Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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All comers welcome, we're a rolling thread. Newbies, middles and oldies alike, join here for hand holding, knicker checking and general batshit craziness!

Awww Thankyou saggy
aoife wobble away, that's the whole purpose of this site, think of how far you have travelled to her to this point, I bet there were plenty of times when you thought "I can't do this anymore" and look at where you are now! I remember post scan being shoved into a room with DH and we both said "I can't go through this again. It's too hard" and now we are 4 weeks away from our EDD
Put something funny on the box, eat some choccies, take a soak in the bath or book into a salon. Try to take your mind off it all but more importantly look after you! Have you considered bereavement counselling?

Oh Saggy wept a few tears into my coffee catching up on the thread, I think everyone else has said it all already but . Ryvita is such a little miracle and she has gotten this far. No doubt she's inherited her mum's fighting spirit, I reckon she'll be a feisty little thing when she gets here

Aoife the scan doom is normal, despite our wobbles we all get into a bit of a holding pattern of coping between scans and the thought that we suddenly might be presented with incontrovertible proof that everything isn't ok is terrifying. Of course if you read back through this thread you'll see that those fears are unfounded. I remember telling DH I wasn't going to go to my 12 week scan the night before because it felt like I had come so far and I didn't want them to tell me I wasn't pregnant anymore... of course this was utterly ridiculous and everything was fine but I was CONVINCED it wasn't going to be.

I've found pregnancy to be a lot harder than I thought (everyone else I know gives the impression its a breeze) but then we've all had the worst thing happen to us and terrible emotional shocks along the way. Despite this we're all still here holding on trying not to go batshit insane and fighting for these little beans to make it into the world which - as saggy has pointed out - means we're all wonder women. Today you are pregnant and this very second, no one can take that away from you. Which as far as I'm concerned is an excellent excuse to have another chocolate digestive for breakfast

THanks all, I have learned alot about myself through all of this, and one thing i know is that i tend to deal with day to day anxiety pretty well , but then have major freak outs periodically. Last one was in November, so prob due one. Saggy you so do not put me off, you are inspiring. I suspect you are far from being a wet fish.

This thread is such support to everyone. Its so nice to be able to read all the posts from women and realise all our worries and insecurities have been felt my many of us and we are not alone and that you all "get it"

Saggy you are incredibly strong. Even when your having a wobble you are straight there with positivity and reassurance for others. I think a lot of the medical professionals deal with hard situations all the time and almost become immune to it when talking to us and forget it's not common for us and it's scary

aoife I'll wobble with you. Currently convinced that they won't find anything at my scan tomorrow, it is all just so like it was with my mcs. No symptoms, and the brown spotting has started again, light, but it's there, so I am freaking out. What on earth will I do if it's bad news again?

saggy I agree with what someone else has said - your consultant had to discuss all the options with you, but he was not very good about being sensitive at all! Sometimes I wonder if they teach people skills at the NHS.
I hope that you've managed to relax a bit again, remember that whatever happens, they will look after you and do what's best for Ryvita. I also didn't know about her DS and heart problem, blimey, you certainly must have had a rollercoaster.

My friend had her baby yesterday - we would have been EDD mates I nearly started crying in the office when I got the message, I'm so happy for her, but insanely jealous at the same time. I want to stomp my feet in a really childish manner and shout 'It's not fair! Why not me?!'. Argh.
And to top it all off, someone has hacked into my eBay account and bought weird stuff for a lot of money. Ba**s

Nah! Wet fish me! Im out with Mother today and trying not to either burst into tears or murder the old bat!

Jbrd have you contacted eBay? They can freeze your account and cancel out anything wrong. Also is it worth changing your PayPal password?

Hahaaa saggy angers is better than tears - I find you her much more done when your angry - are we baby shopping by any chance?

No. In grandma's flat. She's having a nap and the plumber is in the bathroom so mother is cleaning. which involves moaning a lot and giving me jobs which involve getting up and down off of the sofa.

Right time to pull myself together, and pouring over random mn threads (other than this one) is just not helping.

JBrd I can't fathom how you are still functioning. I am having a minor wobble based on nothing in particular and am holed up in bed. I so hope your scan gives you the answers you want tomorrow, I really want us to finish this together.

