Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy

I would like to thank everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

amys sorry you've not had more comforting news. A friends of mine had two children, 2 years and 6 months. The eldest has downs and is one of the happiest little boys I know. I know it brings complocations and difficulties, but I've worked with several sirens children (high school age) and with appropriate support and help they live really full, happy lives. But as others have said, 80% chance of no complications.

lucibda we've been using colief before every feed since Saturday morning and is made a hell if a difference. Which almost certainly means he's lactose intolerant (helpful when you're breastfeeding abs your milk is full of lactose...!) - as was I during pregnancy... I wonder if the two are linked. Lactose containing food literally bounced straight back up if I ate it! Feedings are now complicated now as I have to give him a little expressed milk with colief in, then feed. But we're both getting used to it!

Hoe everyone's coping. icant I'm glad picc line is unblocked and sorry ondansetron didn't work! Hoping everyone with colds /coughs etc isn't suffering too much!

amysmummy Just dashing on to say, I do feel for you. Others have said very positive things. As they say, there's an 80 per cent chance of no complications.

Oh Spandau 😞 my DD went through a phase of mimicking me heaving... Which in turn made me heave more lol x

It's awful trying to reassure when your being sick ..
P's I told my friend who is struggling to conceive today. She was ok but said I hate women who complain when I'd kill to feel like that. I tried through gritted teeth to explain some of these woman who complain have it do bad they terminate the pregnacy .. deep breaths x

spandau it's such a difficult situation to be in, isn't it. Women with hg have often struggled to conceive (I was one) and we know how lucky we are to be pregnant. It's just that we are so desperately unlucky to have shit pregnancies and be so, so ill. Being lucky doesn't mean we have an easy time of it. But as we've said before, unless you've fought the HG battle, you just can't understand how horrid it is.

Thank you Kalidasa, Lucinda and OnceAMeer, I'm so relieved not to be alone in this!

OnceAMeer, yes sickness is lots better now than when I was pregnant. I was virtually housebound for 6months of pregnancy. Big improvement straight after birth. Just frustrating not to be able to shake it off completely! how long until you felt normal again and stopped vomiting?

Ellison how old is your baby? My son has colic and reflux too, is there a link with HG? We also find Colief helps and I was intolerant of dairy when pregnant! He's also on Infancol and Dentinox (dill seed oil) seems to help a bit.

spandau im sorry to hear of your friend's situation but also her reaction. As ealli said ( ) some people have tried for a long time and even had medical intervention to get pregnant, then the HG has stolen all pleasure and joy from what they so badly wanted. Fortunately it -does- usually lift!

How is tinyealli, ealli?

gold in truth in both cases it took about 9 months to shake the n & v completely. stopping bfíng helped (got to a year with #1 and 9 months with #2 ... #2 developed a biting habit with his sharp new teeth) It very much depends on your circumstances but I found that -gently- exercising helped me - swimming, the gym. Main thing other than that was simply getting enough sleep. That helped hugely.

Is it worse when you get the let-down when bfing? then it really is probably hormonal and should get better in time. if not then perhaps it really is one of the doctor's other suggestions.

No the let-down doesn't make it worse so maybe not hormonal?

Dont want to jinx myself but think im defo improving. Only gagged/vomited several times this pass week. Still have the nausea feeling but not all day long. The indegestion and acidy stomach is now causing me discomfort and is fustrating but defo better than weny HG was at its worse. Im still taking Ondanstron but too scared to stop taking it as last time i tried 3 days without and i got worse. Had a bit of an argument with OH last nite. For a long time i was struggling to get housework done and i didnt have dinner ready for him (as being around food made me feel worse). He wud say dont worry about it i will take care of it. But despite saying this he would make comments like 'its a mess in here' and would walk round picking things up in a huff. So recently as ive started to feel a bit better ive been on top of almost everything and he keeps making sarcastic comments like amamzing she does remember how to iron/cook etc. It really it a nerve and i got really upset. Im probally over reacting but just felt he really didnt understand.

