New posifrickentivity thread for pregnancy after miscarriage.

[squizita]

Hand holding and fish slapping...

Congratulations nerdybird! Enjoy!

squitza your body makes more of the mucus plug if it is the mucus plug. Mine was like a clear almost jelly like thing. A bit would come out every so often.

cakebaker35 I am so glad it went well! Great news.

I have athletes foot that got infected. I was so upset last week that I couldn't even put it on the thread! It is fine now. Under control. But I do not enjoy being pregnant.

Oh new thread baby. Enjoy your little newborn, nerdy.

cake Dr who does all the scans herself and is an expert in fetal medicine. If only I'm in Oxfordshire!

My mucus is definitely thicker than water - thinner than early pregnancy mucus though, but clear (the clearness scares me because it's the colour of water doh!). A pantliner copes just fine with it. Keeping an eye.

I rang the midwife who said basically the same - use a pantliner, smell it (no bad smell, sweet smell or sperm smell) and check for texture.

So. I have had news from the hospital. The incompetent Dr who I saw on Monday is not going to work there any longer. The mild feeling of guilt at being involved in someone losing their job (I would be very surprised if I was the first patient she'd messed about) is mitigated by the relief that no other women will suffer at her hands.

Cake wonderful to have your mind put at rest and that clot still shrinking

at USA info Squiz I regularly need them! Hope you're feeling reassured.

Ellis as it's only a week I would wait. Just because I'd rather it be on my terms and it's not long now.

Hurray Quiet! and Good news Badger

Whoop whoop Nerdy lol about the electrician!! So pleased to hear your baby girl is here! Massive congrats x

Thanks David it helps to know it's not just me. They've just announced to family, but have 12 week scan tomorrow. I am 26 weeks today. So they're 3 months behind. That must have been so hard for you. It's just a lot of feelings I think as much as anything. Even if I hadn't experienced mc I would be put out at their timing. Prev mc adds another layer. And am generally rolling my eyes about them as being so perfect, it all combines to a lot of bad feeling on my part. DP is seeing it as the grandparenting will be less intense now there's another to take the heat off us. Am trying to join in with his perspective. But tbh I just think it will make his mum cry as the other one is far away.

congratulations Nerdy Wonderful news! Hope you get to go home soon.x

mrsG I can't update the stats cos I'm on my phone, but if u happen to be doing them again fishcake77 let us no she'd had her baby last week I think (I'm pretty sure it was her anyway) the new stats list puts me 5th from the top which is nice, feels like iv been climbing that stats list forever!

squiz iv also had a big increase in discharge since jus before the 3rd trimester an am often paranoid it's waters, reallllly looking forward to in about 5 weeks time when I can start to view that as a good thing!

So I saw my midwife on Monday, everything was find and then about half an hour after I left there I remembered I hadn't told her about the craving tissue thing, and she already thinks I'm over anxious (cos I asked them to change my birth preference from Birth center to maternity ward after the initial midwife wrote that I'd chosen a birth center without ever asking me) so I don't wana call her n ask her about it and have her think I'm stupid. I reallllly hope I get a nice midwife in labour, iv found them all so unapproachable so far, I no they do a brilliant job and iv just been slightly unlucky but I'm starting to get a little worried il get another one like these in labour and just have a horrible experience.... Sorry for the self absorbed post, got a little carried away...

O and congratulations nerdy that's lovely news! Hope your enjoying ur newborn cuddles

Hi all, sorry been fairly absent, in a largely ineffectual attempt to not go batshit crazy. Every symptom and non-symptom is scrutinised for signs of positive progress or an indication things might be going wrong. But you all know about that right? I'm trying to be zen about it - most likely what will be will be and is probably already decided, it will just take a little while for me to know. So I think I'm about 5+3 - and a fully paid up member of first trimester freak-out club. Solidarity with badgers, G&T, silverine, blank and others.

