IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

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A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

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So, today my stress has moved on to thinking of a partial molar pregnancy. This is getting really ridiculous. Not only are they rare but they would be extremely rare with ICSI.

Hate, hate, hate this time

Oh Val, what are you like! I can so empathise, I was equally paranoid, only for me I was fixated on ectopic with every twinge. But they saw a heartbeat right? That wouldn't happen with a molar?

No, not with a molar, but after my extensive search on Dr Google, you do see a HB with a partial molar.

Can I point out that I realise quite how ridiculous I am being. I just want to switch my head off...the worry part at any rate.

I know Hun. Even when you know you are overthinking everything you can't help yourself. Part of the fertility rollercoaster... You have fought so hard.

I used to tell my hubby I wanted to take a sleeping pill and not wake up until 12 weeks. It was exhausting the paranoia. Then the day before I hit 12 weeks, just when I thought were home free, I hemorrhaged in the middle of the night. Cue another 8 weeks of utter paranoia.

I think it is only now at 29 weeks I am starting to behave a little like a normal pregnant lady... But of course when little man goes quiet for even a few hours I am having a heart attack again.

When is your next scan?

Val can I suggest an alternative? You had more than one embie back. Initially they both took, giving you higher than average HCG. One failed early on and has been absorbed, which is why you saw one heartbeat at the scan.

I've just had a bit more exercise than I intended. Toddled off to eye test. Bus goes practically door to door so didn’t bother changing into flats.

On the way back, traffic at a standstill – engines off. Plenty of buses but none of them going anywhere. It turns out there is an abandoned car at Bank and all the roads are closed. For quite a wide radius. My feet are now quite hurty. Meh.

Thanks Ferrero - scan next Tuesday. I would love to be clubbed over the head and outcold for the next 7.5 months. DH has offered

Thanks Euro - I did ask my consultant about that. He said we would have seen an empty sac on the scan - he is yet to find out about this latested mentalling . I was going to drop him an email but because it was a cheeky scan, the image won't be on their systems. My guess is he would say we needed to wait a week and rescan. So I will mental away until next Tuesday...that said, by tomorrow I will be convinced of something different I am sure...I am feeling really big with the PG too...ARGH. Off to...I dunno....obssessively mental.

Just been reading about the car at Bank. How (hopefully) random. I am useless at wandering more than 100m or so in heels.

Hi all,

Had a really good appt with my new consultant today. I am transferring my third trimester care and delivery to private under Mr McCarthy at Queen Charlottes. Have just not been happy with my nhs care to date and what's the point of going through 4 Ivfs and a miscarriage if I jeopardise the health of my last baby in the final stages. I have had to fight the nhs the whole way through to be treated properly and my baby nearly died during my first birth, so no more.

Mr McCarthy was really great and I am back in two weeks for a check up and to book a growth scan and discuss birth options.

It was really nice in comparison to my awful nhs consultant (although I'm not saying they are all bad).

So excited for my next visit.

That sounds really positive ferrero! Really pleased for you.

Have a nice weekend all!

Glad you are feeling happier ferrero. Def something I would consider, just not sure we can afford it. If I had exactly the same birth as DS it would be fine, it would be the huge cost of any complications.

I am still stupidly anxious Been really crampy for the past couple of days. Pretty much all of Thursday, all yesterday arvo and feeling it this morning too. Yesterday it all felt I. My public bone if that makes sense??

Ooh val I've had the cramps! I was terrified something was going to go wrong. Midwife reassured me that they're normal and called "first trimester annoyances" (translated badly from Spanish). I was getting them daily but just get them now and then now. I'd never heard of them before but I suppose because everyone is keeping quiet about their pregnancy during the first trimester, you don't get to hear about it.

Love you nobeer!

Just made myself laugh as realised you are 'embarazade' , or the correct spelling of it at any rate! Only bettered by the German 'schwanger'....it's the little things in life

is it really schwanger val? Or are you pulling my leg? It sounds rude! Yes, I'm embarazada (and a bit embarrassed) and soon I'll be able to tell people without whispering!

Yep...well, unless DH is lying to me (which is always a possibility ).

I remember the Spanish from being on holiday when I was PG with DS and getting really itchy heat rash and needing to get something from the pharmacy - which of course spoke perfect English. Far less embarrassing than queuing for one to open at 6am in Ibiza because I had hideous cystitis!

he's right! Ich bin schwanger!

