Wading into spring with the all new shiny Posifrickentivity thread. PG after MC? Dive right in!

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All comers welcome, we're a rolling thread. Newbies, middles and oldies alike, join here for hand holding, knicker checking and general batshit craziness!

GP surgery?
Your cervix?
The M11 between Nottingham and Lands End?

ok. If it's the GP, I really think you ought to ring one of the numbers on your notes.

It's the GP saggy you do make me bloody laugh!

Nerdy your DP sounds so sweet picking things out. Certainly sounding very real with all the flutters as well

He he saggy. Hope all is okay Fod

So I want to ask you all about your boobs! 2nd and 3rd trimester ladies, is this true? On the mumsnet calendar for week 8 it says your boobs will finish their growth spurt and not get any bigger until the end of the pregnancy. That just sounds a bit unlikely to me? I've already gone up a cup size and I'm only 7 weeks. Will that really be it? What has been your experience pse? thank you

I'm a bit further on, coming towards the last stretch of T1 (wow!) London but they still seem to be a-growing. And veiny. And my nips have gone prune coloured/wrinkly. MN also said sickness peaks at 8 weeks then reduces lies all lies in my case.

not sure about boobs but my chest size has definitely gone up in last tri london, I moved up a band size around 30 wks.

My boobs haven't grown all that much.
I had to change bra size up two sizes but I suspect I wasn't wearing the right size to begin with. They feel firmer and are a lot more sensitive/painful, especially the nipples. Nipples have gone a funny colour and seem bigger too.
I've had to switch to wearing crop tops as underwires were too uncomfy. I'll be wearing an underwire at the weekend cos we're going to a wedding and my dress will look odd without one.

That's interesting London although not my experience, I seem to have gone up two cup sizes through the 2nd tri and up a band size so far the 3rd it wasn't as if my boobs weren't big enough to begin with. I'm fervently praying they don't get any bigger! I'll echo what the others have said nip-wise, they get bigger, darker and mine were unbearably itchy and then unbearably painful throughout the second tri... the itch was the worst!

Nerdy sounds like you have a wriggler in there! It's lovely when the kicks get stronger... although my sprog has literally not stopped wriggling for the past 18 hours. Infact, he is going bloody ballistic in there, kept me awake all night and has been kicking/punching/stretching and hiccuping non stop all day. I'm not sure if this is normal or if he is making his displeasure at the lack of space in there known loud and clear!

Fod you managed to speak to anyone?

Thank you for all the sharing! I wouldn't normally ask people about their boobs (honest!) but you've all been so welcoming I feel I can ask you anything so it's your own faults!!

I was expecting to have to go up another size in the next few weeks but then I doubted myself when I read that. Like it seems from your replies tho it must be different for everyone surely.

I am having a lot of opposing thoughts about the next 3 weeks, from packing a bag in case of emergency rush to a&e like last time -this time I will have a change of clothes- to buying some maternity jeans to fit my bloated carbfilled tum and as I say another bra. I like to think the swinging back and forth between the 'good' and 'bad' thoughts somehow creates a balanced mind. Ha ha really I am as batshit crazy as this thread suggests!

Having a wobble: feeling a pain/discomfort when I move suddenly/walk at the moment. It's very mild. Muscular and right down low at the front of my abdomen, stretching right across the front. :( Anything like this reminds me of the cramp/period style pain I got before my losses (though it is slightly different).
Hope it's my muscles and organs re-organising themselves (I'm at 10+5 days). Also as per, I have constipation and wind gurgling around causing discomfort.

Aw Squiz sorry you're feeling wobbly. I don't blame you. My low down pain from when things went tits up was 'grinding' and very specifcally one place (think was cervix) not spreading I hope that maybe helps a bit. I'm glad that whilst it is a reminder it does feel slightly different. Aren't the changes between weeks 9-12 the fastest growth of the whole preg (or something)? xxx

LondonJen my boobs grew massively in the 2nd trimester last time - -definitely not finished by 8 weeks. Everyone commented on boobs first, not even bump!

squiz that sounds like round ligament pain, I think it usually hits 2nd trimester? nothing to worry about, just things stretching- probably worth taking some paracetamol for though.

Thanks Pixie and London - yeah it feels stretchy, so it may well be. MW said in terms of development I was 'into week 11 territory' on Tuesday, so fx it's things stretching! Or it could be new and exciting farts developing (I tried some hard fried eggs for tea, just to make sure it's maxi-smelly).

londonjen my boobs seem to grow in spurts, after about 12 weeks they stayed the same for most of the second trimester. But they have just started growing and hurting again so I need new bras desperately bloody M&S measuring woman is never there when I go in

squiz I understand your anxieties. Our bodies do such strange things when we are pg and cause us worry. I was convinced I was having another MC at about 10 weeks with severe abdominal cramping, I called the doctors in a total panic, then did a massive trump and it all went away. Forgot I had baked beans for tea the night before

pixie my home birth plans are not very well formed yet! I have vague ideas of hiring a pool and a tens machine. Hoping to find out more at the home birth support group in a few weeks time (slightly worried about the mess). My sister and a good friend both had their first babies at home and loved it, and I know that I can always change my mind at any point and go to the hospital.