Hope every1 is well as can be.

possibly not then gold ... though it's not really a conclusive proof. 12 weeks is still fairly early too ... When do you get the H pylori results?

charlie your husband sounds a bit insensitive there :/ fgs you're brewing his baby and you've been seriously ill! very good to hear you're improving though :)

gold I wasnt sure if I could use infacol as well. The dentinox didn't work for us; he stimply wouldn't take it!

charlie excellent news that things seem to be on the up. It's difficult for partners I think, they have no idea what it's like for us. However, he does sound insensitive and unhelpful. He's not trying (and failing miserably) to be funny, is he? Did you tell him that what he was saying was hurtful? He needs to hear that though you're feeling better, you're not 100% and you don't need the time you felt awful belittled or to feel like he thinks you were making things up. You're doing so well growing a new life, well done you!

Everyone else, you're another day nearer... well done! That beautiful little baby inside you is another day more perfect! Well done mummies :)

Oh and meer babyealli is doing well. Currently sniffling and sleeping next to me. He's just wonderful. Honestly ladies, being a mummy is do much better than you every imagine it will be (but yes, exhausting as well!).

Hello everyone, I am starting to hope that I am coming through the worst of the HG - I am now 14+3 and have had several much better days in a row. I find that I can manage a good breakfast and then my appetite drops off significantly after that so I'm just trying to make sure I eat plenty first thing. DH made me a sausage sandwich this morning which I actually enjoyed eating so I feel hopeful for more better days ahead.

Lovely to hear about babyealli eallison - I find it hard to believe that the result of all of this suffering is an actual baby so it is nice to be reminded!

Glad to hear that you are improving Charlie and I'm on your behalf with your daft apeth of a DP.

Gold hope you feel better soon - it must be terrible to still be ill once baby is here.

spandau sorry you're not feeling better yet, and that your friend wasn't understanding - it is sooo frustrating when people don't understand that HG isn't just a bit of mild queasiness.

amys I've been thinking of you and keeping everyhting crossed for good news after the CVS. How long will you have to wait for the results?

Waves to MOP, Icant and others. Big hug to Mother Hen.

Hi all, still on from work with viral infection. Going to attempt going back to work tomorrow. A friend of mine pissed me off. Found out I was pregnant and have hyperemesis again. Her words were 'don't worry...hyperemesis is normal in the first trimester.' I was livid! This woman has never been pregnant before yet is constantly giving me useless advice about motherhood because she's babysat her niece every now and then therefore thinks she's an expert! I retorted with actually hyperemesis is not normal. Ms is normal. Being sick 15 times a day, not keeping down wAter, being in and out of hospital and having to rely on drugs to eat/drink a little is not normal. She then shut up. Some people seriously need to learn to keep their opinions to themselves if they know nothing about it! Arghh sorry needed to vent.

Madrigal glad you're doing a little better.

Gold you poor thing! Could it be reflux you still have that's making you vomit? Some women continue to have it after pregnancy. I'm one of them.

Charlie I know how you feel regarding oh. Mine is the same. Men are idiots! Sending you hugs.

Here's to a better day everyone.

Sympathies with Reebokand Charlie and Spandau about insensitive and ignorant comments from others, and OH. Reebok Your friend has never thought about the implications of that 'Hyper' combined with the 'emesis, I take it? . Charlie So glad things are getting better.
eallison That's a sweet picture. You are so right about being a mother being amazing - I remember a friend of mine being incredulous when pregnant when I told her that the baby would be her number one love object. I had forgotten you had problems with TTC.
That's a thought, actually; we worry about the statistical chances of abnormality, and when, as in amysmummy's case and others, they come back as high that's horribly stressful and just about the last straw,with Hyperemesis too.
I hope this remark doesn't sound insensitive, but I was thinking, the rate of low fertility was a few years ago, 10 per cent with the rate of infertility that doesn't respond to treatment was also 10 per cent. That's a pretty high percentage but people don't seem that anxious that they might be infertile. I wonder why that is? For all I know, though, infertility rates may have dropped considerably since I learned those figures. I seemed to be an easy conceiver but prone to miscarriage (and migraine) and for some reason this seems typical of people with a tendency to Hyperemesis - hormonal, I suppose. One thing is clear; we do not sail through pregnancies (and some of us suffer from breast feeding, too)- but that is no reason for those who are lucky enough to be made another way to be hatefully smug about it.