Hi all,

Feeling really happy today. If you remember, I was really disappointed by my 4d scan last week. I got 1 nice picture, but the sonographer was abrupt and moaning about his position, she rushed through the scan, her assessment of his growth was dubious and after 10 mins we were finished.

Well I bit the bullet and contacted London Ultrasound Centre on Harley Street (used them 5 years ago for my first son and still coo at the DVD) and explained my disappointment and they suggested I come up for a scan today.

They were so professional. We spent 40 mins in the room, had a very thorough growth scan which included assessment of the blood flow through the cord, and despite him not being particularly cooperative, she managed to coax him out and we got ages watching him.

They have given us an unedited DVD and some black and white photos and they are posting us the final cut DVD, 2 colour pics with frame and 10 jpegs in the next week.

Badhair, they are more expensive than some other providers but they really are so professional. I saw Claire if you want to consider a Central London based 4d scan that is very thorough and smart.

Can't wait to see my finished DVD and meet my gorgeous boy now!

OK, so it isn't fair to keep on going on about the post-BFP worries on the egg buddies thread so, at Euro's suggestion, here I am. I am going MAD. Am sure I saw a hint of blood on Sunday night, just 2 hours after testing positive. Also saw some last night and noticed some on PJs this morning but nothing evident now when the pessaries were inserted (and that was the big teller when I had a m/c in Dec - the blood seemed to mix with the pessary ooze). Will it stop? I bloody hope so!

How is everyone else?

Hey Res! Am sooooooo glad to see you on here, but sorry you are panicking about the blood. Am sure it will stop. It's impossible to stop worrying though isn't it? Are you pregnant from a FET? So pleased you have got a positive. You deserve it! X

Res! You're here...you tested...you got a BFP! I am so pleased for you, although I know it is very worrying times.

If it's any consolation, i bled with the twins from 6 - 9 and 12 - 15 weeks, and again in this pregnancy from 9 - 13 weeks. It never caused the Dr's much concern, and from all my research it seems very common. The most common causes appear to be blood clots or irritated cervix.

Both pregnancies i have used pessaries and have had a rainbow of coloured discharge from them (TMI!).

Hi Bad and Beetle.

Yes, t'was a FET, Bad. Had cycle cancelled in March cause lining didn't thicken and thought April was going the same way but it managed 7.5 so we went for it. Maybe regretting that now...

I tested late to avoid the misery of an early loss. So, now I'm 5 weeks 4 days. Only got to 5 weeks 1 day last time.

The bleeding thing is so all consuming. You're worried, you don't check, you do check, you're relieved or worried again and so it goes on. Am so distracted at work.

But there has been no constancy about its presence like last time round and it's brown not pink so I'll try to be calm (yeah, right). Terrible headache/nausea today too; Dr Google puts this down to pregnancy or miscarriage. Thanks for that.

It is horribly consuming. Until the big bleed at nine weeks where there was a gush of liquid, i was only wearing black underwear and forcing myself not to look when i went to the loo. I figured that unless I was in a lot of pain, everything should be OK.

When do your clinic scan? I got some temporary relief by arranging private bHCG tests to tide me over.

Haha, Res you will find that for every possible symptom, Dr Google will tell you it is the most positive sign of a healthy pregnancy or the being of some truly horrendous complication. And still I find it hard to step away.

Less than an hour before I leave for my scan. Shitting. A. Brick.

Good luck, Vall, i will be thinking of you. Deep breaths!

Hurrah res! It's good to see you over here. I bled a little bit around test time and then every day for 3 weeks from 6 and a half weeks 9starting with a big red bleed and horrible cramping). It caused me a lot of anxiety, but centime is still in there at almost 26 weeks. In contrast, when I mc'd I had a tiny bit of blood around test time and then nothing until two scans had confirmed the pregnancy was failing and I had stopped the cyclogest.

I found the EPU at Tommies great when I was bleeding, so if you do feel worried enough to get checked out, I recommend going there. You can self-refer, so you don't have to mess about with a GP. All of the doctors and nurses I saw were brilliant (but the receptionist was a bit odd and some of the clientele were irritating). I saw them at 7 and 8 weeks, and they invited me back at 10 weeks, but I booked myself in for the Harmony test and the FMC does a viability scan first, so I had that at 10 weeks instead.