IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

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A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

Come and join me egg buddies!

Congrats Euro and Twinkle

It's all very quiet on here which I guess is good news if the menkulling has reduced. Or is it like me taking place only in my head?

How is everyone. I'm 16+4 and totally freaked out something is wrong or going to go wrong. 20 wk scan not for another 5 weeks. No real bump. No movement.

Not really told anyone - took me 3 hours of chat on Saturday to work up the courage to tell my mum. After 3 ectopics and 2 rounds of IvF I think I just feel like I'm making it up and that I have to tell people not to get their hopes up as it might not work out. Am I crazy?

My muff is ridiculously luxurious at the moment... I have had a go at the edges with a razor just to tidy it up as I'm off on hols tomorrow, don't want to scare any small children with a bikini yeti. But after that I'm letting it run freeee.... (last day in the office for two weeks, I may be a bit demob happy!)
ThoughtfulOne hope you are right and people are having a break from the menkulling for a bit :-) It's still really early to feel movement at 16+4. I don't know what to say except for obvious stuff like try to get through each day at a time. There's no rule that says you have to tell people at a specific time though, I don't think you're crazy to wait. I have some friends who didn't tell anyone except parents and siblings until after the 20 week scan, and they had no particular reason for that, it was a straightforward 'normal' conception after a few months of trying.

Thoughtful, I know the feeling about being scared to tell anyone. We told parents at 12 weeks because i wanted my mum to stay with me after the stitch op, and then told extended family after 20 weeks. I told friends a few weeks ago as I was having to avoid social events due to the bump and i felt very neglectful of my friends, they all understood of course.

I panic before and after telling someone. It's like i am jinxing things / losing control / setting up more chances for disappointment if it doesn't work out. In baby conversations i am forever saying 'if' rather than 'when', it's very wearing. So, you are certainly not crazy!

Vall congratulations on a perfect 20 week scan. Perhaps you're growing a future super model in there with those long legs!

Euro, such wonderful news that you have your darling baby home with you. I am so pleased for you and Mr. Euro, it's so deserved. x

Moggle, the leg cramps are horrible. I get them every night without fail now. Am thinking of trying compression socks (good for preventing varicose veins too) in case it's a circulation thing and upping water intake. Thanks for the tonic tip!

I am 27 weeks today, which feels like a good number. Just ten weeks until stitch removal, which although sounds long, when i think about those first 12 weeks of pregnancy and how they felt like forever at the time but went quite quickly, it doesn't seem so bad. Have plucked up the courage (and raided the savings) to book onto NCT today so as not to miss out.

Well Beetle if she takes after me...

I am lurking, I would post more regularly but I fear I would sound like a complete nutjob with all my insecurities!!

I too get the fear when I tell people, or buy something essential (like clothes that fit...or pregnancy vitamins on 3 for 2....)

I am getting regular movement now which is fab. It's all on her own terms though. If I am panicing that I haven't felt her that day none of the 'tricks' (cold water, sugary food etc) will make her budge!

I hope you enjoy NCT Beetle - was debating doing a refresher one as my NCT group are North London which I moved from when DS was 2.5 months old, so I have no real contact now. I think I will do lots of baby classes instead when she is a few months old.

Thanks ladies

Hey guys- I'm an IVF girl too - now 18 + 5.still terrified of something going wrong thou!

I'm panicking about the anomaly scan now....and also about the fact that I seem to have tonnes of white discharge at the mo. Is this normal? I had so much earlier that I worried it might be my mucus plug coming away....!

I also keep thinking about incompetent cervix....not had any operations or anything but still scared in case it happens!

Anyone else as mental as me? :)

Hey ladies. Sorry for radio silence but things have been just plodding along for a while, until today when my waters went!

After an initial plan to have the baby immediately,they decided I wasn't contracting at all so I should be admitted instead and see if they can get another week out of me. I'm 33+2 now. I was never expected to get this far so I'm lucky but scared to have what is still a premmie baby. Everyone tells me he will be fine, and I do trust that, but still scary when you are given the worst case scenario talk.

