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Most annoying things people say to you when you are pregnant?

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AlpacaYourThings · 24/12/2014 06:13

I'm 16+3 and still have chronic nausea and sickness.

If one more person says to me, "Oh, I thought it stopped after 12 weeks" or "You'll be fine by X weeks" I don't think I can be held responsible for the hormonal rage that will ensue.

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mrshjb · 26/12/2014 10:18

In the first trimester it used to annoy me when people asked if I'd been sick and then said oh well it's not that bad then when I said I hadn't. I really wanted to say I might not have been sick but having constant diahorrea isn't really pleasant either but for some reason isn't socially acceptable to mention!

Second trimester onwards people saying that my DH must have been so pleased to find out that we were having a boy and me constantly having to say we would have BOTH been happy regardless of the baby's gender.

Then now I am approaching my due date I hate people telling me about how they went two weeks over and it's very common blah blah. I'm not an idiot, I know people go over but right now it helps my sanity to countdown to my due date!!

Oh and don't even get me started on the mixture of you're huge and tiny comments you can receive in a day!!

PregnantAndEngaged · 26/12/2014 15:22

"Eat this! You're eating for two now!"

"Get plenty of sleep while you still can"

If worrying about risk of miscarriage, "You'll be fine, you're young!!" :S

"I wish I could have a year off work"... you do realise that looking after a baby is probably much harder than taking a few phone calls?!

NinjaPanda34 · 26/12/2014 17:54

FIL's partner (she likes to take on an evil mil role) yesterday told me yesterday - whilst I was eating my Christmas dinner, you want to be watching what you eat- you'll get fat! Fuck the fuck off! I'm 33 weeks with twins, it's a bit late to be worrying about the size of me!!! Silly moo.

passmethechocolatechocolate · 26/12/2014 18:13

After I asked 'D'M if I was starting to look like a bit of a heffer she said 'have you seen how slim Kate Middleton looks' aarrrrrrrrrrgggggggggggh fucking thanks for that

pepperfish · 26/12/2014 20:15

So many of these are bang on! The blimmin' ginger biscuits! More likely to make me vom tbh! And the "think you're tired now?" line... Arrrrrgggghhhh please shut up!

People referring to the baby as just 'baby' as in "when baby is here" as opposed to "when the baby is here". I don't know why it annoys me but a colleague says it constantly in a know-all tone and it drives me nuts!

It shocked me how many people asked "was it planned?" At the start, I found it so rude and awkward to answer. Stepmother even asked if we conceived when staying at her house without a bat of the eyelid?! (We didn't!)

The worst has got to be a colleague who refuses to believe we don't mind the gender and asks me on a weekly basis if I have a preference yet. When I say "No, I still don't mind" she replies every time "hmm... Are you sure?? Well, ok, but if you have a second one, you'll want the opposite gender to the first one, won't you? Because everyone wants one of each". Do they?

I think the final one is people commenting on what you are eating - "should you be having that? I wouldn't risk it..."

Grr!

docpeppa · 26/12/2014 22:20

People (usually older relatives) telling me that smoking and drinking alcohol doesn't have an effect on the baby, as their children turned out fine. Have they though? Surely there could be health implications in later life? As if I am in the wrong and dramatic for abstaining from drink, I don't smoke anyway.

Also commenting when I say I can't eat certain foods. Fuck off! Why do you care about what I'm eating!

Well medical research has vastly improved since the bloody sixties and I'd rather trust a doctors advice than yours thanks!

I would have killed for a baileys and some pate this Christmas but I couldn't, don't need people going on about me being silly for not having it.

Everything and everyone is irritating me at the minute haha!

23+2

Littledragon13 · 27/12/2014 08:51

My mum going on about what I should and shouldn't be eating!! So annoying! I've always been naturally very slim and people have always speculated that I have some form of eating disorder (I really don't) even my own parents, it's annoying and patronising!!

DropYourSnow · 27/12/2014 09:01

Sorry to be a miserable Scroogey thread spoiler, but most people are just trying to make conversation!

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AlpacaYourThings · 27/12/2014 09:16

You aren't spoiling the thread, DropYourSnow. It's just a thread to let off steam about the annoying things people say.

I've found it quite funny as I have realised nearly everyone is being asked the same questions and told the same things as me!

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comeagainforbigfudge · 27/12/2014 09:52

DropYourSnow that is very true, but sometimes people overstep boundaries that they would never cross if weren't pregnant.

For example the new start in my work who took it upon herself to question how much I'd eaten that day. (Which was loads) she may have been trying to be friendly/concerned but I felt that it was rather rude as she doesn't know me from Adam, nor I her.

