IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

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A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

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Hi girls,

Please can I join?

I got a bfp 2 weeks ago after first IVF which is great. But I'm now terrified of the 7 week scan next week and what it will or will not show. I've been pg before but it was a blighted ovum so I know full well what can go wrong and obviously we have fertility issues- I have low egg reserve, so it's not like I can just get pg again if this is not working out- it could take years or might never happen!

Does anyone know what the odds are of getting to the 7 week scan and being told there is no baby/heartbeat etc? I'm so scared :(

Can I have a moan? I must have been bad in a former life. Remember a while ago that I was going for a scan and saw a colleague in the waiting room who clearly was there for EC or ET? Well, guess what? You guessed. She's pregnant. So now I get to watch someone who had treatment at my clinic go through the stages of her pregnancy more or less at the same time as I would have (she's about 2 weeks ahead so coming up for 10th week).

Chatty. I'm not the best one to answer your questions or quell your concerns but I am sure someone else will soon.

Well done all round on the scans!

Ah, sorry res,

Never a nice time to watch others around you seemingly succeeding when you are hurting.

I had it with my loss.

I encouraged my friend (who worked at my company) to apply for a vacancy in my team (thinking she could cover my maternity).

What I didn't know was that as soon as she got the job she announced she was pregnant - nearly 4 months. I started ivf the next day. It worked, all was great, until I miscarried at 9 weeks ... And I got to watch her waddling around until 38 weeks with the baby I wanted, and got to plan her leaving do and present and listen to everyone wishing her well on the mat leave I should have been on.

My mum also told me after I had another failed cycle that her work colleague we met having treatment at the same clinic conceived twins. I was as you can imagine not particularly ecstatic for her.

Sometimes it feels like the world is just a total arse.

It isn't fair.

Res: that must seem just so unfair. Will you see her a lot? I think the universe owes you some good fortune as you've really had a bad run of it. I've been thinking of you and hoping that you are bearing up ok (as ok as you possibly can given the circumstances). Xx

Ferraro: your friend/colleagues's pregnancy can't have been easy for you. Hope your current knocked up status goes some way to make those memories better.

Welcom chatty cat! I don't know the stats I'm afraid but hope the scan shows a HB.

Lugs: hope all goes well on your 20 week scan.

Euro: 26+6 is amazing, you're really getting there!

Hatt: congrats on reaching another milestone with your 20 week scan. I too found it encouraging when reading of success stories whilst under going IVF. It gives you hope.

Bad: congrats to you too on your 20 week scan. Another boy... That's really exciting! I have a son and if we have another boy I wouldn't mind as I really enjoy being mummy to a son (though of course am totally happy either way!!!). We will be able to find out the gender in 2 weeks with the results of the harmony test but am not sure if I want to or not ( we didn't with our son, but I am a lot more tempted to this time). Anyway, great news!

Val: glad you got some reassurance with your cheeky scan ;) I have to say that I have had a lot of cramps during these first 12 weeks, and have suffered extreme bloating and blockages . I've been so bloated that twice people have offered me their seats on the tube (I mean I am pregnant so its not too insulting, but this was at 10 weeks !!!!!).

Moggle: glad to hear bump is developing. I am very much at the fat stage!

Afm: scan went well, all is as it should be. I had a scan at 7.4 weeks, 9.5 weeks and today am 11.4 and the difference is each scan is simply amazing! Can't quite believe that 4 weeks can make such a difference. Consultant is lovely and very reassuring. So I'm happy and grateful... .

.... And knackered so turning out the light. Hope I've not missed anyone, xxx

Res, that really sucks. I agree with bears that the universe owes you some good luck after this..hopefully it will be sooner rather than later.

Good news on your scan Bears. They do go through quite some transformation in those first weeks don't they?

