Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

All comers welcome, we're a rolling thread. Newbies, middles and oldies alike, join here for hand holding, knicker checking and general batshit craziness!

Evening ladies

Sorry for not posting for a while.

Saggy - you are mega - literally no other word for it Hun. I'm so sorry that consultant was so insensitive, I do sometimes think they don't stop and remember they are talking to humans - it's like they get wrapped up in the medical / science of it all.

To all the ladies experiencing wobbles - sending you lots of hugs. I remember the early days of this pregnancy I was a mess (no exaggeration) and found it hard to rationalise anything in life as I just felt so out of control. I had some bereavement counselling and would highly recommended it - I not one for talking about feelings etc to a stranger but it was like a weight had been lifted - I accessed mine through the miscarriage association.

JBird - thinking of you tomorrow Hun xx

jbrd hope you have sorted the ebay mess - what a nightmare and really annoying at same time! And will be thinking of you so much tomorrow and wishing all is well.

I'm struggling at the mo too - not helped by my tiredness. But symptoms mean nothing to me as had them with my mmc that got me to 12 weeks. But... Today I am pregnant. And it's oddly comforting to read everyone is as mad and illogical as me in my worries. It's so easy to give advice isn't it but then impossible to act on it myself!!!

Thanks fod I'm loving my posifrickintivity :-) let's hope it's gonna last till Wednesdays scan!

Gonna be stuck in the house all weekend as DS decided to puke everywhere and now can't stop shivering. DH is as useful as a chocolate teapot in these situations. At least I have mumsnet to keep me sane ;-) x

Oh dear sounds like we all need a large glass of wine.. But the next big ones going to be when we've got our babies!
jbrd hope all goes well tomorrow, let us know how it goes.
saggy sounds like your doc was covering the worst possible scenario in the most insensitive way, sometimes I do wonder who let's these people be doctors!! I send you patience with your ma, I'm losing patience with my grandmother from hormones alone so I salute you! Also my work means I know lots of adults with learning disabilities, including ds.... Most people live fuller, healthier and longer lives than their parents were ever told by doctors, (worst case scenario again).

Thanks so much ladies for your warm welcome and words of wisdom. It really is such a tonic and relief to find somewhere that I don't sound like a paranoid nutjob! You're all right, I must stop googling symptoms I know - it's just hard when my phone is a hand's reach away and it only fuels my fears!

Saggy, congratulations on your little girl, sounds like this pregnancy has been tough but I'm sure she will be so worth it all. Your consultant sounds blunt to say the least but they just tend to be slightly disassociated from the emotional side of things. Tbh the EPU were downright mean during my mc, barring one kind midwife. Perhaps that's just how they manage to continue the job they do. No excuse at all, surely dealing with patients with a bit of tlc is part of the training? Few have a good bedside manner.

Those having scans, I hope they went well

I had awful, chronic diarreah last night which is utter contrast to my usual consistent pregnancy constipation. That's had me worried as I only usually get the squits before I'm about to go into labour. Could be a bug but period type pains all day today so I am worried. Scan date (12 weeks) arrived today - 2 weeks exactly. Hope little peanut sticks! Somehow makes it harder now I've seen the little heartbeat flickering away

Just popping in to see if any other SPD-suffering insomniacs are awake... And might have any advice on how to deal with the horrendous amount of pain I suddenly seem to be in, I've had it bad before but this is something else. Doesn't help the baby seems to be trying to stretch out in my pelvis! God I'm such a wimp - there is no way I'm going to be ankle to cope with labour if I can't even deal with this!

Ladies, thank you all for your words of support. Two more hours... I think I used up all my adrenaline yesterday, I feel strangely calm. I'm sure it'll change later!

Good luck Jbrd sending you calm vibes.

Morning JBrd sending you all the posifrickintivity I can muster. Glad your scan is in the morning and a lovely morning it is too. I so hope you get the good news and then head out for a slap up brunch.

I am feeling substantially less wobbly today, how about everyone else? I can line up a round of wet fish if needs be. giraffe sounds like your hubby needs one more than you do.

lottystar having a baby inside you does all sorts to your guts, hormones innit. If you have the squits and cramps, most likely both originate in your digestive system. My guts tend towards constipation but can surprise me with the opposite on occassion.

kjh so sorry you are in so much pain. That sounds thoroughly miserable. I have no tips or hints, but labour at least should be a different type of pain. (That is probably the most pitiful silver lining I have ever mustered. )

And in other news. Last night it transpires we had a shooting in my street. Nice. Also my best mate has broken up with her odious boyfriend, which is fab, but she is currently living in mexico which is not so fab.

Right, right now ladies we are all pregnant. Here's to sunshine and posifrickintivity all round, with an extra portion for you jbrd

Thanks Aoife, I just wish my head would turn off sometimes - too much worrying and procrastinating. I just don't trust my body after last time. Won't allow myself to be officially pregnant until I feel the pregnancy is established. Self defense mechanism I guess. Awful about that shooting in your street, frightening. Pleased your generally feeling less wobbly too

Good luck JBrd, thinking of you.