Welcome to all the newbies, come and join all of us batshit crazy ladies and remember today you are pregnant! Which is brilliant and amazing!

Lol wigwam !! I can see that happening to me!

Penguin that sounds very bloody annoying re measuring woman. I am getting vexed just looking online. Excellent baked bean story!

london I have that concern too, today my bras definitely don't fit any more.. if I wait til 8 weeks like the book says will my boobs cooperate? How many bra sizes have people gone through!?
fod hope you've seen a doctor!
Having a bit of a wobble today.. My symptoms have either disappeared or I've gotten used to them, a couple of times lately I've (very briefly) forgotten that I'm pregnant! So, the the thought process goes, if my brain can forget I'm pregnant can my body? Is it going to disappear. Now I write that down I can see how nuts it is...Fish slap please... :S

Ruth I had moments like that. Then scampi-fries-sick and boobs like veiny balloons happened. Some days are more symptomy than others. :)

ruth unfortanetly no I haven't ;( I've confined myself to the sofa with a Italian (meal not a man) and finished the evening with a long soak

I have gone from a 34 C to a 36DD and I'm spilling over still! I'm still to have my milk come in post labour and again 3 days later so I'm preparing to get a proper fitting at BHS once they have settled and I'm in the full breast feeding swing - there's one bonus tho, they take the focus off your huge post pregnancy bottom! Small mercies and all that, also I had the "I don't feel pregnant anymore" mood swings.
They are very scary especially as my MC was a MMC and on the day of our dating scan (when it was discovered we had lost bean) I recall telling DH how well I was feeling and that I didn't even feel pregnant! So of course this time I was in a right flap! I squeezed my breasts for colostrum, ate anything gross or stinky to induce nausea and prayed for wind!

It's weird that this is now our normality but your not alone ruth I will send you some kipper and mackerel slaps! That may bring on some nausea too xxx

Have bagged myself a scan on Wednesday. Sister coming with.

Totally cream crackered.

Yayyyy for the scan date aoife

Hi ladies, congratulations on your pregnancies, I'm hoping to pick your brains or get some advice. I'm now just over 9 weeks and seriously stressing. I had a miscarriage at approx 6 weeks in late Oct. I'm sure you'll all appreciate it is horridly upsetting and has completely changed my experience and expectations of pregnancy. Every time I go to the loo I expect to see pink discharge or bleeding. I worry with cramping, which I know are generally normal. I'm googling symptoms far too much and even keep checking my pulse to make sure it's still elevated. My first two pregnancies were fine and I was so complacent before the mc. Now I'm just so frightened of the 12 week scan incase it's a mmc. I'm not sure how I'd cope with it. I did have a private scan at 7 weeks for reassurance and saw the little one's heartbeat but I'm still so anxious. This all reads as a bit indulgent so apologies but I just wonder how you all deal with pregnancy after mc? Is there anything you've found which helped you lessen anxiety? Thanks x

Having a real wobble tonight. When I saw the consultant this morning we were discussing pre eclampsia and diabetes and he said how did I feel about a crash section if it was needed at any point, and if anything did go wrong, do I want baby to be resuscitated. Obviously the answer is do anything and everything.
I really don't know if this is par for the course with PE and GD or whether he was referring to her problems. It didn't really hit me till I started thinking about it all this afternoon, and tbh even if it's the latter, this is the first bit of possible negativity we've come up against and I really need to get used to it, but it really has taken the wind out of my sails. But I appear to have lost the plot.
I cant decide if it's just hormones, birth brewing imminently, blood sugar or all of the above, but im suddenly really fearful. I feel more worried now than at any stage so far!
can somebody tell me to buck up please?

Hey Lottie, as you can see, worrying on this thread is quite normal. Have a good read and don't worry. You are not alone. Each and every one of us has been through the same thing. Just try and hang on to your sanity for a little longer. 12 weeks will soon be here. x

lottie if your going to google (tut tut, finger wagging etc) and we all do make sure you stick to official sites such as N.I.C.E or NHS that way your sure to get actual medical advice and professional opinions as opposed to emotional women taking a stab in the dark. Also the stats after seeing a heartbeat are really positive! I think (again don't quote me) it's around 70% chance of a viable pregnancy, this increases with each week so by 12 weeks it's around 95%

I too had two problem free pregnancies before my MMC and it hit me like a tonne of bricks! It was all so inconceivable (ignorance had been bliss) my outlook was this 'if it happened again we were one step closer to answers and I'd it didn't great!' Try to find something positive in each experience eg at least you know you can get pregnant - hope that helped

saggy I too am fearful of the birth (due to baby size) my main concern is her shoulders becoming lodged in my pelvis and we have had to discuss the chance of a CS - obviously our worries are minuscule in comparison but try to remember it's more of a liability thing (they have to cover every eventuality) think back to our MCs / when we had our D and C's and they told us we could die, they could rupture our uterus etc? It's all part of the same cycle. Use it as a opportunity to discuss the possibility and to create a very specific birth plan - remember when Ryvitta was diagnosed? They gave you all those facts, figures, tests etc.... How far has she come? How much have you both defied the odds the be here now? Your both our wonder women and if anyone can pull this off it's you two! Ccc