What would you do? Bleeding 3-4 weeks pregnant [graphic image warning added by MNHQ]

[Emmalbae]

Last night I discovered this upon wiping at around 10:30pm
Since then when wiping I have a small amount of brown discharge. This morning it is still their. I have checked internally and the blood looks like very old blood.
I found out I was pregnant Monday confirmed all week by home preg tests .
My period was due at the earliest tomorrow which would of made this cycle 35 days and my last six cycles have been 44 42 38 41 37 35 so could be even later than that I'm not sure. So I don't see how this can be breakthrough bleeding as even though ive only tracked the last six cycles i dont think ive ever has a 33/34 day cycle. Scared of a chemical as I found out so early.
Had an argument with the bf about it as his not concerned at all.
What shall I do? I've taken the day off work, I took the day off yesterday to go to the doctors and now this.
I can't keep taking days off.

It's quite possible. Please don't do that anymore, it doesn't actually achieve anything.

Thanks.
I am burping a lot again today which I had been since I got my bfp.
I may have just irritated my cervix.
I was convinced I couldn't conceive 2 months later I'm pregnant and now I'm convinced ill loose my baby,
I also did some heavy ish lifting at work 10.7 kilos worth of stuff (factory stuff) could that cause bleeding ?

I wouldn't have though heavy lifting could cause any damage this early. I had cervical erosion all through my pregnancy, lots of blood like your picture frequently and a heavy brown bleed early on (five or six weeks maybe, can't remember exactly) (and gushes of red blood at 39 weeks as my cervix started opening for the birth!). Until I was 8 weeks the midwives and doctors said over the phone just to carry on as normal, go to work etc as there was nothing they could do at that stage, just to call back if the bleeding or cramps got very bad.

Oh ok :/. thats that out the window then. was a little bit happier but your right probably a stupid self reassurance thing when its probably going to end up badly (thats how i feel)

glad your bleeding turned out ok.

When I had early bleeding my GP said that lifting or whatever didn't make any difference - which is good because I had a 15 kilo toddler to carry about!

She said that the old advice to rest, put your feet up etc made no difference to outcome.

Please stop poking at yourself though, you will make yourself sore and even more anxious than you are.

Oh :(
i thought i was onto a winner their.
really sad now thats not even a possibility :(

hope your bleeding was nothing

Like Rooby since 7 weeks (nearly 10 now) I had on off brown blood and that too was ectropian.

I hope all works ok for you.

Glad it worked out for you.
I'm gutted though I'm either googling, crying, sleeping or staring into space completely numb and frozen

Stop googling - Dr Google never has anything positive to say and as many have told you bleeding in early pregnancy can go either way. Hope you're feeling a bit better today

Please stop googling and poking yourself down there.

I had bleeding at 16 weeks (he's 3yo now) and went to A&E on my own in tears to be checked out (DH had to stay home with DC1 as he was asleep). The doctor was brusque and said essentially that they couldn't do anything anyway and that this was normal in pregnancy. I saw my midwife the next day, who was a lot gentler but did tilt her head and say "But what did you expect them to do? They can't do anything at this stage, you know." Basically I was treated like a nuisance - not one person said "Don't worry love, it might all be totally fine. We understand that you're scared, but try not to be." There was minimal emotional support provided.

It's much easier said than done, but try to distract yourself today. All you can do is wait, but we'll wait with you.

I had similar and I didn't know how far along as I was- turned out I was nine weeks. I was sent to EPU by an over zealous call advisor at NHS 24, but EPU told me that they would have reassured me and told me not to come in for a scan. This was because the bleeding was not fresh, hadnt lasted long and I had no other troubling issues like cramps or pain.

It turned out all was well. She said that the majority of pregnancy bleeds like this are nothing to worry about and go on to term. So try to relax. There is nothing they could do if there was a problem, but lost likely there isn't one. So try to relax.

Lady- that's how I felt by the doctors . ' sit back and wait ' my gp said ' because theirs nothing we can do' i feel it can just be said in a much nicer way.

3rd day still bleeding today I'm really scared to. Can this really be implanation . I thought that happened before my bfp, I got that Monday this started Thursday .

