New Anyone Due in August 2004 Thread!

[Toothache]

Here we go, as promised...

Yes Dino, I am M2T. Not in disguise though, just got really bored of my name.

So this thread can be a record of the last half of our pregnancies. I'm going to print out the original as a nice log of the first 5 months of the pregnancy.

This is thread we'll all be posting on when we go into labour!! I'm all excited now.

We could set up a video link and all push together.
Alternatively we could have a race to the finish

Ahem Dino - I'm not planning on waiting until the 4th!!! How about a week before then and you'll be home for your Ds's party??

Is there only 7 of us due in August? There was me thinking that was a busy month! September is much busier...... 9 months after Christmas/New Year.... .....

Just to note: My DH has predicted that I will give birth on 25th July.... he was right on with DS's birthday, so fingers-crossed!!!

Around July 25th sounds good to me.
Don't really want to hang on until August 4th, but don't want to be too early or I'll run out of maternity pay too soon and have to go back to work before Christmas

Sounds like a total NIGHTMARE Dino!!

I have myself convinced I'm going to give birth at 38wks... God help me if I'm 2 wks late.

Sponge - When are you stopping work?? I'm finishing at 35wks.

I'm working for as long as I can. Current schedule is to stop work on July 30th and give birth on August 4th .
Of course if I'm early then I'll stop as I go into labour.
Thing is I get 15 weeks full pay and with a couple of weeks of holiday remaining that takes me up to then end of November paid if I work right up to the end, but if I stopped at 35 weeks then I'd probably have to go back in November as I'd run out of money .
Anyway I don't really need 5 weeks at home - I can put my feet up here

Hello all on this thread - I'm thinking I may be joining you August ladies (see other thread!)

I'm planning to work to 35 weeks too. Feel exactly like you Sponge - MUCH easier being here than at home with dd!! Byee, D

Sponge - 15 wks pay sounds wonderful! I'm only getting the basic 6 wks at 90% then 102.60 per week for 20wks.

We are really going to struggle and are deferring our mortgage payments for 4mths to take the strain off a bit. It's actually putting a real downer on things. DH gets a rather tasty 50% payrise in March 2005 when he finishes his management training, but I'll be back at work by then and we'll be out of the woods. Talk about bad planning.... and I'm a Planning Engineer!

Welcome Dinny! I was just commenting on how few of us there are here.

Yes it's quite generous but we need it as dh has his own business and it isn't bringing in that much money yet, so I'm the main breadwinner.
At least you have a nice big pay rise to look forward to next year so the financial hardship should only be temporary, then you can pay off your debts and get back on the champagne .
Welcome to August Dinny.

Sponge - Me too. I'm the main breadwinner too.

It'll even out when DH gets this payrise though.... which will do wonders for his confidence too.

We are just going to have run up huge credit card bills.... especially for Christmas. God I'm depressed now.

aww don't get too down toothache we will all manage somehow. We were in a rush for DP to get a permanent job as he was only temping following going back to uni to do a masters. Luckily he's got a job now cos I was the main breadwinner too. I'm just thinking we can get by on 3 months at £400 a month.

Dinny when you due so I can add you to the board?

I fancy being 2 weeks early too. I'm working until 36 and a half weeks then having two weeks hol before starting mat leave so anytime after leaving work would be good for me. Work isn't the problem for me it's the commute thats knackering me out.

Didn't even get offered a seat on the train/bus last week was embarrassing DP by saying out load "it's amazing I can be invisible being this size" actually prefer standing for a while as SPD/backache makes me all stiff from sitting all day but won't tell anyone that!

If it was about money none of us would have any kids though so that's not why we're in this. Just think of that tiny little person with its little milky smelling head that will soon be yours and money worries will pale into insignificance .
As for Christmas, people will just have to accept thoughtful but inexpensive gifts this year.
Toothache hopefully my DP will start tyo catch me up next year too. You're so right about the confidence/ self respect thing. However old fashioned it may be men are mostly not comfortable with being supported by their wives. My dp is always saying we can't afford things when what he means is that he can't and he doesn't want me paying. Can't wait 'til he overtakes me and I can retire (well I can dream

Mornin' All,

Thanks Sponge/SK.

I had a bad night last night. DH and I had another argument and I had another panic attack. It's like PND all over again, although without the suicidal feelings and daily depression. I will be given the Edinburgh test at 36wks to assess if I'm building up to another bout of PND and I think I am. Trouble is if I've had a good fews days before the test everything will somehow feel just peachy.
I started spilling my guts to DH last night, telling him how scared I was and how I had this image in my head of the 2 children hiding in their rooms whilst Mum and Dad argue downstairs(memories of my childhood). I wasn't having a go at him, I was just trying to give him an indication of where my head is at just now. He got angry with me, saying that wouldn't happen and I was wrong (???)! How can I be wrong? I wasn't saying that's what WOULD happen, just telling him that those are the kind of thoughts that are flowing through my mind. He was too busy thinking I was blaming him for something. WHy is he so self-centred?

He's very good at saying the right things afterwards and promising to listen better to me etc etc. And by the look on his face he genuinely believes what he's saying. He just doesn't follow-through. It all goes right out the window the next time I'm upset and try to explain to him.

We are still waiting for the literature and forms to come through the post from the marriage counselling centre. The post has been sporadic around here lately. Hopefully that'll come soon. We definitely need a mediator of some sort. He needs to see that when I tell him I'm scared/unhappy/feeling down it doesn't necessarily mean I'm blaming him. Am I making any sense? Probably not the right thread to post this on, but once I started typing I just couldn't stop!
3 wks today until I finish work.

toothache my heart goes out to you it really does, I'm so worried about PND as well. My DP has never understood my depression either (I don't think you can until you go through it yourself), I've been the happiest I've been in a long time during this pregnancy and am just waiting for the fall. Tell him even Elle McPherson suffered from PND with all that she's got!

Thanks SK - I didn't know she'd had it. I think the fear of it happening is adding to the pressure. I'm so busy thinking "is this PND or is it just a normal hormonal outburst?". IYKWIM. I can't seem to distinguish anymore what is 'normal' behaviour. It's all so muddled.

The worst thing is that DS saw me last night. He came up to me and said "Don't cry Mummy, come and watch Telly". That made me worse, coz I then had DH saying to me "Look what you're doing to him!!".... and that caused me to panic more. I was hysterical.

I think SK's right that it's impossible to understand real depression unless you've been through it.
I haven't but my dh is terrified that I will get PND as a friend of ours did and tried to kill both herself and the baby (fortunately unsuccessfully).
However his approach is just to tell me not to get depressed. They seem to think it's that easy.
Like your dh Toothache telling you that it won't be like that. You probably know that rationally but that doesn't stop the fear.Hopefully when you get your counselling it will help him understand what you're going through better, and importantly will teach him how to react as this seems to be the main trouble.

Sponge - His reaction is definitely a huge issue. I know it's not his fault I get panicky but I really do think that these panic attacks wouldn't happen if he didn't get so angry at me instantly. They would perhaps fizzle out to a mild hormonal rant..... and not escalate into a full blown hysterical episode.

Where's Olive Oil these days????

Me too Dino. But just being able to type it all out here really trully helps me.

lol Dino...