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Oh bollocks. Can you see a line?

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Hurr1cane · 26/01/2015 10:05

Tell me this is some sort of false shit line please? I have been having regular periods, my last was around the 11th, but I've been slowly putting on weight around my stomach but I thought it must be because of christmas binging.

Anyway on Friday night I had a horrific pain in my stomach and it's all massive and bloated, I posted here about it and people asked if it was possible I could be pregnant and I said no.

I went to the emergency doctor who also asked this and I said no. I'm on the mini pill but do throw up a lot, but we don't DTD that often and we haven't been caught in over 3 years of being together so I just thought it must be fine.

But being a paranoid human I went and bought a cheap test from savers today 'clear and simple' and have just taken the test and thought it was fine but I looked closer and I saw this faint line. It appeared after 2 minutes.

It's very faint. Tell me theres other explanations for this? Please?

Oh bollocks. Can you see a line?
Oh bollocks. Can you see a line?
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sadlovedgirl · 28/01/2015 14:43

I'm so sorry for your loss
Please be kind to yourself

WingStalk · 28/01/2015 14:44

I'm sorry Flowers

misdee · 28/01/2015 14:55

I'm so sorry :(

TSSDNCOP · 28/01/2015 15:08
Sad
Allisgood1 · 28/01/2015 15:10

So sorry hurricane. It's really shit Hmm

The scan will be to check nothing is remaining.

willitbe · 28/01/2015 15:19

The scan will be to check that everything including thickening of uterus lining, is /has come away with the last bleed you had two weeks ago. If it hasn't they will still want to keep an eye on you until it is all ok.

As for feeling bad, while you still have hcg in your system, it can make you feel bad. For me when my miscarriages start then I feel sick (like morning sickness) etc, until my hcg is back to zero. Expect to feel tired too.

Emotionally it is a whole different story, that can take quite a while to start feeling better. Talk about your baby and the loss, do whatever makes you feel better normally. Try to do something to mark your loss, for me planting a rose bush in the garden, naming the baby etc, for others it will be different. It doesn't matter that it was only a short time you knew about and wanted the pregnancy, that in itself is something that will take time to come to terms with.

Please be kind to yourself.

CarbeDiem · 28/01/2015 15:20

:(
So sorry Hurr1cane Flowers

duckfilledfattypuss · 28/01/2015 15:34

I'm so sorry, Hurr1cane.

YvesJutteau · 28/01/2015 15:47

I'm sorry; you really deserved a happy ending.

5madthings · 28/01/2015 16:08

I am so sorry lovely xxx

Your dp is right you need to rest and look after yourself, he sounds like a good bloke, let him look after you.

Sparklingbrook · 28/01/2015 16:14

I am so sorry Hurr1cane. x

girliefriend · 28/01/2015 16:19

Sad am so so sorry, be kind to yourself and rest as much as you can Flowers

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Hurr1cane · 28/01/2015 16:37

This sickness needs to go away though. I almost threw up in the middle of tesco.

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BaronessBomburst · 28/01/2015 16:40

Try sucking liquorice.

And I am so sorry, Hurr1cane.
((Hugs))

WhatismyLife · 28/01/2015 16:47

I was so hoping you'd have happy news today. Thinking of you op. xxxx

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Hurr1cane · 28/01/2015 16:58

Sad I think DP feels really guilty. He's been really supportive practically but emotionally he's just been making jokes and trying to make me laugh.

But before he looked really sad and said "I made you dead ill " Sad

But of course when I tried to talk to him about it not being his fault he just said he had a penis of doom and changed the subject. He's absolutely useless at serious conversations but I can tell he's upset.

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fattymcfatfat · 28/01/2015 17:03

You both need time to come to terms with things, perhaps he will feel ready to talk in the morning. Its obviously a very difficult time for you both and you need time to deal with things, it will get better eventually x

ChippingInLatteLover · 28/01/2015 17:50

Now isn't the time to talk about it, but this doesn't have to be your 'only chance', you're very young. If you want more children, then you can have them (nature willing). You convinced yourself before you wouldn't cope with more children with already having DS with such high needs, yet once you were pregnant you knew you'd cope and you wanted it. You're allowed to want more planned babies. Of course, this will mean convincing DP or going it alone. But you can try fir more children, if you want to.

However, now is the time to grieve for the baby you thought you might have. Take care of yourself and listen to DP, you have to take care of yourself.

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Hurr1cane · 28/01/2015 19:15

Will I bleed?

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FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 28/01/2015 21:00

Hurr1cane, if it's very early days then you will most likely have what seems like a heavy period. You may get some cramping as well. Any worries go to your gp or back to the ward if that's what they've advised you.

Have you been offered any support? You can ask for it.

You don't need to think about any decisions right now, but you can change your mind about whether you want more dcs or not at any point. That's not fixed. But that's not something you need to sort out any time soon.

FluffyRedSocks · 28/01/2015 21:00

I'm so so sorry :(
I've been lurking and praying for you,.
Give yourself time to mourne, and let dp know that he's allowe to mourne too

This isn't your last chance, if you don't want it to be Flowers

Chimchar · 28/01/2015 21:12

Followed your story the other day. I'm really sorry that you've had bad news today x

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Hurr1cane · 29/01/2015 05:19

Could my last period actually have been a miscarriage and levels have been falling since then perhaps?

My mum brought some roses round last night. I think I'll press one and keep one. It seems wrong to just forget about it.

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Hurr1cane · 29/01/2015 05:21

I won't convince DP, he didn't want children anyway and now he's terrified of hurting me again, and him and DS and my family now are more important to me than buts or maybes. I do have a nice little life, I obviously have a very supportive DP

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