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Most annoying things people say to you when you are pregnant?

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AlpacaYourThings · 24/12/2014 06:13

I'm 16+3 and still have chronic nausea and sickness.

If one more person says to me, "Oh, I thought it stopped after 12 weeks" or "You'll be fine by X weeks" I don't think I can be held responsible for the hormonal rage that will ensue.

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EstRusMum · 24/12/2014 10:03

"Are you sure it's not twins? You are so big!" Well, not really, I measure according to my dates.
"I wouldn't be surprised if it was 2 coming out." Well, I would and also would highly doubt in sonographer's competency and all the scan machines I've seen in this pregnancy.
"How long do you still have to go?" After hearing "2nd of January" (my ELCS date) - "Ooh, a Christmas baby!" Since when is Christmas in January?!
And the general one - "How is the bump?" Yeah, it's still there, growing. And thanks for asking how I am and how do I feel! Dickheads.

Also one of my OH's friends tried to put a glass on top of my belly recently. WTF is that about?! Am I fucking table now?! Or maybe my yet-to-be-born DD's head is a coaster?! Twat. Angry

Gudgyx · 24/12/2014 10:08

I'm 29 weeks just now, but want my children to be as close together as possible in age, so will be trying again straight away.

When I say oh I want another one right away

'Ha, you wont be saying that after this one is here!'

How the fuck would you know how Im going to feel?!

Bondy83 · 24/12/2014 10:22

When your due/overdue " have you not had that baby yet?" Or "any signs yet?" I'm. Sure people think your going to give birth and keep it a big secret! Grrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!

Rumplestrumpet · 24/12/2014 10:27

Oh dear, I have two concerns now:

One - not looking forward to all these comments over the net 29 weeks!

Two - really wish I'd read this thread 10 years ago, as I'm pretty sure I've said a lot of these things to friends and family over the years! Especially the comments on size of bump. Oh, well, I guess what goes around....

Mulderandskully · 24/12/2014 10:32

People telling you you'll have a total personality transplant after becoming a mother and do the opposite of whatever you think you'll do now.

People telling you to get plenty of sleep now- nice idea but it's not as though you can bank sleep
Is it?

leanne963 · 24/12/2014 11:14

'Oh, was it planned?'

Does it matter whether we were actively trying or whether we were 'not preventing' pregnancy, or whether it was a happy suprise.....
I always feel like if we say our daughter was unplanned it makes her sound less wanted. I just feel it quite a rude question the more I think about it...

jbee1979 · 24/12/2014 11:24

"when are you going off?" (work)

what? for Christmas? Maternity leave? I'm only 20 weeks!!

"I'd love a year's holiday from work"

me too!!

coastergirl · 24/12/2014 11:28

All of the above plus:

"You must be so excited!" Must I? How about asking instead. I have severe anxiety and AND, excited is not how I feel.

Elledouble · 24/12/2014 11:31

"Was it planned?"
I can't believe how many people have asked this. I've just told the truth. No. It was an accident. Wink We're delighted though, obviously!

"Look at the size of you!"/"you won't be able to fit through that door soon!"
Cheers.

JennyBlueWren · 24/12/2014 12:40

I didn't have bad morning sickness but it got quite bad sometimes when travelling to work and sickness is now brought on with indigestion... I have two colleagues who ask me whenever they see me if I've been sick or "feeling icky? Have you been sick? Are you going to be sick?" If I'm feeling sick it doesn't help to talk about it and I'll have already said to my close team that I'm "a bit off" which should be message enough.

My boss tells me that I need to take it easy and rest plenty, not get stressed... and then gives me lots of stressful things to do! She also puts any issues (genuine work related problems) I speak to her about being down to my being hormonal -including issues I've brought on behalf of my team and when a few of my colleagues went down with a bug -"maybe it was your hormones?!" I think she was joking that time.

Nona11 · 25/12/2014 22:43

Any advice from friends without kids!
One wouldn't shut up telling me how often I'll have to have dc feet measured when they're walking. Errrm I'm only 9 weeks gone, shoe measuring isn't my told priority.

Oh and horror stories (same person) telling me that I need my flu jab soon because didn't I know 10 pregnant women DIED last year! Yes I know I need it but fuck off with your advice and going on and on about whether I'll gain weight and how your mate lost it all the first week. Which is most likely bull as same girl classes her birth unmediated despite having an epidural and other drug's.