Seeing doctor on Monday to arrange booking in appt, and hoping he'll also refer me for an early scan at the epu - no self-referrals here. But I don't want to be scanned until 7 weeks so there's less of a chance of 'we can't see anything but it's too early to tell if that's a problem' let's poke you about and wind you up even more. If he doesn't refer me, we'll go private anyway I think.

nerdy - woohoo! it is great to hear of positive outcomes. and i hope the labour wasn't too bad, sounded quite quick (though I know that doesn't mean it's as easy as it sounds).

corpore you're right, you don't need to feel guilty at all. you just told them what happened, they took the decision.

To add to the conversation about telling people, I'm seeing my parents next weekend, and debating whether to tell them. I'll be nearly 7 weeks if I get that far but prob won't have had a scan. I would really like to be able to tell them in a 'isn't this great news, we're really excited, please be happy for us' way but it feels far too soon to do that, and I'll be more like 'early days, let's not assume there's going to be an actual baby, better not talk about it too much'. And thinking what if I find out it's all up shit creek the week after I tell them? But they will definitely notice I'm not drinking as it's my birthday... hmmm....

hi effin - would you tell them if things went wrong? we took the decision to tell my parents very early as my mum had been such a huge support through my mcs, and it was a good decision as she was brilliant to have some RL worrying and support. We decided not to tell my PIL though, despite the fact they are fabulous too, felt like too much pressure somehow - we told them first after 12 week scan. I think it depends on your relationship with them and the level of support . We didn't tell anyone else despite good friends knowing our situation. I think a couple of them were a bit hurt we hadn't confided but it just felt too precious a hope at that point. Good luck!

Well done corpore - you are right - I'd be amazed if you are the first person she has put through a day of hell.

Corpore Most likely this is because she had already had several warnings and this was the final one! In which case you reporting it meant the hospital could remove her knowing she was a problem - you did them and the other patients a favour.

Effin I told my mum early because she is supportive and level headed in medical emergencies (be they MCs, scares, or 3am phonecalls "my legs falling off" "that's pregnancy cramp dear, drink some tonic water").
However she suggested not telling my dad as he is even more phobic than me of hospitals etc' and medical stuff utterly freaks him out plus he put his foot right in it last time asking me if I'd smoked/drank when pregnant because he believes Daily Fail style medical stories.

Alb I have been told several times if I don't 'gel' with my MW I can ask to swap at hospital. So try not to worry. :)

hi amicable yes, I would tell them, and did tell them about my mc last time. But I know my dm will be so thrilled for me, and I'm just not sure I can bear it when I can't let myself be excited yet. I would so love to be able to tell them in a really positive way, and in a way I feel like that's been robbed from us. But I guess there's no magic time when things are suddenly guaranteed, so the perfect time might not come.

I didn't tell my parents the last time, when I mc. I had just gotten married & they were still on such a high. I have a private scan on Tuesday (7+5) and whatever the outcome we will be telling them. We were going to tell them sooner, but I've been bleeding for the past week so want to give them definite news as opposed to 'not sure yet' news. Fx it'll be positive for us all!

Corpore - well done, and certainly don't feel guilty, nobody would be sacked that quickly on the basis of one bit of negative feedback - you were probably just another bit of evidence in a long chain.

Effin I told my mother the first time because I was naive, but then she was brilliant through the MC as DH was away and couldn't get back. I wasn't going to tell her this time but my nan was rushed into hospital at the weekend (she's 95 and has advanced osteoporosis and her rib cage has crumbled away) and I had to tell her as she and I are really close and I didn't want her to die without knowing, so then I had to tell my mother too. Haven't told ILs though as FIL has cancer and they don't need any more bad news if it does go wrong. And SIL last time was almost too nice about it, sending me flowers and telling me all about her MC prior to having her 2 lovely children, which was very kind but actually I just wanted leaving alone.

