The berries in the chopper (thread 5). All together now... clench

[CatsCantFlyFast]

For pregnant berries at any stage. Scary thought but this is the one where some babies will appear!

Good point boom. Thunder is 40 weeks today if my counting is right... Funny time to disappear eh ?

I'm here you nellies...

Eating biscuits in bed- that's the way to start your due date, yeah?

I'm sorry about all the birth plan meltdowns. tally did you resolve it with DH?

poppy nice one on being engaged already! You're 5 steps ahead of me in that one

bunny I'm still wary of jinxing myself, didn't buy anything for the baby til a few weeks ago and didn't need any nat clothes til about 18 weeks anyway. Was then lucky enough to be lent the vast majority of things.

Morning peeps!

tally hope you and DH sort out your birth plan x

Happy 40weeks thunder! How does it feel knowing you'll have a baby within the next 14 days?!?

So 12weeks today, all this sickness will magically stop now yeah?!?!? [deluded face]

Morning bunny et al! Congrats on 12 weeks bunny - my sickness slowly subsided until about week 16 I think. But then came back for a bit at week 28 - 32!

thunder 40 weeks, lordy lord - I'm a bit freaked it's jut over six weeks until my EDD so to be there and counting down the two weeks... is it exciting or just kind of tense, or even 'meh'?

I bought a load of M&P maternity wear after Xmas and it's been a mixed bag - the leggings are good, very comfy at the top, but have bobbled a bit; a top I've got came apart and frayed at the seams alarmingly quickly (and on the forearm so not on a fat bit); a dress I bought has been fab and I love it. I would say I should have sized up from my pre-pregnancy size as said top and dress were a little tight across the chest. I got donated a load of things from a pal who stopped spawning, and another pal who had a bad experience last pregnancy and didn't want to wear the clothes in her next so I haven't spent heaps - TBH there wasn't much I really liked, being PG over the winter makes for an extra boring wardrobe I think.

TMI question: I keep getting these stabbing pains up my burger: sometimes I get them at the front of the burger, but more often now inside the burger, accompanied by a dull ache - like a more painful version of the 'arousal' feeling what is this?? It's usually when I've been walking around.

Dh is still worried and I'm still upset. but I have agreed to visit the mlu and talk to the mws. I have an hour long appt with my community mW next weds that he's hoping to be able to get to.

the mlu is on the hospital site, so in my head it means more likely to transfer to the ward. I just want to stay in my own comfort zone. It seems a bit childish but I can't quite get past it at the moment.

Oh poor you tally - I can totally understand why DH is worried, and you've come to a compromise in agreeing to talk to the MLU. But I think your instincts are important in this process, and you want to be sure that if you do opt for the MLU you feel comfortable there. You don't want to go through this feeling any more scared than you have to, or pressured into doing it the wrong way for you.

tally good idea to have a chat about it with mws but also I don't understand what DH thinks the harm is in at least giving home birth a go - it's not like you're committed to staying at home-you can transfer at any time?

brod I don't think I'm the person to ask about how it feels re pregnancy stuff! I feel very calm and philosophical and today's date is rather inconsequential to me really - but it's definitely a good thing that the baby will be here pretty soon. It being healthy is by far the most important factor to me, so I worry more about that than any other details.

Boom I feel strangely proud that you are having dreams about me
Brod, I think the grads call those pains lightening fanjo, it seems quite a lot of them got it towards the end of pregnancy. I haven't had that but baby does have the ability to twang a ligament really deep in my right thigh which often takes me by surprise
No sign of mini Merk but she feels twice as heavy today

Ah yes, that rings a bell! I end up walking around with a sour lemon face when it happens.

Hmm, mini merk on the descent mayhaps….

thunder sounds like you're in a good place -I think worrying will soon become a very normal feeling to us all!

Not that it isn't already of course - sigh

Oh yes the whole lot is about worry and stress! From what I hear it only gets worse when the baby actually arrives! Focus on the positives...!

