusual things people have said to you

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 11:31

What are the rudest / most unusual things people have said to you since becoming pregnant? I've had;

Was there nothing on TV that month? Some people plan their children thanks!

Was it planned? Erm no I got married 6 months ago and then suddenly forgot how to use contraception.

You're absolutely huge, you're going to have a massive baby! Ok I'm 18 weeks pregnant, have put on 2lbs and measuring just right but yeah I'm sure your informed comment makes sense.

Are they going to charge you extra to tan your stomach snigger snigger (from a work colleague). I replied no as my stomach is still a lot smaller than many people's...

Same work colleague told me to lose a few pounds (she's 3 stones heavier than me and the same height Confused)

Also the belly rubbing arghh.. good to have somewhere to rant Grin

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Rainbowlou1 · 18/02/2016 12:57

Every single morning at work is walk into the staff room for our morning meeting, and the same woman would say 'oh everyone move up rainbow's here and will need at least 3 chairs' it got very boring!!
Then I walked past the head teacher who said 'oh rainbow we were just saying how you're now almost as wide as you are tall'
Also got asked if it was planned lots .
once got accused of 'pickling my baby' when I had half a glass of wine on my birthday Shock

DingbatsFur · 18/02/2016 12:57

Let's be fair folks, the majority of people are not going out of the way to be rude to pregnant people. Sometimes they are just making conversation!

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 13:03

I know dingbats it's quite a lighthearted thread, better to have a thread than say to their faces Grin

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Troika · 18/02/2016 13:04

-You're tiny. You don't look like you've only got a month left
-Well I'm measuring right so I can't be that tiny
-Are they sure? Did they do it right?

-I was bigger than that at ten weeks hahaha

-Is the baby all right or is there something wrong with it for you to be so small? Angry
delilabell · 18/02/2016 13:05

We were told that I was infertile so we'd adopted before I became (completely by suprise/accident ) pregnant.
Several people have said "so your going to send him (ds) back now then hahaha"
We've also had comments about how we'll love being "real parents"

I just don't get why people have to make comments to anyone

Frank85 · 18/02/2016 13:05

My boss asked me if it was an "accident"
No Im 30, married and had IVF
Pretty bloody expensive accident!

toffeeboffin · 18/02/2016 13:05

Olbersparadox Shock

toffeeboffin · 18/02/2016 13:07

People are either jealous or just plain clueless.

'Oh you'll lose your waist and your boobs will sag after pregnancy '.

Great. Yeah, thanks.

HelsBels3000 · 18/02/2016 13:09

'Oh you look like a beached whale' from a visiting music teacher. Yeah thanks for that - I worked until 38wks 5 days with DC3 and had elective c-section the next day. Yes I was enormous. No I did not need reminding of that fact.

SoozeyHoozey · 18/02/2016 13:10

Is it planned? But another odd common one is people like to ask us if/when we are getting married, as though it's 1960! People also like to remark/express their shock at the ten year age gap between my first (different dad) and this one... Another nosey one is asking who's surname the baby is going to take.

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 13:13

Soozey when my dh and I moved I together we constantly got the 'when are you getting married' and then when we got married my mil would rub my stomach and ask if there's a baby in it yet.

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Alisvolatpropiis · 18/02/2016 13:14

Work colleague - do you know what you're having?

Me - no

WC - I reckon you're having a girl, your skin has gone terrible and my mum always says girls ruin their mothers looks.

Me - 😑

I'm sure I wasn't that much of a twat when I was 21. i did have a girl though!

Bearsinmotion · 18/02/2016 13:17

Not long after DD was born, FIL turned up with his then girlfriend and her DD(11) and DS(13). Among the things she asked were how long was the labour, what painkillers did I have, was she "natural, or did they help her out?", did they need to cut me, and how many stitches did I have. This was the second time I'd met the woman! Shock

VivaHate · 18/02/2016 13:29

One particular woman at work (who is much bigger than me) said "you are rounding out already arent you?" (when I was about 10 weeks). She kept saying this daily for about 2 weeks :-s

If she wants me to do something for her she holds out the work and says my name (!) so I just get up and get it off her. A couple of weeks ago I said "don't you have legs?" and she shot back quite viciously "well you're the one that needs the exercise" then paused and tried to laugh it off.

I also have a friend who is struggling to conceive and she kept asking me about side effects; when I told her she responded "I would kill to feel like that and not to be in agony every single month, count yourself lucky". I've stopped responding honestly to her now and just say "I'm fine"...

brookeberry · 18/02/2016 13:32

Ohmygod, how OLD are you?

42, now f**k off. Except, I didn't say that last bit (It was a client) Grin

Vedamakesthebesttoast · 18/02/2016 13:44

annamarlowe I've ha the ivf question so many times jut because its twins... Now it goes like this...

Random stranger..."Oh are they twins were they ivf then?"
Me... "Yes and no, good old fashioned reverse cowgirl"

Always worth the faces that response receives

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KayTee87 · 18/02/2016 13:46

Viva my early pregnancy was bad with sickness and exhaustion and now I'm a bit dizzy / headachy / stretching pains. I now don't say a word even when asked in work because my colleague always has something worse wrong, it's always 'i'll swap your sickness for my sore back' fecksake it's not a competition.

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notfromstepford · 18/02/2016 13:52

You're not very big are you?
I'm 34 weeks and baby is bang on average. Makes me paranoid because we had IUGR with DS1 who was only 3lb 12oz - not that people know that but I then spend the rest of the day feeling a bit worried.

The main one is (head tilt) oh so you're having another boy then - I assume you'll be trying for a girl next?

Actually no - I'm thrilled to be having another baby after 10 years of unexplained infertility - the gender makes no difference to me.

I think I may start saying no I'm going to try for an alien next Grin

ohanami · 18/02/2016 14:13

Not strictly a pregnancy comment, but I was quite poorly before dd was born. A day after she arrived I was sat whimpering propped up in a chair in hdu, huge catheter bag on display, leaky milk stains all over my dirty nightie, hadn't showered for several days, you get the picture. Doctor walked in and exclaimed "wow, you look great!" What on earth had I looked like beforehand to look great in that state?!

The first time anyone asked how long I'd got to go, I burst into tears (in the middle of a packed hairdressers). She was a week old and still in hospital. They're really nice to me every time I go in now.

Pregnant again now and have already had helpful comments from family about how I can't possibly have a natural birth after a section.

Sunbeam18 · 18/02/2016 14:29

'Did B (partner) agree to it?'. Said by a colleague when I announced my pregnancy!!!

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Outaboutnowt · 18/02/2016 14:39

"Is the father sticking around then?"
We have been together 7 years and lived together for 5, and talke

Outaboutnowt · 18/02/2016 14:40
  • talked about having a baby for a few years.

But even if I was going to be a single mum - it's nobody's business!

Outaboutnowt · 18/02/2016 14:45

Also a work colleague commented every time I saw her (a couple of times a week) that my bump looked like it had got bigger.
No shit, Sherlock! Aren't they supposed to shrink?! Hmm

sparkleonthedancefloor · 18/02/2016 14:47

"Was it an accident?" (my mother)

"You're getting so fat!" (MIL)

"You're looking very large" (friend of family not my friend)

"The last few weeks your face has got really chubby, especially round your chin" (nasty old cow I was working with at the time

People are dicks when someone is pregnant. If I'm lucky enough to have another DC I'm not putting up with any of that shit again, I think the first time I was too shocked to retort to any of it properly.