effin I too was unsure about telling my parents this time as I didn't want lots of excitement either. But actually when I did tell them they were great, very much pleased but we understand excitement isn't quite appropriate yet type attitude. In fact I've become a bit of an advocate for telling people, I ended up telling lots of people about my mmc as people who know me well could tell something was up and their support made all the difference. This time lots of people know too, again I realised they genuinely wanted to support me through this and everyone has been great about not getting too woo-hoo. Totally up to you but I've found the support in rl invaluable, like the support here x

thanks for all the opinions. I'm really close to my mother, and might well tell her, and just trust her to keep a lid on her excitement for now. She'll guess, anyway. My mil however will feel 'put out' if she's not told at the same time. Don't know how she would know, but dh thinks it's 'not fair' if my folks know and his dm doesn't. If he wants to talk to her about it, fair enough, but I don't want to 'announce' it to her. Frankly I couldn't give a sh*t if she wants to take offence I told my dp's first, I don't want to talk to her about it until I'm more confident.

cake I do agree with you about telling people about mc. It's so often a hidden away secret you almost feel guilty about. And so many feel so alone when it happens to them, I do think it's good to make it less surreptitious.

it's more the hope than the fear that's hard to deal with at this stage.

Congrats Nerdy! Hope you and your little girl are doing well.

Corpore - well played. No guilt

I too am undecided about telling parents and family etc. Not because they wouldn't be great but because the fall out of me having a mmc really effected my DD and at the moment we're very careful not to mention anything related to pregnancy in front of her (she 3 but doesn't miss a single thing!) I think people assume that they can talk about stuff in front of her in a 'code' that she'll never crack. Also I know that my parents will really worry about me until the 12 week scan. If I'm lucky to get past 8/9 weeks I might tell them then.

We've told our parents this time, we told them within days of finding out, simply because we are sick of telling them 'SeaSalt was pregnant but she's having a mc'. It was nice to tell them some good news for once!
I have a scan on Friday at 6+6 and I hope that all is well.
I'm freaking out.

I told my mum straight away and DH told MIL but both are good at keeping it to themselves. No one else in the family knows and I have decided to leave it to tell my boss. He is off next week so I'll have my 12 week scan next week then if all is well will tell him when he gets back. Will be a relief to be honest. I have a noticeable belly already and it's becoming a pain to hide!

Agree with Cake about telling people - friends and colleagues were really supportive when they found out about me, and it also led to a lot of them admitting that they'd been through it too, which helped.

I'm a worried badger again though - bleeding red blood this morning with cramps. The MWs are available to talk to between 9 and 10 so if it carries on I'll call them then. Still no news on when I'm getting a scan.

Hand holding badgers bleeding is always so scary, but also not always bad news. Keeping it all crossed for you and push for a scan referral, that's the only sure way of seeing what's what xxx

Congratulations Nerdy!