Waiting is the worst I'd rather know either way so at least if my preganncy is over I can start to move on rather that just being scared,

Thanks everyone for the support. It's really needed at this time.
Im not feeling any better today though :( xx
Glad theirs lots of success stories.

Implantation is an ongoing process as the embryo beds in.

I've had two pregnancies, one successful and one not. I bled a little at this point in both. And a bit later in the successful pregnancy, I had heavy red bleeding and cramping that lasted for three weeks. It was very worrying but a bit of bleeding is very common and doesn't mean anything.

Thanks,
Glad it didn't mean bad news both times for you,
It's been three days now can this still be normal after 3 days do you think? The longer it goes on the more distraught I am about it. Not one dr tried to tell me I could be ok just said theirs nothing we can do which I know but would of been nice for them to say 'this could also be very normal' they gave no other explanations other than miscarriage didn't bother explaining it what else it could be.

Just how heavy is the bleeding Emm
Is it period like or spotting? Do you need a pad or is it only when you wipe.

It is only when I wipe.
Yesterday I wore a pad and I had two spots the size of a pea on the pad all day.
Seems to get more when I wipe after moving around

Well I'm still optimistic on your behalf then.
I always spotted a bit after sex (up until week 16 ish).

I think it just jiggled around old blood. Very best of luck.

Thank you,
I havnt had sex since last Sunday though. I did use my fingers a few times this week to check cervical mucus though, could this have caused irritation ?
Strange it started Thursday night as I hadn't gone anywhere near the area that day.

My boyfriend has been great , trying to cheer me up but I know deep down his worried to. It's so hard. Playing games on the computer today but every two minutes I get distracted and start to well up.
Back to work tomorrow - am sitting down all day though so might as well go in. Might help :/ who knows.
Thanks everyone

It also feels like my period could start at any time

Emma I felt like that for about 3 months....

Thanks. :)
I just want to know so either way I can move on. I'd rather know if I'm miscarrying than have to play the waiting game at least then I can try and move on.

emma I'm so sorry, it must be very distressing. I do hope only the best outcone for you. But I ajsi think that you should be prepared for bad news as well as good.
Although bleeding can be normal, it as you know can be a sign that something isn't right.
So I'm wishing you all the positivity and best news on the world. But please also have a think about how you'd feel and the next steps of coping if there is bad news. You'll find lots of people on here to support you through either outcome.

Thanks. I really hope so.
Ive been in tears all weekend. its horrible. i just cant do anything.

im distraught, i havnt had sex since sunday so it cant even be that thats caused it.
i have been thinking about it but its so hard. one minute im having a baby then with wipe i might not be any more.
im literally heart broken.
no doctor has offered any kind words or support. just said sit back and wait you could miscarry. horrible. would be nice if they could of gone through other reasons with me.
im not coping at all. i cant pull my self together. i havnt washed since thursday, im forcing my self to eat and drink but thats it.

Emma I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've been there and it's horrid I know.

The one thing I would say is that in my first pregnancy I had a horrid bleed, zero symptoms and then another horrid bleed. Lots of early scans, angst and upset. DS is 3 next week.

My second pregnancy - extremely strong symptoms, near constant sickness, sore boobs, no bleeding, peed on numerous sticks tracking to see if lines were getting darker etc - resulted in a missed miscarriage at8 weeks which I had to wait a week in between scans before they would completely confirm.

I've just discovered I'm pg again and am trying to stay calm.

I know you feel so helpless and I did for the whole week that I had to wait.

In such early pregnancy miscarriage odds are around 30% so that means 70% in your favour so focus on that.

I hope you get answers soon.

People often sign off with flowers but here's a giant bucket of virtual wine instead...

Emma my friend bled bright red blood after she got her bfp, then at 8 weeks, she filled two pads and then for a few more days, she was conviced she was having a miscarriage, her little girl is now three months old, dont loose hope, i know bleeding is alwasy scary and think the worst but its not always the case, you need to try and relax i know this must be hard but getting yourself worked up is not going to help you or your little bean, stay positive and i hope the bleedng stops soon