The best shit place to be grads - Early pregnancy after miscarriage - hopes and fears

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So heres a thread. Hope you all find it!

Congrats we've made it this far

My worry at 5 weeks is I just feel apathetic and numb. Not excited, not looking forward. Not even fear. Just.... nothing. Constant knicker watch.

Plus wondering whether to push for an early scan and if so when? Losses were 9 and 11 weeks.

Ha, cliffhanger post there... Stupid phone.

Anyway, it came up 2-3 weeks so I'm going to try to relax. Last time I tested on cd29 and got a 1-2 and then on cd35 when I was 5 weeks started spitting and got the same. Not sure if it had risen and then fallen again because no tests in between. I know it doesn't mean anything because of implantation time varying but I'm going to try to take the 2-3 as a good sign at 14dpo and enjoy the day.

That's a really good sign at 14dpo. I've only ever had a 1-2 at that stage.

I haven't mentioned your twin theory to dp chasing. Don't think the poor guy could take it!

Hope everyone has something good lined up for the weekend, even if it's just a rest!

Oh guy thats a great idea! Damn i already filled everything in!! Oh well it will change anyway at the scan wont it. Im still gunna go with 5+6 until told otherwise :)

officelady so sorry to hear that :( everything crossed for you do you have a scan booked?

Im the same when i don't feel anything i panic. When i feel a twinge i panic. Cant relax!

We are at a family do tomorrow night so first time trying to hide not drinking! Im taking the car so hopefully no one will ne suspicious... although the venue is down the road we could have really just walked!

Feel sick as a dog. I'm sure work suspect - they're all being ultra nice Most unusual.

Hows everyone else?

I love how being nice=suspicious

Yesterday my nausea was baaad. This morning again but ok now. I'm sure I've piled on weight this past week. Need to majorly get my eating on track.

Haha greedy same here! Although i know that they know! Im still not mentioning it until i absolutely have to though.

chasing glad youre feeling a bit better. Well ive been eating ok but my tummy seems to have bloated today and i look 6 month pg! Fantastic!

Morning all

5+6 here today. Feeling very sick and anxious today. I started to miscarry at 6+1 last time and I'm terrified it's going to happen this weekend again. It sounds silly but it's DH's birthday this weekend and I'm worried sick something is going to go wrong and ruin his birthday forever. Last time I had a headache the day before it all started and I've had a headache all morning. Perhaps it's from being so tense and anxious rather than hormones dropping.
I know I'm being irrational but it's really worrying me. Trying to focus on my scan next Friday and that today I am pregnant.

officelady how are things today?

Just had pink when I wiped after going to the loo. I sort of feel resigned to it now. I will just have to see what happens over the weekend.

Oh Genni. I bet your headache I'd overwhelming stress and worry.. This baby Is the one my love. S/he is buried deep and snug and growing beautifully xxxx

Oh MsJ i hope you are ok it could be normal spotting have you spoke to gp/epu?

genni ditto. In mmc my baby died at 6 weeks exactly.. which is tomorrow for me. Im trying not to link them. They are 2 separate pregnancies. My sensible head knows this but my irrational head is full of worry.

No I sort of don't feel there's any point. They won't see me today so I might as well see what happens over the weekend. It was quite faint pink, it just felt like oh right, of course this is happening. I had spotting in my successful pregnancy as well as the mc so I was sort of expecting it at some point.

Saying that, this morning I was thinking well the absolute least pg I could be is 6 weeks, probably more like 7, so maybe I'd be lucky this time.

Oh please little bean be ok, I really want you to be safe and well.

Fx for you MsJ x

I am finding it soooo hard to keep our little secret with this bump showing!! And im only 10w2d!?
Uterus feels huge and pressing down type feeling?
Starting to feel really positive just fingers crossed at 12week scan our little pea is fine!

Aww MrsT what a cute bump! Fx for your scan, no long to go now :)

Thanx amyyy we are literally counting down the days...12 to go! X

How exciting! Not long now!

I found yesterday and my nausea really hard going. I was teary all day and worried/panicky. Today was better. The sunshine and dd. Had visions of baby in the buggy while we played at the park. Then promptly remembered it'll be fucking miserable in November !

My symptoms have all disappeared

I've had a few days like that guy x

I know how you feel Guy . The other day my chest was agony, now hardly anything. Just hoping it is due to hormone fluctuations. So hard not to think about it all the time. I have all fingers and toes xed for all of us.

No more pink in the 87 times I have been to the loo this afternoon. Just hoping.

Well my post yesterday disappeared! Bloody city wifi. Sorry you're having problems msJ. I hope there's no more until November and the plug goes!

Thats one heck of a bump mrst

I know how lack of symptoms makes you worry guy. Hoping for some sickness for you soon in the nicest way.

I enjoyed time in the park too chasing and was heartwarmed to see a n older sibling come and play with the little ones - a 6 year age gap like we would have.

Fecking working today and running late coz uber sick then couldn't find my lunch I'd prepared last night or my key to get out!

Hi everyone, I hope I can join you. I had a mmc in jan, and now pg again (no children yet). I'm still v early, 4+5, but am v worried at lack of symptoms. Last time I had exhaustion and sore boobs by now. I know rationally that every pg is different but I just can't seem to trust my body anymore. I'm thinking about doing another digi test to see if hormones rising, but then wonder if I should just relax about it. What would you do?

Guy i have had more days symptomless than days with.. and even then they havent been great big in your face symptoms :( im trying not to worry. Im a googler and found soooo many women get no symptoms some even throughout the whole pregnancy! Its a bit of a comfort. I know its such a worrying time i wish we all could just be at our 12 week scans now and know everything was ok!

Well 6 weeks today. The day my baby stopped growing last time. Trying to keep busy so i dont think about it who am i kidding?

Looks like we might have to tell mil today. We are at a party tonight and my plan of driving has been scuppered by her calling yesterday saying she had bought loads of drink in especially wine for me so she could have a pre-party and we could leave car at hers and go up with them. I was so shocked on the phone i went along with it.. this wasnt part of my plan!! Lol. Now i cant think of an excuse to get out without hurting her feelings or sounding like a twat.

Hi pickle! Firstly congrats! :)

I went through the same thoughts and decided against testing anymore. I didnt want to torture myself further. Ive also spent most days not feeling pregnant at all, compared to mmc where it was impossible not to feel pregnant! Like i said above though it is sooo common not to have symptoms so try not to worry :)

Hi pickle I was largely symptomless until 6-7 weeks and didn't kick in really til week 8, with my blighted ovum they were straight away. I am now 19+5. (I just check in on this thread every now and again)

Amy does your MIL know about your MC? If so I am sure she will be great and understanding and will keep it quiet as long as you want xxx