So I guess this is the next phase! Hospital until baby arrives. :) I was actually transferred from Queen Charlottes to Chelsea and Westminster as they had no spare neo natal beds and the baby was very likely to need it. Feeling comfortable here as I was here for the operation in March so it's all familiar. I also had my IVF here so in a way it's a nice way to complete the circle. I might drop in to see them at some stage if I get a chance.

Oh wow Time! How exciting yet also very understandably scary. You are both in the best place and baby Time can be well monitored/prepared for until he makes an appearance.

I saw my dr yesterday (at 33w 2d) for a routine appointment and she basically said to me that all was good at this stage and that if the baby came now s/he would be fine.

I've also been plodding along, all seems fine (touch wood) at the moment. It's a strange limbo as we get closer to the due date, it seems to still be forever yet also suddenly very soon at the same time.

Waves to everyone else, how is everyone?

Chatty welcome. I found the menkulling did get a little better after the 20 weeks scan, then a little better again when the baby started moving and then when certain landmarks were reached....but not sure it ever does or will go away! I had loads of discharge too btw, think it is getting less now, but there was a lot for a while.

Hi everyone. Sorry for lack of writing, not had much Internet access.

time I've got everything crossed for you. I'm glad they've delayed the birth a little. Gives baby time to develop a bit more.

chatty welcome! I think my mentalling has calmed down a bit but last night I was panicking a bit because I hadn't felt her move for a few hours and then I fell asleep on my back and convinced myself I had done some kind of damage. She moved this morning. So worrying over nothing!

Welcome chatty - totally with you on the panicking!

Time - thoughts are with you.

AFM - I finally braved telling my Dad today and guess what his response was?! Me too - we are expecting a baby too! Fing h! 4 kids and 3 wives already and they "weren't even trying". So basically as I'm
sure you can imagine it sounded to me like - oops it's so fucking easy to get pregnant isn't it.

OMG thoughtful! I truly don't know what to say. Hope you're ok and not reeling from the shock. Honestly, some people well and truly flaunt their bloody fertility!

What a shock thoughtful! Will it be nice or strange to share the pregnancy with your (I presume) step mother?

I've been told today I'm going to be scheduled for a section on Thursday or Friday. Exciting! Scary! They are worried for my health if I go into labour, and 34 weeks seems a good compromise. I'm talking to the premmie doctors tomorrow, but all signs are that baby is big enough. He had suddenly decided to shift position though and it's bloody painful!! Maybe without water he wants to be somewhere else, but real sharp pains today. Not contractions as I've been on the monitor a few times with no signs.

Can't believe we are so close!

Baby boy Elliott born last night by emcs at 8.36pm. 4lb11. Wonderful size for 33+5. He is in NICU but breathing on his own, he cried when he was born.

I'm still recovering and not allowed to see him as I've got a fever, but dh has spent the night with him. I've expressed a tiny amount of milk so hopefully they have given him that.

But just wonderful!! 4 long years, never really thought it would happen. He is beyond perfect.

Congratulations and well done time! What wonderful news. Look after yourself and follow doctors' orders so you can be with Elliot asap.

Time Congratulations!! What brilliant news. I am so, so pleased for you I hope you fever subsides and you get your snuggles soon xxx

Thoughtful ....sounds like you are pretty philosophical about it?

Congratulations Time! Wonderful news. So glad Elliot arrived safely, and sounds a good weight. Hope you are feeling ok - please stay and keep us updated on how you are both doing

Congratulations time on the birth of your baby boy!!

Congratulations time!

Delayed congratulations Time!

I hope little Elliott is doing well.

I am 5.5 weeks post c section now and am on my second week at home alone with baby Leo.

First few weeks recovery from c sec were hard. More painful than anticipated and developed chronic IBS due to bowel trauma (no one told me about that side effect!), but am starting to feel more normal now.

Took baby back to ivf clinic a couple of weeks ago and they were so excited to see him as he is their first baby visitor since they opened the clinic. They were made up to finally see the result of all their work over the past year.

