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Found out I'm pregnant yesterday but slight bleeding

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Applecrumbling · 09/02/2016 05:48

I'm very happy with the news ☺️
Also confused and worried. I had what I thought was a period - started 31/1/16 and enough to wear a tampon for 2/3 days, mainly brown blood but tampon was soaked. I then started to bleed on Sunday night- red blood but small amount. Don't normally bleed between periods hence the pregnancy test yesterday. Rang 111 and saw my gp who took bloods yesterday and more bloods on Thursday to measure hcg levels. I'm so worried. Woke this morning and no more blood overnight, I have sickness and mild cramping.the period before the brown one started 5/1/16. Pregnancy test shows 1-2 weeks (but that's from conception).anyone else had this and all turns out ok?

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Applecrumbling · 19/02/2016 12:02

Lynsey - no mention of a scan- they said they wouldn't see anything with my low levels..
Arghhh. I just don't know. I'm getting very snappy with everything so I'm staying out of the way of people for now..
I'm concentrating on looking after my son
I've eaten rubbish and have put on weight. If it's the worst I'm going to hit the gym to cope

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PoppitFox · 19/02/2016 12:03

How're things Apple? Been following but didn't have much to say in the way of advice. Xx

LynseyH5 · 19/02/2016 12:05

Don't beat yourself up over being snappy or eating rubbish, we're all guilty of it.
I'm so sorry your having to go through this.
I can only cross my fingers for you and hope you have happy news soon x

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Applecrumbling · 19/02/2016 12:05

Popit. It's tough and I have no answers! I'm waiting on blood result this afternoon.. I'm hoping for a miracle!

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Applecrumbling · 19/02/2016 12:07

Thanks Lynsey you're always so kind.

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LynseyH5 · 19/02/2016 12:11

Always here Smile

Arborea · 19/02/2016 12:54

Hugs to everyone. I have just put DC1 down for a nap. The house is a tip, but I can't find the enthusiasm to do any housework.

Just going to try and read a rubbish crime novel. Nothing on the telly, and I can't be bothered doing anything else. This time last week I was so knackered I had a nap when LO did, but that was before I had any bleeding and felt v pregnant.

Keep us posted Applecrumbling and Lynsey xx

PoppitFox · 19/02/2016 13:06

Fingers crossed for you apple! Xx

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Applecrumbling · 19/02/2016 13:08

Ok so levels reduced to 176, classed as pregnancy of unknown location and back in 1 week to check levels go down. So.. Guess that's it then. 😔 I can move forward. Have to tell partner..

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Arborea · 19/02/2016 13:18

So very, very sorry to hear your news Applecrumbling. Hope you have lots of love and support in real life. Flowers

Lj8893 · 19/02/2016 13:29

So sorry apple. Take care of yourself and use all the support you can get. Flowers

LynseyH5 · 19/02/2016 14:03

I'm so sorry apple. I hope your partner will be with you soon and he can look after you xx

FindingNormal · 19/02/2016 14:43

I'm really sorry. I was hoping everything would be OK for you. Un-mumsnetty hugs X

kirinm · 19/02/2016 14:55

Oh Apple, I'm so sorry. It's such a horrible thing to go through.

When are you going to be seen next?

PoppitFox · 19/02/2016 17:01

So sorry Apple. Please take care of yourself! Xxx

Lizzie1988 · 19/02/2016 17:02

Hi Apple, ladies, really sorry to read what's happening with your situations. Apple, I us yet more blood tests this morning and my levels had risen slightly again, the epu said it was in no way a viable pregnancy and called me back this afternoon for a man internal scan as they were worried about the levels not decreasing as they should be with a miscarriage and the fact I've been bleeding for three weeks. Had the internal and they can't see anything untoward so just told me I had to keep going back once a week until levels are back to 0 pretty much. It sounds harsh but I was almost relieved when they told me i was definitely not pregnant, least we can move on now and get past it rather than feeling like we are in limbo. I really wish you all the best of luck with your pregnancies, and I hope we are all back on here down the line talking about successful pregnancies and how big our bumps are! Xxx

tealoveryum · 19/02/2016 18:22

I've been watching your thread Apple and my heart goes out to you, I know how horrible this can be. I'm so sorry for your loss and Lizzie for yours too.