I've had more scan than I can count now, but my boy changes dramatically from scan to scan.... Sometimes I wonder if it's a different baby!

chatty you found us! I'm not sure of the stats but I hope your scan works out well.

res that is properly sh1tty. I'm sorry. That will be tough. There is nothing fair about any of this.

bears it's amazing how much happens in those first few weeks, isn't it? At 6-7 weeks all you see is a little kidney bean with a flickering heartbeat but at 12 weeks there is something very much baby-like there.

bloody hell res, that's harsh. I agree, the universe owes you big time. xx

Res that is so unfortunate. I am sorry you will have that constant reminder. I really try to put myself in other people's shoes, maybe it has taken her countless IVFs/MCs to get this far? I know the rational mind doesn't really apply in these situations and it is far easier to think that way when you are removed from the situation. I read really good advice on here a while a go that it is not her baby you want but yours That said I was in a smiler position at work with a random, very vocal PG lady. It took all my restraint not to go and lamp her at times.

Hi Chatty welcome to the nut house .

3rd trimester Euro

Bears and Hatts great news on the scans. Hi, my name is vallinnapod and I am a scanaholic Bugs - hope the wait isn't too slow.

Bad congrats on your little boy!! If I am honest I would LOVE another boy. Before I was PG with DS I really wanted a girl, when I got PG with him I couldn't have cared less. I sort of thought that strong preference would disappear once I was PG again but I do really want a little brother for him

Val, in fact, it is quite an interesting situation. She's my age(ish) and without a partner. Another colleague (to whom she is very close) recently gave birth and the background to her pregnancy was similar in that she did it on her own with donor sperm because she didn't want to wait around for Mr Right. It seems as if they both decided to do it and were both successful. I am jealous but not in the same way that I might have been if their situations had been like mine IYSWIM.

So frustrating

Stupid question but how are you feeling?

Up and down. Definitely decided that no more treatment. Just couldn't go through it again. I feel awful when I wake up and remember what's happened but then I was feeling awful every day before/after ET anyway in case something went wrong. You only realise when it's over how anxiety inducing the whole thing is.

Going to try naturally - I'm 43 now but it does happen and we've never been given a reason why I had no success after DD - but also try not to become fixated on it and instead to enjoy DD who has been a beacon of light and hope throughout the sorry mess of the last year or so.

And we're looking into adoption. Using DEs, I'd given up my genes anyway and so have no problem with the concept. DH is keen. Who knows?

Everything crossed for you. I hate the bollocksy phrase 'everything happens for a reason' but maybe it does

Well that is a very brave decision res. But I do agree that the constant treatment and disappointment is so draining that if the time is right for you it can be quite liberating to decide to stop.... Allows you to move forward.

Adoption is a lovely idea, and of course I wish you every success with TTC naturally.

Did anyone else feel constantly crampy at 8-9 weeks?? 9 weeks tomorrow and feel like something is going to burst out!

WTF is wrong with me. I have spent most of the morning so far obsessing over a bad Harmony result and trawling the Antenatal Test/Choices board Seriously....why can't I be a half full person

Hi guys,

Thanks for the welcome all.

Resipsa am really sorry about what happened to u- u don't need someone at work rubbing your nose in it for sure! I've had a similar thing in the last. 6 months since my miscarriage as my closest colleague announced her pregnancy just after my miscarriage and when I found out we needed IVF, so I've spent the last 6 months listening to all the chat about her baby around me - it sucks. Sounds like u are feeling more positive now though and DE is definitely a good option. I've thought about it myself (I currently have no DC). Xx

Hi all,

Had my second check up with my new consultant at Queen Charlottes/Hammersmith today.

Despite me feeling like a heavy, huffing, puffing whale, it seems like all is progressing smoothly.

My obs were all normal.... Bump right on track size wise... But baby is descending into the pelvis head down already (31+4). Explains why I now need to pee every 5 mins.

I had a blood test for my iron levels to see if supplements are working and the consultant is phoning me with results on Monday.

Am back in two weeks for a growth scan and check up again.

Whole thing ran on time and as smooth as can be.

Feeling really good under the new care.

I like a happy post!

Aww thanks res.

Hope you are ok.

D'ya know what? I had a fanbloodytastic day today with good friends and DD which made me appreciate what I have (as opposed to what I don't). Long may it reign.

Excellent. Well done res.

I remember those days after my MC Res! To be honest, the one positive is they don't really go away. We are having a lovely morning in bed with DS watch cartoons. It's sunny, he's gorgeous and funny and amazing and we are incredibly lucky