Or the SFIL who patted my bump on Xmas day. NOT EVEN MY OWN PARENTS WOULD DO THAT!
sorry bit shouty there but really, ask permission first!

DropYourSnow · 27/12/2014 09:58

Haha, I would be shouty too! Touching someone's bump is a massive no no.

I agree that overstepping boundaries is crass, thoughtless and uncalled for. But other comments are well meant - such as the "oooh, double trouble" for the twins. I appreciate it must be really tiring hearing the same thing again and again, but maybe that's training for parenthood!!

hoobypickypicky · 27/12/2014 10:00

Pepperfish, a family member is pregnant atm. We live in a small town so know a lot of people. I didn't realise how well we must know them until a taxi driver mentioned her name asked me if her baby was planned!

I really hated being told what I should and shouldn't do. Apparently I shouldn't have carried on riding, shouldn't have eaten brie or coleslaw, shouldn't have gone to the gym, shouldn't have enjoyed the occasional glass of wine. All of a sudden I'd stopped being a grown woman with autonomous choice and become a publicly owned incubator.

There are several people out there who are probably still smarting from my replies.

DropYourSnow · 27/12/2014 10:02

Whats wrong with coleslaw??

hoobypickypicky · 27/12/2014 10:12

It is/was on the list of foods which could cause food poisoning and harm the unborn child, DropYourSnow.

I was repeatedly told I shouldn't be drinking tea too. I don't think people knew what I might have done to them if I'd have been caffeine-deprived!

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AlpacaYourThings · 27/12/2014 10:21

But is coleslaw dangerous? I ate some yesterday Xmas Confused

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comeagainforbigfudge · 27/12/2014 10:31

Oh no not coleslaw?!!!!

I wonder if it's because it mayonnaise? As it comes made up you can't know how the mayo was made? Or if it's been sitting out for long?

Although I rarely buy pre-made coleslaw these days. Always tastes funny to me.

avocadotoast · 27/12/2014 10:35

Coleslaw is fine, just be cautious with it as you would be with mayo. (As in, don't eat it if it's been out the fridge for hours.)

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AlpacaYourThings · 27/12/2014 10:37

Oh ok

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hoobypickypicky · 27/12/2014 11:00

Sorry to scare you Alpaca. :) That was the instruction I was given years ago but things have clearly changed.

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AlpacaYourThings · 27/12/2014 11:17
Grin

Did you also rub my bump?

Family rubbing the bump is a new thing, I'm not sure how I feel about that!

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CallingAllEngels · 27/12/2014 14:15

I am 39+6 today and someone has just commented on a picture of me from Christmas Day "Maybe twins? Wink "

Yes, my mw and the sonograoher have clearly missed the other one for the last 32 weeks I've been undertheir supervision Xmas Hmm

And the comments have started..."Any news?" " Any signs?" - I'm sorry, would you like to discuss my mucus plug on fb?

The last few months before maternity leave endless "Is it twins?" (At least once a week). "You're VERY pregnant!" (Still 3 months to go dickhead) or the sharp intake of breath and sucking of teeth when I walked in the room.

moresnow · 27/12/2014 14:39

YY to DropYourSnow, sometimes you're just trying to make conversation as best you can. I've probably said variations on some of these boring remarks to the colleague who insisted on updating me every day on his partner's pregnancy. I wasn't interested, and my partner had lately miscarried, but I don't think he'd have preferred to hear that instead.

Parcelhamster · 27/12/2014 15:26

'You won't be able to sleep that late when baby is here' said disapprovingly, as if to criticise the fact i slept in until 10.

never mind the fact that at the time i was anemic, struggling to eat anything due to nausea and flat out exhausted with uni work on top of a lot of emotional stress. and the waking up.

but hey, you're right, how dare i have the pleasure of sleeping in?

Jollyjingles · 27/12/2014 15:30

Maybe if you don't want people to make silly annoying remarks you shouldn't mention the pregnancy/nausea/heartburn etc? I am sure people are just making polite conversation and trying to be helpful? If someone said to me I feel very sick all the time I would trot out the same old phrases, dry biscuit, ginger tea etc, but if you didn't mention it I wouldn't comment. Instead I would say, you look glowing and healthy, pregnancy suits you Xmas Grin

And for more advanced ladies who will always be asked how they are doing, a quick 'All going well' and change the subject!

Sorted.

Nunyabiz · 27/12/2014 16:28

Agree with Jolly. Try not to tell people how you're feeling. People love to be the experts on all things pregnancy/baby. They'll always use it as an opportunity to educate you.