Unfortunately, Leo has reflux so things are abit tough with him. It's a challenge to ensure he is drinking enough milk and to stop him puking it back up. He cries a lot when the acid burns his throat and I spend most of my days and night holding him. He's a lovely baby though.

We had a photoshoot a few weeks ago, and I just got the pics back. Here is my favourite.

Congrats to all those who have now delivered, and hang in there to everyone else riding the rollercoaster of ivf pregnancy.

Sorry you are having a tough time of it fererro but Leo looks completely worth it!

Trivial worry for me today. I have a small cluster of stretch marks on the lower part of my bump - having had none with DS! I am only 22 weeks...this can't bode well...

Not trivial val,

I got stretch marks on my lower bump with ds1 at 40+1. I was fuming! Told my boy it was my body's way of telling him he had outstayed his welcome.

This time I got ds2 out at 39 weeks... Taking no chances!

I avoided more stretch marks but gained a horrid deep belly button and ugly c sec scar.

I think I will struggle to regain my appearance more this time.

Leo is a cutie, I love the pics. So glad I have some proper newborn shots to look back on as they grow so fast.

time wonderful news, what a great weight!!! And a lovely name. I hope everything is going well with both of you.

We've been on holiday in Spain for the past week. I was worried about the heat but it was fine- I took it easy and was very relaxed! The bed was soo comfy I slept better than I had in ages. It was a cricket tour and so I had 15 of DH's mates waiting on me hand and foot too, wonderful!

Now we are home for a week and a bit before moving house :-) done quite a lot of packing so far so hoping it will go relatively smoothly on the day...

Baby still happy and very lively it seems. Kicks and movements getting quite strong :-)

chattycat when's your anomaly scan?
ferrero Leo looks adorable in that pic!! Did they do the photos in your home?

Thanks moggle.

We took him to her studio (in her house) at 10 days old. Quite an operation after feeding and a sleepless night, but we made it.

She does go to homes to, but charges extra and has way more props at her studio.

Hello everyone. Just thought I'd pop by and see how you're all getting on.

Summer holidays are almost over and I'm back to work tomorrow. New term and there'll be new arrivals (ours!) before the end of term! My bump seems to be expanding by the day, in laws are very impressed! My ankles and feet have swollen but that might be because I was on a plane on Friday. I've got the midwife this week so I'll see what she says.

My mentalling continues but in a different way. I'm now worrying about how much we need to get and to do before she arrives. But I guess this is normal (nice to be "normal" for a change!).

I am so behind recent goings on!

Time, It sounds as though you have had a very dramatic time with the early arrival of baby Elliot. I am very glad to read that he is a healthy weight and i hope that he is going from strength to strength. How are you healing from the section? Did they leave the TAC in place? Please come and update when you can.

Welcome Chatty, how are you coping with the worry? Have you had your anomaly scan now? Hopefully they were able to check your cervix and put your mind at rest? Both Time and I have cervical stitches, and so understand the worry about whether or not your body is going to 'hold up'. An incompetent cervix is very rare, so just try and keep that in mind. The discharge sounds totally normal in my experience too.

Hatt, i am glad to hear that everything is plodding along nicely, you are getting very close to the finish line now!

Thoughtful i wasn't expecting you to write that at all! I'm sorry that your big announcement was overshadowed by that. Are you close to your step mother? Will it be nice to share the journey together? Hope you're ok.

Gorgeous picture Ferrero, Leo looks angelic. I've been looking at the tummy tub baby bath due to it's compact size, but i also read that it's really good for reflux or colic as baby is upright and deeply submerged.

Moggle, we are the same EDD aren't we? 19th November?

Vall, how are you? Have you blasted those stretch marks with some oil?

Nobeer, i hope the swelling goes down - or at least isn't uncomfortable.

Midwife appointment for me today for measuring and anti-d (plus long overdue mat-b1 form, after i've paid out for 3 prescriptions already, and a bounty pack!). 28+5 and just ticking along. Quite a few aches and pains in my bikini line and just general freaking out as no scan since 24 weeks and no more to come. Just hope my stitch is holding up.