Hyperemesis Support

[LucindaE]

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

MOH's wonderful website is full of useful information on this illness:
sites.google.com/site/pregnancysicknesssos/
Another invaluable website is:
www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/
If you need help in obtaining medication, this phone number is
brilliant:
024 7638 2020

Lastly, the NICE guidelines on treatment are useful:
cks.nice.org.uk/nauseavomiting-in-pregnancy#!prescribinginfosub

I would like to thank Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.
So many women on this thread have thought they couldn't get through this, but they did.

Daisy is beautiful! Well done

Livingzuid Congratulations on beautiful Daisy - [thanks'
[grini].I'm so happy you have got to the end of a truly terrible experience - and are feeling better already. You are one of the huge majority who don't have this foul thing lingering around for a bit, and I'm so happy for you.
Meerka Hugs. Serious discussion on before here, I will read it properly but have to be out most of today.
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Congratulations Living she is absolutely gorgeous

Oh living look at her! She is lovely. I hope you are bursting with pride.

On the subject of how HG makes you feel, I find it truly frustrating and lonely too that the majority of people in RL do not know or cannot begin to comprehend just what it is like.
During my last pregnancy I had to contend with my toxic mother. I was confined to my bedroom as downstairs had a horrid damp smell that used to turn my stomach, even the thought of it used to make me sick. HG was much worse than in this PG and I was even being sick in my sleep. I remember one day my toxic mother phoning me to tell me that it was all in my head and I'd have to get out of bed sometime.

This pregnancy, I have been NC with my mother for over 3 years now so thankfully don't have that to contend with, I find my MIL just cannot or will not understand that just because I hold a 5 minute conversation with her (whilst secretly willing her to go away) or I go out of the house for the first time in weeks for a GP or MW appointment does not mean that I am feeling better. She also can't seem to understand that there is no magic pill to cure this. She keeps saying "but what about work?" or "what about your college course?". I just want to scream at her that right now I couldn't give a f*ck about those things right now cos I feel like shit.

I totally get the whole not really telling anyone about the pg too. Half the time I can't even remember how many wks I am.

Got home today after seeing the MW and just felt my heart sink, back to these 4 walls, the same routine and feeling like shit. Even tbe MW commented on how drained I look.

HG is a lonely and depressing condition indeed, my anxiety is through the roof at the moment, my heart is pounding and I'm worrying and worrying about everything.

Anyway enough moaning, how is everyone?

Excellent news Living, absolutely beautiful name too and I'm so glad you felt relief so quickly that's brilliant. Hope you are resting now.

Just wanted to say the same as Lucinda to Meerka. And also I did read very briefly about your previous experiences. It's nothing to be ashamed of you are all being very open and honest I had a relapse last night and a bit of a meltdown. I think because I was pg last summer too and really sick with it, then it took ages to go after my mc I feel like I've had this for a year now I've still not been able to celebrate my pregnancy and haven't made a big announcement. It's just great to know I'm not alone.

Living massive congrats and a cyber hug. Well done :-)
Daisy is beautiful and what a lovely name.
I am so so glad the HG has gone!!! Damn placenta.

MamPam
It really doesn't help having unsupportive people does it? I've been very lucky but I am still annoyed at my SIL for not even taking the time to understand what is wrong with me. With internet access I don't think there's any excuse.

Bah to college and work, it makes it worse. You will know if and when you are ready for these things, not when someone else nags you into it.
Some with hyperemesis don't get back to work and that's because it is a horrible horrible condition which can make it pretty impossible to function normally.
Stick your fingers up at the phone when she next rings, it really does make you feel better :-)

Sorry you're feeling so crappy at the mo :-(

MrsNec sorry for you too....

Just had my last midwife appointment then went up to RVI for pre-op assessment. We are good to go for Monday. 0730 arrival on ward, extraction anytime in the morning. Ahhhhhhhhh I cannot believe this will be over!!!!!!!

living congratluatoins!!! You've had such a difficult journey and now, finally, she's here and beautiful. so so pleased for you

congratulations to mr living too. delighted for you. oh and get as much sleep as you can right now ;)

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thank you for the messages. Kind of taking stuff in atm, will reply later.

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punk, you're up next ... very last days! :)

Punk how exciting you are on the countdown you've reminded me that it is an exciting time, I've been fretting about having another ELCS and I'd forgotten how great it is when you know when d-day is going to be. I found my ELCS birth to be a really calming experience, totally relaxed environment too. I hope it is that way for you too, good luck.