If either of you want to chat feel free to PM me. I hope both of you ave support- remember that it's okay if you aren't okay

LynseyH5 · 19/02/2016 23:07

Very sorry to hear your news lizzie. I hope you have love and support around you. I totally understand what you mean about the relief of limbo being over, don't feel bad for saying it. Limbo land is a cruel place to be x

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Applecrumbling · 21/02/2016 11:21

Hello- thought I'd check in. Thank you so much for your kind words.
My partner I'm feeling any being very supportive and seems removed from it and I'm now questioning our relationship.
I'm ok though as to be honest I know it isn't worth feeling so unhappy. It all feels like a dream and almost like I'm back to work tomorrow and nothing has happened. I don't have much support in real life. My partner driving home today and i think I'm going to feel alone, although I am with him.
How is everyone?
Lynsey?

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tealoveryum · 21/02/2016 13:04

I'm so sorry Apple, that's very hurtful. I think that this sort of thing can do that. I do think men tend to be a bit removed from it in general, my husband told me that he was sad but he didn't feel the deep grief I did. We had to keep talking about that because his stolidness really upset and angered me. Later, I found out he felt he needed to do that to have the strength to be support for me.

A friend who also had miscarriage the year earlier felt her DH went the other way to her, refused to talk and acted as business as usual. It turned out that he felt terrified to let out his feelings but it nearly broke them because he came across really uncompassionate and uncaring.

It will make you question everything. Does your partner seem unaffected? Is he supporting you at all? How is he normally when you are in need of support?

Get a doctors note if you can't face the office. Your doctor will sign you off if you need it. Please don't make the mistake I did of rushing back. You need to look after you.

Do you have any support close to you?

LynseyH5 · 21/02/2016 20:28

Hi there.
Apple I'm so sorry that your partner isn't being as supportive as he could be.
I agree men just don't get it, they just don't have the connection until it's much further down the line. But then he could also be trying to be strong for you. Have you made any progress with him since this morning?
If you don't feel ready for work, don't do it. If you think it could be a distraction though, work with that too?
I'm feeling ok at moment. I know there is zero I can do until Wednesday so I'm trying to just get through each day as it comes.
Keep talking to us, we can try and help in some way even if it's small xx

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Applecrumbling · 22/02/2016 12:44

It's a fairly new relationship- around 9 months, long distance but plans to move. I haven't been in need of support from him so far, so it's new. Yes he seems unaffected and bau. Even cheery? False.
I might be being unfair I'm just not sure. I feel like my co fidence has been knocked hugely and I'm a bit disoriented.
Back to work today- dreading it. I've made the gym- light exercise just to get routine back.
I'm close to ending the relationship and not sure of a way forward.

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LynseyH5 · 22/02/2016 13:44

I really think you need to be honest with him and ask him to do the same.
Tell him exactly how you feel. Lack of communication is always a one way road. Take each day as you need to because you have so much going on, you need to be sure of how you feel. Your on such a roller coaster of emotion right now that I worry you'll rush to a decision you might later regret?
If it's possible, why not take off for a week together somewhere? Not your house or his, somewhere nice and open and different. You'll know by the end of that whether there is something worth working at x

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Applecrumbling · 24/02/2016 00:02

Good suggestions Lynsey. We've talked a bit tonight and I feel a bit better.
What is hard is I feel pregnant still, sore boobs, fluttering in tummy and bad sickness tonight. It plays with your mind and I start to think could my levels have dropped then increased again 😔 Unless I'm pregnant again? Not sure if that's possible. Back to hospital in Thursday

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Arborea · 24/02/2016 07:33

Oh gosh Applecrumbling, what an emotional roller coaster! I hope it's all ok tomorrow. I'm still having a small amount of spotting most days, booking in appointment is tomorrow. Hopefully I won't have to wait too long for my next scan and fingers crossed it will be good news. I'll be 9 weeks tomorrow and really don't know how I have made it through the past few weeks!