Stats updated - everyone is moving up

MeDoingMyThing: 2 DS, 1MC, EDD 14th June 2014
AliceBear: 1 DD 1MMC 1MC EDD 23 June 2014
Getagoldtoof: 1DC, 1MMC, 1MC EDD 2 July 2014
Louzul: 1MC, EDD 17 July 2014
Alb1 1mmc EDD 30th august
MrsGiraffe12: 1DC, 1MMC, EDD 7th September 2014
Squizita: 3MC, EDD 12 September 2014
OneLittleToddleTerror: 1DD, 1MC, 1 MMC, EDD 18th September 2014
HopefulHamster: 1DS, 1MC, EDD 5th October 2014
Londonjen: 1MMC, EDD 8 October 2014
Wigwam33: 1MC, 1DS, 1MMC & 2MCs, EDD 9th October (or 29th Sep according to NHS)
Fedupofrainydays, 1ds, 2mc, EDD 10 Oct
CorporeSarnie: 1DD, 1MC, EDD 1st Nov
MabelMay: 2DS, 1MC, 1MMC EDD 6th November
Omama 1 DS, 1 MMC, EDD 5th December 2014
Gwlondon 1mc DS 1mmc EDD 5th Dec
BobaFetaCheese; 4 MC, 2DS, EDD 14 December 2014
Seasides: 1 EP, 0DC, EDD 15 Dec 2014
Amicablemoomin; 2MC, 0DS, EDD 19 December 2014
QuietTiger; 0DC, 1DD (Stillborn), 1MMC, 3MC, EDD 25th December 2014
CallingAllEngels 2MC, 1DS, EDD 28th December 2014
aMuminwaiting: 5MC, 2MMC, EDD 31st December 2014
Cuppachaplz: 1 DS (twin MC'd), 8MC, 1 EP, 5 MMC, EDD 2nd January 2015
TeaRex: 1MMC, 1DD, EDD 7th January 2015
DitzyDonkey: 1MMC, 1DS, EDD 9th January 2015
Cakebaker35: 1DD, 1mmc twins, EDD 20th January 2015
GailLondon: 1 DD, 1 MC at 12 weeks, EDD 30th Jan 2015
Blankfornames; 1 MC at 6 weeks. EDD of DC1 19th February 2015.
BadgersInTheSlurryLagoon, 1MMC, 2MC, EDD 24 Feb.

Thread Babies:

Jessw25 Baby Oliver born 9 July 2013 5lb 11oz
BobaFetaCheese Baby Alexander born 30 July 2013 7lb 4oz
Andadietcoke twin girls born 29 August Charlotte 5lb 5oz & Sophie 7lb 13oz
Pentagon baby Elsie born 23 October 7lb 5oz
Bodicea baby James born 3 November 8lb
Ibelieveinpink baby Imogen born 14 November 7lb 4oz
BumpKitty baby Matilda born 18 Nov 8lb 2oz
Luckysocks13 baby Charlotte born 24 Nov 8lb
Jmf294 baby Alexander James born 25 Nov 7lb 4oz
Shellsocks baby Noah Stephen born 27 Nov 9lb 3.5oz
Gardenworm baby Wolfie born 1 December
Janielovesluckysocks baby Leo Thomas born 4 Dec 7lb 5oz
Bootyluscious baby Sofia born 17 December 6lb 2oz
ChocolateTeabag: baby Joss born 18 December 7lb 7oz
Blackholes: Baby girl born 23 December
WhatwillSantabring: Baby boy born 6 January 8lbs 7oz
pumpkinsweetie: Baby girl born 7 January 6lb 4 oz
Christinedaae - Baby girl Sawyer born 6th Feb 9lb11.5oz
MissMedusa: Baby Rhydian Thursday 27 Feb 1080g
TotalShock - Baby James born 25 February 8lb 1oz
Swangirl: Baby boy, 4 March
SaggyOldClothPussCat: Lucy Elanor 7 March 7lb
Pixielady83: Baby girl, 9 March
GuffSmuggler: Baby boy, 3 March
Fod: Baby Girl, 7 April, 10lb 3
TeaAndANatter: Baby Henry born 18 April 7lb 15oz
Kjh5: Baby Logan born 19 April 3.3kg
CbeebiesIsMyLife: Baby boy born 2 May
Tomkat: Baby Lolly born 16 May
Bakingtins: Baby Faith born 23 May 5lb 3oz
Penguinita: Baby Elanor born 27th May 6lb 1oz
Emki: Baby Michael born 29th May 9lb 10oz
Pgchimp: Baby boy born 16th June
Fishcake77: Baby boy Jack born 26th June 7lbs 14oz
Nerdy bird: baby girl born 1st July

Flipping heck... not much movement this morning. Did what they said and had a cold sugary drink and something sweet ... not my usual brekkie ... and I think I just digested it. Had a BIG old kick!!

Hugs badger! have you called them yet? If they won't scan you soon enough, just go to A&E and they'll send you up to EPU.