Tally, sorry about all the stress over birth plans, particularly as you felt you'd agreed a plan. Hope the appointment helps to resolve the difficulties.

Bunny, I last threw up at 12+6, and the nausea went away about a week later, so fingers crossed it will stop or at least get better soon!

Had a nice 16 week appt this morning - heartbeat amazingly strong and steady. Slightly surprised that I came back rhesus positive as I had told by the blood donation service I was negative. But that was 20 years ago and apparently there's a positive antibody that used to register on tests as negative. Anyway, am glad not to need anti-D shots!

Happy due date Thunder!

Grump... just busy throwing my toys out of the pram on (yet another) thread about homebirth full of scaremongers and stories with no factual basis for their conclusions

Tally you may find the studies i've referenced on the homebirth thread interesting link as you work through your cchoices (although i suspect you've read them all already)

In summary, 45% of first time mums transfer from home to hospital, and the risks are higher in a hb for a first time mum. BUT to balance this...

• If a crash (CAT A) section is needed, there is no proof that a 30 minute decision to delivery time (NICE guidelines) make any difference to the outcome of the section than a longer decision to delivery time (which may happen if you are transferring from home to hospital). Oh and either way, being in hospital in the first place doesn't guarantee you a 30 min decision to delivery for a CAT A... latest stats show 68% hit this target
• The overall risk is still very low (0.8%)

Feeling grumbly today
Seem to have Braxton Hicks more often, and back is already starting to complain, where usually it waits until the afternoon. And how can she still feel like she's up under my ribs if the head is engaged as well??
Contemplating disappearing at lunch to work from home, but feels a bit tricky with only 4 days left in the office after this.
Sorry - moan off - as you were

Thank you merk. I've read quite a bit of your post already but I need to get dh to read it too. Transfer from my house would be very quick.
I've tried hard to stay away from other forums because I really don't want to get involved with scaremongers. I know there's problems but I have had enough 'talking to' from people around me!

I just have to nip in and say: my BFF is pregnant! Only seven weeks but am still very excited. She's in a same sex relationship, and was a bit of an instadiffer but am so happy for her and can't tell anyone else! Whoop.

I read merk's very informative posts on home birth - very well researched.

I hope you feel a bit better soon poppy!

Whoop whoop brod

brod, that's great!!!!!

Woop, Brod! Great to be able to share with her.

Thanks for sympathy, though feel a bit for my moan. Came home in the end, in theory to work from home, but in practice, to have a bath and a nap and see if I could ease things off. Sort of worked, but still quite uncomfortable. I think this may just be the reality of late stage plus a bit of tiredness

tally hope that the visit to MLU either puts you more at ease about that option or gives you the information you need to get what you want. Ultimately, you need to be as happy and relaxed as you can be, but there is no one right way to do this.

thunder happy due date!

jess congrats on great scan - every one is another little milestone, and I loved seeing the heartbeat every time.

tally since having a plan about where I'm giving birth I've felt so focused and excited about birth. Know we have different things in mind but I'm guessing you felt the same as me about stuff. Does he know how this is actually potentially going to worsen birth for you if you're not happy?

jess did you actually have a scan or a Doppler? Still great news either way

My friend (the one who mc at new year) is also pg again but she's mega scared to tell anyone else this time and extremely worried. Will have to keep the party poppers in the packet for now but praying everything will be ok this time xxx

Kitty, it was a doppler - but still lovely to hear!

I seem to be eating a bit more normally (not stuffing myself constantly) and weight gain on the scales haw slowed down but my bottom is just ginormous and I have more back fat the a pot bellied pig!

ahhhh

Thanks brod and jess I am praying the sickness does wear off soon! Hope the burger pains stop brod

jess really pleased your 16w appt went well.

kitty great news about your friend, fingers crossed for her

Hand holding needed pretty please. Kind of freaking out about tomorrow, scared nervous excited but mostly scared and nervous

Hugs for you bunny. 12 weeks is nerve wracking, but it's just one more day to get through, and another piece of information to help you. I'm sure everything will go brilliantly, and we are all here regardless.