Any else want to hurt the woman on OBEM who was 'devastated' when she kept having boys?

[Emberlina76]

I mean. What???
Clearly never lost a baby or desperately wanted one and couldn't have one. Very very annoying.

Can no-one post on here without every word being analysed and taken absolutely literally?

The word 'hurt' can be taken a number of ways but I and I'm sure many others didn't assume it to mean 'let's hunt her down and physically hurt her'.

It's an expression! The English language is a varied and beautiful thing, an instrument if you like. We all play it differently.

Give the OP a break.

Did you not see the thread about stabbing the husband with a fork? That ended badly

FWIW I took it to mean OP was very miffed, actually not thinking she was going to hunt her down and karate chop her in the wind pipe.

When I mentioned her age I was inferring that she had lied to the tv producers about her age. She is clearly a bit daft, but yes I can see how that came came across as bitchy, she just got on my goat a bit with her attitude.

Doesn't change the fact that her attitude stinks, as I said before it's ok to have a secret preference but if she made so much of a deal about it on tv god knows what she was saying at home in front of the boys.i think most of us can agree we would never deliberately want to say anything to our children to make them feel unwanted or 2nd best and those who do are just plain shits.

I'm gobsmacked at all the vitriol aimed at the OP. She had every right to express her opinion on what was a disgraceful attitude from the woman on OBEM. Clever editing or not (and I don't believe it was) she said some truly awful things. The hurt her son's will doubtlessly feel will not be erased by her simply saying to them "oh I was only joking - they cut out the bit when I said I was just joking about being a man hater and only wanting a girl".

If anyone reading the original post truly believed that the OP really wanted some harm to come to the woman on OBEM then you really need to grow a sense of humour. Quicksmart. Sheeesh!

22honey and squizita, I disagree that gender disappointment is a "valid" feeling for a pregnant woman to have. To me, it's one end of an extremely unpleasant spectrum which has its other end in the kind of foeticide and infanticide which is endemic in parts of the world such as India and China. I'm not denying that it's a genuine emotion, but I don't think it's one that should be endorsed in any way. Surely it's not A Good Thing for women who are experiencing negative feelings about the gender of their baby to receive approbation and validation of their emotions? (Not from you, I hasten to add.) After all, there's a 51% chance that any baby will be a boy - don't people understand that before they start TTC?

Oh I've just seen it and she was giving me the rage, she is an absolute idiot. Her poor DS's!
Her mother was just as bad as well ranting about the special mother daughter bond being for life and not until they get wed like boys.
I was kind of hoping the baby had grown a penis out of rebellion/horror of being put under huge amounts of pressure to be the perfect little princess, drowning in a sea of frilly pink.

the thing that I found most distressing is that she was 33!?!?!?! NO ACTUAL WAY.

ha ha ha... just read back a bit through these posts. Laughing out loud at uproar of wanting to "hurt" the old bag. truly hilarious.

I still remember an OP nearly being hung/strung & quartered for talking about her overgrown lady garden & her poor husband.

Do these people really exist? do you think it's just planted posts to get a bit more action on mnet?? Let's hope so anyway, for the sake of humanity.

Fish, its a valid feeling in that it is very very common and there are often deep seated, subconscious reasons for it, often stemming from the persons childhood. Most people recognise they shouldnt feel this way and they come to terms with it and love their baby just the same once its here. Theres a huge difference between a bit of disappointment upon finding out a sex but shortly getting over it, to aborting or even killing the baby when its born because of the sex. I would say that the situation in China etc isn't even 'gender disappointment', its about a deep cultural belief that women are worth less than men, a society that doesn't value women at all, which is common in many Asian countries. In China perpetuated massively by the one child policy.

I have to say theres some right twats on that ingender website if anyones seen it, one main poster who had 7 DDs before finally having a DS, only ever wanted 2 DS in the first place, finally had her DS conceiving him just after she had her last DD. She openly stated that the age gap was way too small and stated that she was breastfeeding her DS and her youngest DD fell on the floor or something and was crying and screaming out 'mama!' for her, and she stated she just sat there and did nothing because her beloved DS was latched on and she didn't want to move him. She then stated she didnt have time to 'baby' the youngest DD because of the DS arrival, So basically neglected her youngest DDs needs who she only had in a quest for a DS. I felt sick upon reading that post, and whats worse is she got no criticism whatsoever! An attitude such as that is definately wrong, particularly having lots of children whose needs you then neglect because you have yet more children to look after due to your quest for a certain sex. So yes, whilst I acknowledge its normal for people to be disappointed at first, I draw the line at this type of behaviour, having DC after DC and not providing what they really need, all so you can have a certain sex.

I've never had a case of 'gender disappointment' myself, by the way.