ealli lovely to hear tinyealli is doing so well :) bit of a cold or just normal cute and noisy babysnuffles? :)

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reebok I'll pass you some sambal to put in her tomato soup next time she comes over. A lot of it. so agree with mother hen, I wish people wouldnt be smug about their enjoyable pregs.

madrigal lovely to hear that you're getting some good days now :)

amy thinking of you and hoping

hi impatiently :)

Haha meerka!

I'm in pain ladies...having awful period type pains. Sat with a hot water bottle. Hoping it's just stretching.

Work colleague who knows said to me today - are you sure there is just one in there?! Tbf I look huge today and I'm only 11+1 I have a proper little bump but I assume it's because I had a big breakfast! New meds (prochlorperazine) seem to be working well, they're mainly for motion sickness and inner ear imbalances so I was convinced we'd go the other way but have been pleasantly surprised. Will try to wean myself down to 2 a day starting the end of next week I think, as ill be just over 12wks then and leave it at that for a few weeks if I manage OK.

Hope everyone is well. I'm just sat slurping a slushy!

I hope you are feeling better reebok?

iam glad new meds are helping. Don't try and wean yourself off them too soon, enjoy feeling less crap for a while - you deserve it.

meerkaI thought it was a cold but he's had it for most of his life (since about 10 days and he's 9 weeks now!) So the doc thinks he's just a snuffly baby.

reebok I'm sure it is just stretching, I remember some very painful stretches! If it goes on for a while tho, or any spotting, speak to your midwife.

madrigal I'm delighted to hear things are improving!

I wrenched my stomach yest and have been in pain since ligament pain I think and back as uts in places I get the sharp ligament pains ... really scared me though.
Ok til about 12 then ate and now keep gagging and stomach aching ... Grrr body trying to fight vom now so if I am sick it won't come up easy or go down its vile ...
18 weeks today... feel like I've been preg for ever.
Got private scan tomoz to find out if it's pink or blue. . Love another pink but as long as it's healthy I don't care really...

Gotta travel to brum for that one so about hour and half ... but been there in previous preg and they were fab x

I get period pains when it should have been my period if that makes sense ... Reebok hope it eases off.. I'm 99% sure it's stretching x

helloelo how are you today? were you able to contact the MW?

So pleased to read that some of you are feeling better. It shows that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
I've been thinking of you amysmummy, hope that you are doing ok.
Had a really difficult day as I've wound myself up about lots of things like how much work I will be going back to, and feeling like a crap mum. Keep bursting into tears and feeling like this is never going to end

Hey all, thanks for all the kind messages, it's lovely to know that my little precious baby has so many people rooting for him/her 😍. Been to work today, mainly to keep my mind off things, told them I won't be in at all next week, nursery is such a physical environment I want my lil nugget to get as much rest after the cvs next week. Feeling so hopeful one minute and helpless the next, the main results only take three days, then a fortnight for the rest. One positive is that because they're faffing around with the chromosomes I get to find out early if its a boy or a girl 😊 my hg has been so erratic the least few days, when the stress is heightened it's so much worse, I sit here and just gag for no particular reason 😓 hope everyone is having a decent day and no one is out in this vile weather! Took me over an hour to drive home tonight 😠 x

Dashing in quickly to say squeezed you are not a crap mum. My mum was a social worker and she always said that the parents that think they're crap are doing alright. Its the ones that think they're hunky dory that she had to worry about. You're doing the best you can in a crappy situation. A temporary crappy situation. Keep your head up, you're doing great.