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BFP after IVF / ICSI - Chat/ support?

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Verkey81 · 19/02/2015 02:17

Hi, I've just got my BFP following an ICSI cycle and was (still am) on some threads over on infertility. I'm feeling a bit lost for support and chat as I read someone write that it is depressing to see those with BFP chatting and I don't want to put other people off using the threads if you know what I mean! Whilst it's still early days for me so don't want to count my chickens by being on the 'pregnancy' threads, but I found the others invaluable for support!

Anyone else been through IVF /ICSI and in the early ish stages of pregnancy want to come on the journey with me! Anyone who got their BFP and was chatting on the other threads? It's my first pregnancy so no idea if I would be this scared if I hadn't had to endure all this, but I feel going through IVF has made me much more paranoid and scared than I ever thought I would be! Not to mention the thought that if I lose this baby, that might be our last chance as no idea how we would afford another cycle! Are these fears rational!?

I'm coming up for 5 weeks pregnant as first test was last Friday (13th!) and have the next test to do this Friday for the clinic to confirm its still positive, then I guess onto the scan.

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Verkey81 · 06/03/2015 13:29

Thanks, just waiting for him to get ready, always bloody waiting for him! Soo scared Sad

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Verkey81 · 06/03/2015 19:32

Scan went well today, Little one doing well, I cried, it was such an amazing moment.

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minibmw2010 · 06/03/2015 20:52

That's fab Verkey!

rufio96 · 06/03/2015 21:44

Fantastic news Verkey x
Want Monday to come now feel so paranoid they won't find anything just want to know

LittleTalks · 06/03/2015 23:21

Great news Verkey, I can only imagine how relieved you must be feeling. Have you got an official due date?

Toes - I saw your update on the other thread. Sorry you're going through such a tough time. I have everything crossed for you next week.

ToesAndFingersCrossed · 07/03/2015 15:22

Hey everyone, next scan is on Monday 16th, I'll let you know what happens either way. Staying positive, a few people have shared success stories so hoping it's not quite the end for us yet! And we have another embie in the freezer still and 2 NHS rounds too, so I'll be here a while yet!

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Verkey81 · 08/03/2015 15:51

My due date is 22nd October :) toes keep us updated with your scan next Monday.

How's everyone doing?

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rufio96 · 08/03/2015 16:20

Quick question about scans - have they been abdominal or internal? Want to know if I should have a wee before I go in!

mgb0785 · 08/03/2015 16:27

Morning ladies..I think I'm just as lost as some of you new bloggers. I am on a regular 28 day cycle and every month, I start 5 days before the last month. This morning I'm at 36 days late. I had the cramps and headaches and teardrop spotting, like a brownish color, but no period whatsoever. I tested negative twice with clearblue on Friday night and Saturday morning. With my last pregnancy, I had no symptoms of pregnancy and when I tested positive, went to see my doctor and was already four to six weeks pg. Last wknd, I had major naseau with upset stomach. Could I be pregnant. I have never been this late.

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Verkey81 · 08/03/2015 18:38

Internal for the 7 week scan rufio I wondered the same thing but guessed as the clinic hadn't said to drink then it would be internal! Apparently it's much easier to get a good look with that one at this stage! When's your scan?

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Verkey81 · 08/03/2015 19:56

mgj I'm a little confused, have you had ivf? We're you given an official test date? Have you asked the clinic what they think? If you're testing negative, the clinic will be able to tell you whether to wait another week a d test again?

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Jelliebabe2 · 08/03/2015 22:13

Hey Verkey! Brilliant news on your scan! Dont blame you for crying... I'd be doing that too!

Jelliebabe2 · 08/03/2015 22:18

Rufio -good luck for tomorrow! Can't wait to hear about it. I know what you mean about being scared though. Mines next Friday... I'm scared stiff. I'm also getting little spotting the past coupla days so. that certainly doesn't help. Im going to be demented by Friday!

rufio96 · 08/03/2015 23:15

Thanks Verkey, thought it would be but thought I would ask! Do you get a picture?
Thanks Jellie, I've driven myself crazy most of this week but it has actually come round quite quick so hope it does for you too x
Hubbie admitted he's feeling very anxious about tomorrow too, guess it affects him a lot too.
Take care all xx

minibmw2010 · 09/03/2015 09:29

Good luck rufio96, my 7 week scan at the clinic is tomorrow ... eek.

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Verkey81 · 09/03/2015 14:51

Yes I got a picture rufio :) Two actually, one had the heartbeat information on as well! Any news? How did you get on?

Good luck for tomorrow mini this scan should be able to show you more than the last!

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LittleTalks · 09/03/2015 19:18

Just checking in after a looooong day at work to see how you got on today mini and Rufio. I really hope you got good news.

rufio96 · 09/03/2015 22:23

Scan was awful looking like a missed miscarriage. There was a sac and a yolk but no foetal heartbeat and the sac was measuring less than 6 weeks when I should be 8 today. Got to go to epu next week to confirm. We are crushed.
Sorry to bring a downer on the group, I wish you all the very best for your pregnancies x

minibmw2010 · 09/03/2015 22:41

So sorry rufio, big hugs to you. Scan tomorrow for me x

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Verkey81 · 09/03/2015 23:54

Oh rufio that's awful, I'm so sorry it didn't look good. Don't worry about writing on here, we're all here to support each other. Is there a chance it's just slow growth and maybe next week's scan might show more or is that just being optimistic? Lots of hugs sending your way

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minibmw2010 · 10/03/2015 09:24

We are in the same position as Rufio unfortunately.

Not good news at scan. Clinic said sac hasn't grown enough, is about a week behind. Have given me report to take to EPU but he's expecting them to say it won't progress and we'll have to wait for natural miscarriage or have surgery to deal with ?? Have appt at EPU at 10, DH coming with me x

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Verkey81 · 10/03/2015 09:38

Oh mini I'm so sorry for you as well, this is awful Sad again, are they just saying it's likely, or definite? Is there some hope still? As for the operation, if they mean d and c, please, please ask what the risks are first, I've been told I have adhesions and damage inside which causes my infertility, they asked me if I've ever had operations inside and the only thing I ever had was an operation when I had a miscarriage. They can't be definite about it, but that operation could be why I can't have children. It was a long time ago but still, I was never told of the risks Sad so please ask beforehand and be careful Sad In the meantime I'll be praying and crossing everything and doing anything else that the little embryos are just a little behind and have a week of catch up growing to play Grin

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minibmw2010 · 10/03/2015 11:00

The EPU agreed with Bourn Hall, said they could see a baby but no h'beat and they want to wait another week before they say for certain and then decide what to do. They suggested waiting 2 but I said I don't think I can mentally take 2 more weeks. DH was really good, poor thing cried at EPU while I was bawling my eyes out ?? x

LittleTalks · 10/03/2015 16:23

Oh god Mini and Rufio I'm so sorry.

The shitness of all this is overwhelming. They think mine is ectopic, I'm waiting to see if they're going to operate. I just don't understand how the fuck it is possible for so much bad luck to befall one person.

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Verkey81 · 10/03/2015 16:31

littletalks when did they say that and how do they think they know? God, what a shitty week, so unfair :(

mini bless you, I'm glad you have very supportive DH, waiting the week will be long enough but two weeks, that's just torture and not fair :( In fact, none of this is fair :(

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