Wow congratulations Living she's totally gorgeous :) and so glad you are feeling better! Reminds us all why we are doing this too :)
Thinking of you punkstar the next few days And thanks for the info earlier.

Just saw the picture of Daisy - so cute!! You must be so proud of what you've achieved: getting through hg and childbirth - brilliant!!

mrsnec I'm really sorry to hear about your miscarriage and that it took a long time to feel well again afterwards, how cruel. How far along are you now?

I had two v. early losses immediately before I conceived DS. I lost them extremely early - 4.5 and 5 weeks - and even so I was feeling pretty grim with them. That was Jan and Feb and then I conceived DS in March and was ill till the end so it did feel like an entire year really. Obviously we are hoping and hoping that this pg works out and I never have to be pregnant again, but if something did go wrong I think we would probably wait a while before trying again so that I could get some strength back.

punk less than three days to go!

Congratulations living, beautiful name, beautiful pic! Hope you're asleep now and so glad to hear you're feeling better already!

Aw living she is gorgeous! Super cute baby, congratulations!

Go punk!!!

Everyone else, hang in there. I feel very positive as people graduate from the HG thread one by one and my turn comes nearer!

Slightly irrelevant but it's DD's birthday today as well living!

Living you have genuinely made my day! I'm absolutely thrilled for you and Mr Living.

It's amazing how attached you can get to people you have never met really. You guys are my sanity at the moment and yet I know next to nothing about you all.

Will post properly tomorrow but having a really bad day and there is more to read than I can cope with right now.

One more day down...

What a beautiful little girl living, congratulations!

Oklahoma hang in there. I'm so sorry you're having a bad day and very, very much hope you feel even slightly better later this evening or tomorrow.

I know what you mean about this thread being a lifeline; it is for me too. Even though we don't know one another, I don't know what I'd do without you all either.

Livingzuid Still delighted for you.
Meerka I can't really improve on what others have said, but I do so understand. I remember bursting into tears in the street once about the whole thing, and I didn't suffer for very long or anything like as badly as you, and you had all that stress about the infection. There is bound to be a reaction, that is only being human, things will get better. I remember Kali's PND and she suffered throughout too, and I so agree with others, that it's very common after this horrible experience. Do keep posting, we all love having you on here...you were invaluable with support when suffering yourself, too.
Chaffinch lovely to hear from you.
I'm sorry so many people have to contend with insensitive, ignorant behaviour as well as feeling terrible, and it's awful to have had sickness badly and then an mc, hugs to all who've had that. When I had an mc at least there wasn't much sickness, so it felt wrong.
Waves to Punkstar. I'll update that list soon.
SomeSunny I'm always surprised people can hide it for so long, I envy that, it showed on me by fourteen weeks. The only person who didn't realise was a man who was notoriously stupid who thought I'd developed a beer belly though I don't drink beer!
Great advice from Okla Lottie Booboosto Punkstar Kalidasa mrsb87 mrsnec Mampam (Still advice you to complain about that unprofessional nurse) and Somesunny.
Apologies to anyone rudely overlooked.
xx

Starry You are another who is really helpful and I'm so glad this thread helps feel cared for.
You are all a lovely lot. Maybe nasty people don't get Hyperemesis? Lol!
xx

living congratulations to you on your beautiful daughter- well done you!!!
meerka I was severely traumatised after my first hg pregnancy and it took me a long time to consider the possibility of going through it again- and you know the ironic twin outcome of that decision! Even though I am now 8 years and 3.5 years down the line from hg it is still a highly emotive topic for me and I will never forgot hence my posting on this thread- how I wish I had had this support 8 years ago. Don't be hard on yourself xx

Thank you so much ladies. She looks a bit alien like and the poor thing has a cone shaped head for a few days, but we are thrilled to have her with us at long last. I am in hospital with Daisy for 8 days and dh bought my laptop along tonight so I can write properly tomorrow.

I still maintain that pregnancy is the hardest thing I have ever done. From the whole ttc journey right through till after the birth. And the inability to nourish and hydrate yourself properly, such a basic thing, is crippling. Right up to my epidural I wondered what the hell possessed me to have a baby. Dh was practically in tears apologising for nine months of hell. It's been traumatic from start to finish and that leaves its mark on all of us.

This thread has been a total lifeline and huge thanks to you all for letting me wail and to lucinda for keeping us all going.

So excited for punk's ticket to freedom next week though! And starry that has gone fast although maybe not?!

Will write properly tomorrow. Waiting for my sleeping tablets to kick in yay.

Eight days in hospital living - wow! That sounds like quality care. Enjoy it - eat, drink and get lots and lots of sleep.