I might rouse myself and go for a walk

Grrrr Jbrd b**ds indeed! How infuriating. I don't blame you for feeling like stomping. That's really hard.

My friend had her baby a couple of weeks ago but I am feeling in a mood with her because when I told her about my mmc her response was sympathetic but to then invite me to come over and spend time with her when she went on mat leave and was spending the last month before baby came getting things ready for it. Errrr, really can't handle that, thank you. ???? I am so riled by this insensitivity still that it is stopping me having much contact with her even now her LO is here. She doesn't know am pg again, only DH does in RL, but I don't think I want to tell her either.

Good luck with your scan tomorrow x

Aoife It is a gorgeous blue sky day that sounds like a good idea, lovely sunshine on your skin can't fail but make you feel better x

Jbrd I was just thinking about you, massive hugs and handholding for tomorrow, am keeping everything crossed that all is ok and they can give you a good explanation for what is going on xxxxx

saggy sounds like partaaaayyyyy central hehee

Sorry to see so many of you are having wobbles at the min! I don't get chance to post very often but I try n keep up as much as I can on my phone.
Aoife I agree, try n stay away from the random threads, I have a habit of doing that too when I'm wobbling n it never helps!
Jbrd il be thinkin of you tomoro, u must be so stressed out, really hoping everything's fine for u!

I'm having a wobbly day too. Have had 2 whole days with no actual vomming (though I've felt sick at the usual times) and I keep poking my boobs. They're mildly tender. I do feel tired though.
Rationally I know that from 10+ weeks the sickness and so forth can quite normally calm down a bit, and I've never had a mmc (my partial molar was still growing when they ERPCed me) but I'm still wobbly as hell. Keep thinking of MMC and fearing waking with no symptoms at all.

Also, my belly and thighs are wobbly I CANNOT stop eating salty snacks like crisps and crackers! Ah well.

...if (FX) I make it past 12 weeks, I was wondering about investing in a book on pregnancy and birth. Something factual and no nonsense (I am too jaded to imagine yoga, whale music and a doula will result in no piles, stretch marks or birth pain) but likewise not scary (for obvious reasons).

Any recommendations?

'What to expect' was a good one god me squiz

#for me sorry

I second what to expect. And am currently reading the womanly art of breastfeeding.

I'm having a wobbly week (again). Sickness has gone and so has sore boobs. Tiredness is still in full force but still have the horrendous back ache low down, and now it's spread to the inside of my thighs (and feels like it's inside my bottom too, gross I know).

Scan on Wednesday and an irrational part of me is expecting me to say I've had another missed miscarriage.

Then I come on here and read such positive uplifting stories and lovely comments and don't feel so bad anymore.

TODAY IM STILL PREGNANT!!! :-)

Yayyy for MrsG's new found posifrickintivity!

Can I join the wobble? I had my booking in appointment today, all fine and I'm being referred to consultant as requested (although it seems I am deemed high risk anyway so was already going to be referred). I then stupidly looked on the miscarriage forum and saw a thread about a lady one day less pregnant than me who had a mc after seeing hb at 9 weeks. Seeing as how I haven't had a scan since 8+3 and now I have been having pains off and on for the past few days (not cramps, but a constant stitch like pain either in my thigh or across the bump). No spotting. Right now though moving makes the pain worse. So convinced it's happening like it did to the other lady. Other than that no loss of symptoms...still feeling sick and boobs still huge and sore. I do have a bump but that is likely wind and constipation (which is way worse at the mo). Scan Thursday!

Good luck for tomorrow JBrd, let us know how it goes.

Welcome lotty, I found the thing that helped me get through was sharing all my totally irrational fears and panics with the ladies on here when I would just sound batshit crazy to anyone in real life, who reassured me that they had been through it too and come out the other side.

Sending hugs to everyone having wobbles

I've got a physio appointment for my SPD next Wednesday, that's 8 days from seeing the gp to getting the appointment.

Think of you tomorrow jbrd I know it's awful waiting for these scans. I nearly passed out before my first one with the stress.

FX Jbird for tomorrow!