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Comments that annoy you

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elliejjtiny · 04/02/2014 18:22

Currently 18+3 with DC5 and got the pregnancy rage. Just thought it might be therapeutic to share some of those annoying comments. Here are mine:

There's no way you're going to go full term (really hate this, feel like they're wishing a premature baby on me)

It would be so lovely if you have a girl this time (I don't really care)

It's definitely twins (with ds4, after 9 scans showed 1 baby)

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Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Seff · 05/02/2014 09:27

"Wow you're huge/tiny"

MIL: "are you pleased?" (DC2!)

"How are you feeling?" You don't really want to know the answer, so why bother asking?!!

moomin35 · 05/02/2014 09:34

"just remember all women can breastfeed if they want to"

"you'll be fine" - I never said or thought I wouldnt be!!

both courtesy of my mother!

Pantomime · 05/02/2014 09:43

'How's ASBO doing?' This is the MIL's pet name for my bump.
'You're not Ill you're pregnant.'
'You won't know what's hit you when this baby comes.'
' X says its a girl and she has never been wrong'
Overhearing the Mil telling DP that I need to breast and bottle feed. Having her tell the sproglet to be a girl because there are enough boys. Her saying to the bump that she hopes s/he is as quiet/well behaved etc as her other daughters baby is. Being told I will have to get used to SIL2 telling me she is taking the baby to X place on whatever date.

Suddenly the idea of going in to seclusion for the last few weeks or so like they did historically doesn't seem so bad. Could be like a holliday from annoying comments...

livingzuid · 05/02/2014 10:03

Sickness comments bug me. Mum saying, 'well I spoke to your aunt (her sister, a retired endoscopy nurse mind), who said in her experience morning sickness is bought on by what you eat. The more crap you eat the sicker you will be. Ice cream is the worst and I know you love ice cream. Healthy foods mean you won't be sick so much. '

Really. REALLY???? How dare you have a not so subtle dig at my diet just because one night at your house I had KFC as that was all that would bloody well stay down? And if my consultants and midwives and Gp thought that was the simple solution then why did they prescribe me nausea and vomiting medicine! I'll just tell them they are wrong based on the assessment of my mum and my aunt who spent her day shoving cameras up people's bottoms because you're obviously more qualified! Because spending my day with my head down a toilet is such fun! And all I need to do I not eat ice cream, which funnily enough I haven't gone near!!

Rant over. I haven't spoken to her since then. But it really got to me can you tell DH was speechless.

livingzuid · 05/02/2014 10:05

Can I just add before pg I hated KFC. Had it once in my life. Then all of a sudden it was all that would stop the sickness. Happily that phase has passed!

whiteblossom · 05/02/2014 10:07

"Was it planned?" er none of your f-ing business!

"really, wow I really wouldn't have expect that of you"

We have not announced this pregnancy yet and everyone will be very shocked so should be interesting as to what people say this time.

Seff · 05/02/2014 10:13

Some people don't know what to say, some people are just bloody rude.

dats · 05/02/2014 10:24

livingzuid you just made me spit my tea out

Greydog · 05/02/2014 10:35

I used to hate the "still here are you?" DS was late so it didn't help. Finally lost it one night when we'd gone for a quiet drink "still here are you?"
"No, I'm a fucking holographic image, and I'm actually on the bridge of the Enterprise communicating to you from the further reaches of the alpha quadrant"
Stunned silence.
I flounced home, and DS was born next day. Should have lost my temper sooner!

Mummytobe2014 · 05/02/2014 10:46

Reading these posts are hilarious but i also feel so bad. When my colleague at work told me she was pregnant i asked her if it was planned and to this day i have absolutly no idea why i asked her, it jst came out. I am not a rude person but feel dreadful now. I oddly found out that morning she told me that i was pregnant and mine wasnt planned so maybe on some level that was why i asked!? Who knows i surw hope i didnt offend her tho

livingzuid · 05/02/2014 10:50

dats mothers hey?!

livingzuid · 05/02/2014 10:52

Oh and everyone under sun who has kids when I say I have hg 'oh I wasn't sick with any of mine'

Well bully for you. How is that piece of information supposed to be of any use to me?!

Don't get me on a roll on this....

Seff · 05/02/2014 10:54

I spent most of my first tri eating fruit and toast because it was quick and easy. Was still sick.

However, I do now want KFC. And I have no way of getting any. So, thanks for that!!

Blondebrunette1 · 05/02/2014 10:55

I am not easily offended by most comments that I could take the wrong way, most of the time they are just trying to seem interested and strike up a conversation about your exciting news and prob wouldn't consider the comments hurtful. I didn't mind people saying I was huge last time but if I'd have put on weight anywhere but my bump I'd have been upset, as it were they were talking about the bump I was proud of and not any chins I'd grown.

I don't mind everyone presuming we've had a third for a girl as we haven't and i don't think it's meant to be hurtful I just point out how perfect my boys are and that i'd never be disappointed by either of them or another beautiful boy. I did get slightly irritated by people making comments about my mil feeling fulfilled after my sister in law had a girl after us having boys? Even my husband said that was ridiculous like another boy would be a disappointment & he is even less easy to offend than I am?? I hate being told I look tired and washed out but certain people say it to me frequently I don't really see its necessary to basically say I look like shit when I'm well aware but again I don't think it's meant in a mean way more showing concern. finally I love our family but they do love to compare us all, I would like to confirm my husband and I didn't get married because our siblings did and nor was that the reason we had another child??? (Our children are actually the oldest grandchildren yet our third is because my niece made us broody apparently???) Yet again don't think it's meant to come across in the way it does so I never challenge anyone on these things because they'd prob be mortified if they knew we nite our tongue over it because we love them all so much and don't want to make a fuss. x

Yumsnet · 05/02/2014 10:56

I'm expecting my third so had plenty of stupid comments over the years, my neighbour caught me recently with 'ooh how big you are, is it twins! It must be triplets hahaha!' Etc etc

I was bad tempered that day so I just rolled my eyes at her and shook my head in annoyance. I don't think she'll be saying it again...