Hope all you ladies have nice weekend plans? My hubby is off to see his folks in the North for a family meeting about care options for his parents future, their getting on in years. So I'm home with my lovely lads, if weather permits we're off to the park.

Morning all - sending you LOTS of posifrickintivity jbrd hope everything is ok xxxxx

Lotty please do go to the park! I've been awake since 6am and all I wanted to do was grab my camera and head out into the common this lovely cold sunshiney morning but (a) I can't walk and (b) my camera needs servicing so I'm wrapped up in a fleece on the sofa drinking a LARGE cup of coffee and watching my kitten repeatedly fall off our garden fence out the window... that silly little moggy does make me laugh

Thankfully the sproglet shifted position and the agony subsided just as I was about to wake DH up from his snorefest and make him share in my misery.

Hoping everyone else is on course for a lovely weekend

morning all... mainly popping on to say that I'm thinking of you jbrd and wishing you loads and loads of luck for the scan this morning xxx

kjh you poor thing. I had a terrible night too. Apparently baby is 2/5th engaged so head is right in pelvis and the pain when he or she moves is awful baby just feels far too big for me now I don't know how I'm going to get it out. I'm being so grumpy with family who are either texting or emailing every day to surreptitiously see if anything is happening I feel ungrateful but still cross I just want to be left alone!

I did think of another silver lining for you though, because you are getting used to pain your pain threshold will be higher for labour. My spd was much worse last time and I found the contractions very different and manageable for the first bit- helps that they come in waves. Also apparently spd means the pelvis is far more flexible so it should be easier for baby to move down. I've heard of people having very good deliveries following spd. I think water would have helped so might be worth discussing whether you can use the birthing pool with your mw. First time they said no to me as I was on crutches and they didn't think they'd get me out if anything went wrong but they've said different for this pregnancy and I've heard of loads of spd sufferers using pool in labour and it helping.

Aoife that sounds scary about the shooting. Hope everything is ok in your area.

Hope everyone who was wobbling is feeling better today. Have lovely weekends xxx

Best of luck jbrd.

I'm still having dull pains which are winding me up. No spotting. I did eat loads of wheat yesterday when I'm intolerant so I think half my pain is that and the other half round ligament and stretching. Not a fun combination

Crikey Aoife just seen your post about a shooting on your street! That's horrific!

Thanks Pixie - today I am all about the silver linings! The upside of only having about 4 hours of sleep means I have baked a caramel cake because I clearly need fattening up even more and the noise of the mixer promise of cake for breakfast means DH is up and out of bed and ready to tackle the LONG list of chores I have for him to do before he goes to the football today

allis I had the same pains/problems at the beginning, it's not a great feeling but it is perfectly normal

Oh Pixie I'm sorry you also had a bad night! But at least she is in the the right position/place for when things get going? Fx won't be too much longer now! x

[Jbird] fx!

[Lotty] enjoy your weekend and try not to stress. I go between hard/constipated stools and the runs, it's quite random but fx hasn't hurt the pg. Sorry to hear you've had a bad experience with consultants and medics - they aren't all like that thankfully. In my 3 losses and extensive tests/treatments I've only had 2 bad ones, so there are many kind ones oiut there.

Allis tell me about it! Yup mystery pains freak me out too! Think theyre muscular and/or digestive.

Kj and Pixie boooo to your painful nights. Hope things get better asap! :)

Kjh id be down the gps demanding a referral for the spd.
Aoife that sounds terrifying!
Jbrd holding your hand. I'm sure that everything is just fine. xxx
Thank you all for the kind words and support. I'm feeling much perlite today and I'm glad to see others are too.
Big hugs to everyone. xx

perkier!

Mental moment of the week: the mumsnet week 11 pregnancy page is crashing on my tablet so i'm like 'nooooo it's an omen'. An omen I should buy a new tablet! duh.

Are you ready Squiz, you know what's coming, it is cold wet and scaly.

Thanks Aoife wipes fish goo from face.

Good scan news! One baby, heartbeat, measuring bang on 7+4 (or 8+1 on second look). I am relieved beyond words, I was convinced it would be bad news again
There is a slight bleed under the sac, but the sonographer wasn't very worried about it (apparently, under is much better than above).
I am literally on cloud nine right now

FANTASTIC!
That's great Jbrd. x

Waaahaaay!! :) Jbird so very very happy for you! Go and have some cake or something to celebrate!

MrsG I'm sure it will, I hope DS is feeling better soon - your DH sounds a lot like mine ;) his catchphrase is "I don't do sick and I don't do poo" excellent!

Kjh mine too is getting worse, I've yet to receive my referral too ;( since baby has engaged I feel it soooo much more concentrated on the public bone, I've started to put heated wheat bags down there (sounds funny but it works) they should have it written on your notes for labour too - that way the MW can help you with your labour positions to ensure no further pelvic damage

Jbrd hope alls well, thinking of you and sending lots of hugs your way