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Am I the only one who has a drink?

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oneconfusedchick · 16/12/2015 10:27

Hi,

Sorry if this is a bit random but I was wondering whether anyone else has continued to drink through pregnancy. Please don't get me wrong I do not mean drink a lot but I have 1-2 units once a week on a Friday. I feel like I am the only one that does this! I did this with first pregnancy who is now a healthy and happy 2 year old!

I do worry though that I can't seem to find many people who still enjoy a small weekly drink!

x

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Thefitfatty · 17/12/2015 11:10

See I worked and lived with FAS children (my parents were foster parents and my adopted brother is FAS, and I worked for Pearl S Buck foundation in South Korea and there were quite a few FAS kids (mothers were usually prostitutes), if anything it made me more comfortable having the odd drink or two because I knew how much their mothers drank, and it certainly wasn't a glass a week, or even a bottle a week! It was more like a couple of bottles of wine (or in the case of my adopted brothers mum, a bottle of vodka and some cocaine, weed and/or heroin) a day. Even with how much my brothers mum consumed he doesn't have the physical symptoms of FAS, rather he was diagnosed with ADHD, which the doctor blames on his bio Mum's drug and alcohol use.

PeasinPod1 · 17/12/2015 11:56

Again nowt until 12 weeks now around 3 glasses wine a month. Probs more in December but will have less reason to drink in Jan /Feb so feel fine with thus.
Just read this which made me smile- “For plenty of French women, the notion of going without wine, cheese, cigarettes, or caffeine for nine months is as crazy as saying a French man must go through forty years of marriage without taking a mistress.”

ThursdayLastWeek · 17/12/2015 12:03

I see a pregnant woman having a drink, and giving a newborn a sip of wine as two very separate things indeed.

I wouldn't shake a newborn, but I just went for a jog with my unborn child. Babies are incredibly well protected by a woman's body, in all manner of ways.

Boosiehs · 17/12/2015 13:09

Agreed with the poster that having a small amount of alcohol in pregnancy is NOTHING like giving a newborn alcohol.

If you drink, the alcohol enters your stomach, then is released into your bloodstream. It is not immediate and it is not the same amount.

Yes, everyone deals with alcohol differently, but I have enjoyed a very small glass, once in a while, over a few hours or with dinner.

I will be having a glass f bubbles on Christmas Day.

KnitsBakesAndReads · 17/12/2015 14:00

Personally I haven't had any alcohol during pregnancy and don't plan to.

What does really bother me though is how so many people seem to think they have a right to comment on what should be an individual choice for each pregnant woman.

I've had both sides of this. A few weeks ago I was buying some beers in a supermarket (not for me to drink) and the woman in front of me in the queue stared really obviously at my bump, then made eye contact with me and then gestured at the drinks in the shopping trolley as if to say I shouldn't be buying them. I was almost going to tell her they're not for me but then I just thought it's none of her business even if I was going to have a drink so I decided to ignore her.

Then, I was having a drink with friends, including one friend who already has DC and she was trying to talk me into having a glass of wine even though I said I'd decided not to drink. She was acting as though my personal decision not to drink was some kind of judgement of her decision to drink. Made me feel really uncomfortable to be pressured like that.

TriJo · 17/12/2015 14:14

No booze since getting my BFP. I did worry a bit though because as it turned out I only got my BFP at 7+2, and we had relatives over from Ireland visiting when I was 5-6 weeks along and I did have a few drinks then.

I do actively try to avoid it - no luxury range mince pies to try and avoid unnecessary brandy etc and soft drinks when I'm with DH in the pub etc.

worldgonecrazy · 17/12/2015 14:17

I didn't drink in the first trimester, but had a few sips throughout pregnancy. I found I lost the taste for alcohol so didn't actually miss it that much, and one or two sips with dinner was enough to enjoy the flavour of the wine/food.

When I was breastfeeding I would have a small glass of wine each night to help keep me feel like an adult and not a milk-machine.

VagueIdeas · 17/12/2015 14:19

Knits - Reminds me of the time the checkout girl said "I hope this isn't for you!" as I stood there, massively pregnant, with nothing but one bottle of tequila and one of gin Grin

Although, to be fair, it looked a bit dodgy...

glitterbomb80 · 17/12/2015 15:59

Didn't drink in the first trimester at all (well, at least not after I found out Blush) but from Week 20 or thereabouts I've had one glass of wine most weeks.

I'm surrounded by family and friends who are doctors, midwives and other health professionals, all of whom have assured me it's totally fine as long as you stick to NHS guidelines. Baby seems to be doing fine at 34 weeks.

lemon101 · 17/12/2015 17:12

Haven't read all posts but similar to lurcio I am a health researcher by profession and agree there is no evidence in published scientific literature of moderate drinking (like the op's) having any impact on pregnancy outcomes.
I also had a small glass of vino once a week throughout my pregnancy and am currently cuddling a very perfect little man! So on my sample of one I would actually say it makes your baby even more awesome Wink
I understand that some people choose not to drink and that is fine (obviously!), but it is just ill-informed for anybody to suggest that ladies who choose to have a small drink are risking their child. It's the worst sort of moral one upmanship.

jamtartandcustard · 17/12/2015 18:46

Yep I've still had the odd drink. I'm not a drinker anyway, I think I have a bottle of pimms in the cupboard that is 2 years old and still half full and that's it but if I've gone to the Pil's for dinner, yes I have a glass of wine or can of cider. I'd say that's prob once or twice a month

Junosmum · 17/12/2015 20:23

I had a check out lady comment on the nuts I bought today! She was being nice, asked if nuts were ok for pregnant people now as she knows the advice changes and thought it was for the better when I said they were fine, but still, she could have scanned my shopping and said nothing!

Runningupthathill82 · 19/12/2015 21:32

Natty - is there a reason you posted a link to a badly-written blogpost by someone who appears to be as medically qualified as my three-year-old son?
Because if yet more unscientific scaremongering is the best you can do to back up your hyperbolic argument, that rather says it all.

whatsoever · 19/12/2015 22:01

I had nothing until the 12 week scan (had the odd glass in my 1st pregnancy early on. & miscarried so wouldn't do that again) but since then had 2 glasses of wine most weeks.

If someone showed me some genuine research that showed 4 units a week caused a statistical increase in any medical issues, premature birth or anything of that ilk for the baby, I would not do it.

ThursdayLastWeek · 19/12/2015 22:22

Bringing this thread back to life when it had reached a natural conclusion seems uneccesarity goady.

Runningupthathill82 · 19/12/2015 22:39

Agreed, Thursday.

Boosiehs · 19/12/2015 22:45

That article is badly written bollocks.

CarShare · 19/12/2015 23:26

Agreed Boosiehs. It's insulting to expect anyone to take it seriously.

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