She's had 3 herself so should know what its like!

coldofhands · 05/02/2014 10:59

"You think you're tired now, wait till the baby comes"

Really? REALLY?! Do you think I don't know this? Do you think I'm stupid? I nearly shouted at MIL a week back when she said this for the umpteenth time.

Also see - "you're not putting on much weight are you?" No, because I've been sick for pretty much 18 weeks.

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elliejjtiny · 05/02/2014 11:02

Just thought of a few more

You can't be feeling that sick, only mums of girls get morning sickness

Enjoy the rest and pampering (I was on the postnatal ward, recovering from C-section and expressing every 4 hours while DS4 was at the other end of the maternity unit in NICU. The midwives were too busy to take the milk to NICU most of the time, never mind pamper me. I'll never forget the times I had to shuffle down there, holding onto the wall with 15mls of milk in my dressing gown pocket)

Of course we'll be coming to visit you in hospital (no you won't)

Should you be doing that in your condition? (just don't say it unless you're offering to do it for me)

How are you going to cope with another one?

How are you? (Insert my reply.) Well, that's why I stopped at 2.

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flymo79 · 05/02/2014 11:22

I am hating "get loads of sleep, you can't sleep enough". I wish I ruddy could! what with needing to wee five times a night, shoulder pain from not being able to sleep on tum (not to mention the terrible weather)!!
Oh, and, "have lots of time to yourself, things will never be the same again". It's as though women who are pregnant have lost the capacity to think and never considered these things...
Really annoys me how the "advice" comes when you haven't even asked for it!! Does a pregnant woman ever say "should I be trying to get some more sleep? I heard babies really keep you awake at night".
sheeeeesh

PixieBumbles · 05/02/2014 11:31

"You're pregnant?! Oh bloody hell. I've been dreading this ever since you started working here. Serves me right for employing a woman of your age" thanks boss. Kind of wish I'd reported that comment to HR at the time.

"You're glowing, pregnancy obviously suits you". Thanks. I feel like shite, can barely walk thanks to SPD, am hardly sleeping and still being sick every morning. I love to know where the fucking glow is coming from.

frannie2013 · 05/02/2014 11:45

only my OH knows at the moment and whilst he is trying to be helpful he is also a typical bloke. the main thing he says is "well its only the size of a grape so you shouldn't put on too much weight should you?". I get his point but... the fact that i feel the size of a house (10 wks) is not helping! he has been great in other ways though so i've forgiven him and suggested comments about my weight might not be received in the way they are intended...!

mel0dy · 05/02/2014 11:52

We're embarking on the publicity roadshow starting Friday so I'll let you know how we get on! Am expecting Mother to burst in to tears, Dad to panic about finances (and then get on my nerves mollycoddling me when we go to football on Sat) MIL to offer unwanted advice and inappropriate touching but ultimately burst in to tears and FIL to come out with something on the Prince Phil scale of wrong. Most friends will go " ah that's why you weren't at the beer festival".

BlessedAssurance · 05/02/2014 12:24

Are you still here? You gonna give birth here are you? I just stopped working and i am 32weeks.
Hello little mamma-hello fatty.
My God you are huge! Are you sure there is only one baby in there? I am very skinny so the only thing sticking out of course is my bump.
You are having a boy! I KNOW it is by the way you are carrying! Me" actually i was the same with DD". No you were not! Hello, should i not know my own body considering you do not know me at all.
You are having a boy? Wow. I bet your husband is thrilled. Err,DH wanted another girl actually but since God gave us a lovely boy he is glad that we got another blessing and that our DD has a sibling.
One of each you can stop now. Me" actually i want two more. DH's family is huge as is mine. Two is two too little" .
When are you due? Asked by the same people over and over every day. I am so glad i don't work anymore. Really tired of the comments.

The worst for me is the bump grabbing and rubbing. I feel very uncomfortable even with people i know well. Strangers beware!!

rockin20s · 05/02/2014 14:36

Only 8 weeks so havent told any family yet. have had to deal with my rude sister since our wedding day say hurry up and get pregnant, not pregnant yet etc and it's always when we are with a group of people.

last saturday within 5 mins of her arriving at the house say well any baby yet i exploded, i think i had been letting my rage build up since the wedding at it all came out last saturday

so now my family all think we are having problems conceiving. i will tell people when im ready to tell people and not a moment before then.

really not looking froward to the comments after i announce! the preggo rage is already very bad

sambababy · 05/02/2014 14:47

People who haven't seen me for a while (but knew I was pg) and greet my tummy with "OMG!!"

Friends who say "I'm not going to tell you my labour story because I don't want to scare you". Yeh, that doesn't freak me out at all!

My MIL saying "and how is OUR baby?" grrrr it's not yours.

sambababy · 05/02/2014 14:48

Oh and "look at your cute pregnancy nose" (my nose looks completely normal so far)

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