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Going to A and E: please advise on what to say

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Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 13:52

Things have taken turn for worse and going to go to A and E. My GP can't see me til Thursday and I feel so close to losing my mind that I can't think what else to do. I've managed to get an appt with the GP for first thing Thursday and also the psychiatrist again so just need to keep self going til then. Can't go to parents again as they are getting on and this is so so distressing for them am frightened of the impact I'm having on their health, can't keep leaning on friends and so so guilty already for impact on husband so going to go to hospital as I've started having really serious thoughts that everyone would be far far better without me. One of my friends I spoke to the other week was very against being too open with NHS in case there were long term consequences but honestly don't think I should be the one to take care of my child if this continues nor do I think I would be able to do my job anymore so think is just a desperate but needed move to go to A and E rather than a rash one. Planning on just being totally honest about everything that's happening in my mind and seeing what they say as no longer feel can manage at all or put this on anyone else. I know this website is up and down at the moment so not relying on this really, just don't want to feel totally alone when I go in, not telling anyone where I'm going, and wondered if others thought this sounded like ok plan. Thank you xxxx

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mabythesea · 25/08/2015 13:55

I think your plan of going and being honest about how you feel, especially if you are having suicidal thoughts, is the best thing to do.

Mimigolightly · 25/08/2015 13:56

I think you are doing the right thing by going to A&E if you can't see your GP until Thursday.

Just tell them everything and they will take you seriously.

Big hugs and Flowers - let us know how you get on.

53rdAndBird · 25/08/2015 13:59

Definitely go. You are doing the right thing by planning to go there and be honest with them. Friend who told you not to probably means well but is not giving you the best advice right now.

Many hugs. I'm so sorry you're dealing with this Flowers

MazyCrummy · 25/08/2015 13:59

Sleepless, go to A&E and be honest - the last thing you need is the stress of trying to 'hide' things from them, so I definitely think you are doing the right thing. Good luckFlowers

featherandblack · 25/08/2015 14:00

Yes, your friend clearly doesn't know how serious mental illness can be. Sometimes seeking help is the brave and responsible thing to do. As a parenting choice, it's the right one. Flowers

daisydalrymple · 25/08/2015 14:02

Speak honestly about everything you're feeling and you will get the most appropriate help and support you need right now.

And if it helps at all do keep posting on here. I hope some of the fog lifts soon and you start to feel in a safer place for yourself. Very best wishes and hopes for you and your baby x

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 14:12

Thanks everyone, this is really encouraging, just plucking up courage to get out and go now - thanks so much for your support xxxx

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daisydalrymple · 25/08/2015 14:29

You really are doing the best thing and it's really positive you are choosing to do this. Keep being strong x

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 14:56

On bus now...the thing I am most scared of is making the wrong decision because I don't have control of my fears or self really. I am terrified that my emotional state will be harming the child and equally terrified that meds will...I feel totally unsure which is more or less risky and know researching it on the internet is a bad idea but whenever I have both sound so potentially bad in terms of harm that I don't know which way to turn. I just wish I could be normal and get this under control, feel so weak and useless and not even had this poor child yet, should have terminated before putting him through all this.

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TheExMotherInLaw · 25/08/2015 15:03

You are very brave and very sensible. I wish you all strength, and do hope you get the care and help you need and deserve.
Your child has a wonderful mum, that you care so much about them while you, yourself are so ill.
Many hugs.

Mimigolightly · 25/08/2015 15:03

You are on your way to getting this sorted out. You need to put your health first otherwise you'll be useless when your gorgeous baby finally arrives. I am sure you will be given choices in the treatment they offer.

Please don't be too scared, you're doing the right thing Flowers

MummyPiggy87 · 25/08/2015 15:07

Your doing the right thing, and you should give yourself credit for taking a step to get help by yourself.
I don't know the full story but I've seen the thread you put up a while back.
You've come so far, I'm due the same month as you. I'm sure you'll feel a whole lot better once baby is here. It'll be a weight lifted I'm sure once you see everything okay. Keep us posted with the outcome of the hospital today I hope they help.

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 16:44

Here now, being seen next, thanks so much for all your support.

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Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 17:36

Nurse lovely now waiting for doctor. Feel detached from all this and sort of numb really like I've checked out which is far better than totally terrified. Not slept properly for while and think that's kicking in but this just feels so unreal

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glorious · 25/08/2015 17:44

Glad you've been seen by the nurse, well done for getting help and hope you feel better soon Flowers

irie · 25/08/2015 17:48

You're doing what's best for you and your baby. Hope you get the help you need Flowers

TheTravellingLemon · 25/08/2015 17:55

Sleepless I've been thinking about you since all this Jeffrey nonsense has been going on. I'm sorry to hear things have taken a turn for the worse.

You are absolutely doing the right thing. You don't realise it now, but what you are doing is such a hugely brave thing. You will look back one day and feel very proud of yourself.

I found this thread a little late, but FWIW, I think the truth is the best option. You need help, there's no more shame in that than if you'd broken your leg. But you won't get it unless you tell them the truth.

FlowersFlowers

DriverSurpriseMe · 25/08/2015 17:57

Oh sleepless. I've been following all your threads.

Be completely honest, and if they offer you inpatient treatment (I truly have no idea whether they would) you should accept it. Keep yourself safe.

Skiptonlass · 25/08/2015 18:10

Definitely be honest with A and E. Take inpatient treatment if it's offered.

Can I also say though, that your dh (who sounds wonderful) - you mustn't think of this as being a burden you have to keep from him. Please realise that yes it is hard for him (no one likes to see those they love in pain) but that doesn't mean he's not there for you. Lean on him too. You're a team.

I do hope you're ok. Acknowledgement and seeking treatment is half the battle. I'll be thinking of you.

babymouse · 25/08/2015 18:15

Please take care of yourself and realise that your friends and family want you to let them know so that they can offer you support.

purplepandas · 25/08/2015 18:17

Really hoping that you get some good support Op. Flowers

bikeandrun · 25/08/2015 18:23

I would like take some of the Mumsnet haters on a virtual tour of threads like this and let them see what it is really about.
Hope you get the help you need op, if meds stop you feeling suicidal then they are helping you and your baby x

Sleeplessinnorthlondon · 25/08/2015 18:26

Thank you all :) doctor very kind, now waiting in psych assessment room on row with security guard. Trying to be friendly whenever anyone comes by as suspect some people taken here violent so staff probably already having rubbish day. Not sure what's happening next but this feels like the right place. Thank you thank you thank you for your support, feels like a lifeline xxx

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purplepandas · 25/08/2015 18:29

That's good news Sleepless, one second at a time.

FeelTheNoise · 25/08/2015 18:29

Another hand hold from me x

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