"Are you sure it is not twins?"

[Maya15]

Just need to let off a bit of steam:
I am 30w pregnant and gained a normal amount of weight with a normal sized bump. Went to a wedding this weekend, felt pretty in my dress and met another friend of the couple. Had not seen that friend since I was 13w pregnant (and not showing back then). He thought I was due any day and when I told him I still had 10 weeks he asked if I was sure it is not twins?
Seriously?
Why does anyone ever think it is acceptable to say something like that? I mean do people really think with modern medicine, scans etc you would have another baby hiding in there? Why do people think they have the right to comment on your bump size? I am growing a baby FFS.
I told him I thought he was inappropriate asking that and he apologized but still feel a bit angry about it.

I thought that THE ONLY polite things to say to a pregnant woman are

Congratulations / how wonderful / are you keeping well

Anything else is a minefield IMHO

I got this a lot with my second pregnancy. It really upset me because it had been a twin pregnancy, but lost one baby about 9 weeks. I am slim, but did have a huge baby so can understand why people would think I was bigger than usual.

I don't think people mean anything by it. It's just one of these pat phrases people use. I'm not sure why people think it's okay to make physical remarks when you're pregnant, most wouldn't dare to at any other time.

Goodness, I've been getting this 'twins' remark now since I was 20 weeks!! It's getting a bit boring now...no, it's not twins, yes, I do carry big (previous two were big and I had three stone to shift each time after the births). I am carrying big this time too, and expect to have a lot of weight to lose after the birth again...getting fed up with 'twins' comments too.