MrsN1984 · 26/12/2014 06:08

Everyone telling me just how hard it's going to be even after me explaining how hands on my husband is. People seem to think it's just the mum who does everything!! DH is amazing with babies.
And being told I was going to be a fat pregnant women then ending up with a neat little bump at 33+5, those same people now asking if I'm eating enough Confused

BeginnersLuck · 26/12/2014 06:37

When insomnia hit, being told it was practice. Sleep deprivation is clearly a bonkers way to prepare for more sleep deprivation!

figginz · 26/12/2014 06:40

"Was it planned?" Swiftly followed by "Oh, so how long were you trying?". I honestly didn't know what to say. Not long, we're both surprisingly fertile thanks for asking?! And what if we had been trying for ages, how do they think the question would have made us feel then?? Hmm

purplemunkey · 26/12/2014 06:49

I found 'was it planned?' to be the rudest question. And it came from a stranger - a friend of a friend when we were at a birthday bash. I don't understand how someone can't consider that rude, what if the answer is no? Why would you be divulging this to a stranger?

Anyway, annoying purely because of the number of times you will be asked - how far along/do you know the sex yet/did you want a girl or boy/is this your first/are you excited? Nothing wrong with any of these, it's nice that people are interested, but I used to get asked these same questions by about three different people every day once I was showing! I'm sure I asked the same things pre-pregnancy, I'll try to be more imaginative now that I've been there myself Smile

mumonashoestring · 26/12/2014 07:06

"You're so big! Are you sure it's not twins?" closely followed by another twit with their head cocked to one side in that horrible 'HR faux concern' way asking "are you sure they've got the due date right? You don't seem big enough..."

No, you're right, DH and I fuck like angry stoats every chance we get and I'm not intelligent enough to keep track of my own cycle and work out my own fucking due date...

"When the baby gets here you mustn't pick it up every time it cries you know, it's a bad habit for them"

What? Being loved? Very well. I'll tether 'it' in the back garden with a rusk and a bowl of water.

"Oooh, should you be eating that?"

This is the first time in months I've tasted food and enjoyed it - would you like to actually piss on my lunch or do you suppose I might finish it in peace?

slightlyconfused85 · 26/12/2014 07:17

Second baby. 'Oh I suppose you want a boy this time'

Uh, I got pregnant because I wanted a baby. If I have 2 girls I don't give two hoots

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AlpacaYourThings · 26/12/2014 08:12

"Do you have a preference?" Is another annoying one.

Yes, I would like this baby to get to term and be healthy & happy.

Oh you mean the gender?! Xmas Confused

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September60b · 26/12/2014 08:19

I didn't realise that when you get to 38 weeks, people actually expect you to have had the baby ready. I had 'Ahhh well, not a Christmas Day baby then but maybe in the next couple of days' all day yesterday. Errrrm I have 2 weeks to go until my due date. No pressure!

As far as I'm concerned baby can come when he/she is ready!

angelicjen · 26/12/2014 08:36

Christmas evening, DM and
MiL - you look shattered.
Thanks, I am, I've cooked and cleaned up for you all day. And you're still here!

missingpinotgrigio · 26/12/2014 09:28

From my boss on discussing my leaving date....Pregnancy should be embraced as something that is natural for the female body – think of all ladies in Africa & India that give birth in the field and just carry on with life/work

From another colleague.... You think you're tired now, just wait.....yes I know having a newborn will be tiring but I won't be doing a 3 hour round trip drive to work every day whilst having SPD!!!!!!!

Bustherb · 26/12/2014 09:32

I'm 12 weeks 3 days and have had morning sickness that lasts all day for the last 6 weeks. Someone told me today 'you know your not actually ill though yeah' ermmmmmm how would you like it being sick all day everyday for last 6 weeks..... GrrrrAngryAngryAngryAngryAngryAngry

JoanJettPack · 26/12/2014 09:36

I've got 2 boys and after a 9 year gap, I'm having another boy.

I get pitying looks and, "Oooh, I bet you wish it was a girl. Is that why you tried again?"

No, actually. I've never wanted a girl and I didn't "try again", I got pissed on my wedding night and didn't use protection.

TheScenicRoute · 26/12/2014 09:52

Time and time again I've heard this...
When telling people my twins are girl/boy
"Oh aren't you clever!"

Urmm, lucky I could understand, despite not being bothered by sex, but clever?

Only1scoop · 26/12/2014 09:54

'Have you tried ginger biscuits' Angry

Yes I ate my body weight in them and still threw up daily even on way un for birth ....out of the car window....

Gingereffingbiscuits