The elderberry copter thread #4, for all your hand holding, sausage wanging and burger toning. Entrance criteria: ttc#1 for >12mths, prev berry experience preferable but not essential

[BlindKitty]

New home, as requested!

Oh and this should make you laugh! I painted my toenails ready for labour, trust me nobody was even slightly interested in my feet! Plus they shaved me prior to my section so my beautiful topiary wasnt appreciated either!

Mother I've just been and had a pedicure today. To be fair it was partially because i can't reach to cut my toenails. But also mentally I needed to be a little more presentable to count myself as 'ready'.

Hey

How is everyone today?

Fab news merk!

Crikey you are all worrying about having no bump, I don't even have one yet!!!

Feeling bit blue this evening, hubby is away for the night and got my scan date for April, will be 14 weeks. Really wanted a mothering Sunday reveal so I'm gutted Hope they can do the week before but being a pessimist I bet they can't.

bunny if you want the nuchal test I think the cut off is 13+6. I brought mine forward by 5 days on the advice of the Sonographer when we had the 9 wk in case we missed the cut off. It was no problem changing it.

Good point Puppy.

I've lots of pressure low down tonight, its getting v real

bunny just reiterating what puppy said about nuchal fold scan. If you've decided against it, you could always be a little sneaky and book it anyway to get an earlier date and then tell them you've changed your mind..,,

merk all this talk about being bump less is making me miss her already! I do love being pregnant!

So dreamt that I gave birth last night..her arm came first and then she just slipped out...EASY haha! In reality I'm going to be like one of those drama queen chavs on one born every minute

Oooh merk keep us posted!!!

kitty I watch OBEM last night and there was a real chav on that and some teenagers who got pg after a few months of dating! Midwife on it kept talking about the feeling of needing a poo meaning the baby is coming, such a lovely thought for the next 30 weeks for me lol!

Panic over, I misunderstood the letter(I blame baby brain), the April appointment is with a consultant, apparently because they found a fibroid during my op I have to see one! My scan letter is on its way and will be 21st March

Oooh bunny all in time for Mother's Day on 30th?!? How are you going to announce it?

Yep, I've been told to basically try to have a massive shit lol!

Right, must get up now for my action packed day; housework, Zumba, lunch with diffed friend, newborn snuggles and then potentially a 30th birthday! Uh tired just thinking about it!

Hi all,

Excellent news bunny, that's more like it! I'd love to have an actual baby by Mother's Day but I'm not getting my heart set on anything in this game!

merk are you still in pain? My toenails are in reach despite continual tummy ballooning... Great re engagement tho. I have 38 week appt on Monday so we'll see if there's any change here. Am I right in thinking they can still pop out until fully engaged? One of the girls from NCT has been fully engaged for a couple of weeks now- doesn't sound very comfortable!

All the lovely talk about having a baby to snuggle within days, and gorgeous envy-inducing bumps, and nicely painted toes etc is making me really eager to get past the 'challenge' of the first trimester...currently I'm writhing in pain from what I assume is pleurisy; I've had it before but if this is it again I won't be able to do anything but ride it out, and it is effing painful!!! Sharp stabbing pains under my ribcage & along my collarbone, enough to bring tears to my eyes. If the sonographer hadn't said that this definitely wasn't an ectopic pregnancy, I'd wonder, as shoulder pain apparently is a sign of ectopic. Anyway, pity party, sofa for one, currently being held in my lounge

(really sorry to sound like such a wet blanket - I am so psyched for you Merk, really cannot wait to hear about the birth & first time you hold your daughter and bring her home, and same for Thunder and everyone else who has exciting news, but honestly it's hard to even type while feeling like I have a machete being pushed into my clavicle....seeing the GP today but doubt there's much she can do ) Will post more when I feel a bit cheerier.

Oh sid you poor poor thing, this sounds so miserable. There is nothing they can do? I really hope either the gp can help or it passes very soon. Feel better, feel better.

Sid poor you, be v assertive with the GP, getting out of pain is important as your well being is as important as the baby's. hope they can help and you feel better soon. Sending virtual cake to your living room.

Thunder as I understand the majority of first babies engage before labour starts (and some people believe its the head pressure on the cervix that kicks things off). However some babies engage and labour doesn't start spontaneously and some labours start before baby is engaged. So all in all its not a helpful measure of anything, except whether head fits into your pelvis and is Facing the right way

Yeah I understood that too merk, thanks for that. Sounds like if it engages as labour starts you have a more comfortable time, although I guess you might still have a baby in your ribs which can be uncomfortable at times too!

Why are you panicking lady? Sit down, have a and breathe. What's the problem?

I'm not ready!!!

Worth saying since my bump has dropped that although sleeping is hell the rest of the time I am much more comfortable.

You are ready merk. You are fine! Just a couple of days ago you said you are both ready for this and you really are. Take some deep breaths my lovely. And remember it might be weeks yet....
Can you do something to distract yourself?

I'm going out so will calm down in a minute. Although now have the renewed panic about my waters going in public and am wondering if I should take a towel!

Sid that sounds awful - hope they can do something for you so you don't have to suffer for long.

Merk, having stage fright is probably inevitable - but I'm sure you're as ready as you can be and that you can do this.

Suspect I will take the drama queen crown from Kitty. Also suspect that you will all have to live every second of this labour with me!

We'll be hanging on your updates.

Yay! kitty If scan goes well I think it will be a very boring copy scan in mothering Sunday card as we have the mums over for lunch that day

Oooh thunder perhaps you could give birth on Mums day!

Has anybody revealed their news in a weird and wonderful way?

Sid gosh yes challenge is the right terms for the first tri! And no sympathy as nobody knows! Sorry to hear you are in pain, really hope the doctor can do something to help.

You can do it merk it won’t be long now till you sneeze that baby girl out and have baby snuggles galore x

bunny yeah that may well happen! Going 10 days over obviously isn't the perfect solution but if it's meant to be....

So jess did you ask to find out the gender from the harmony test?

Hope the GP has some answers sid, guess treatment depends on whether they suspects its bacterial infection or 'just' information.
Sounds really very painful

You don't have to wait to feel cheery to post sid get it all out on here

Ooooh exctiing merk!!! did you take a towel? oh and I hear headless chickens are quite in fashion, so don't fret!

Thunder, I didn't ask, and sort of regret it now! We haven't discussed whether we want to know, though I'm 80% sure that I do. I was on my own (in London) at the moment when they asked and I didn't want to decide on my own, particularly given the option to find out at the next scan. I was also a bit freaked out at the time so viability was more in my mind than gender... Must discuss it well in advance of the 20 week scan!

jess might they have the results anyway? Or did you say you didn't want to know when requesting the test? (Sorry, don't know how these things work). I am just wondering if you could ring up and ask if you decided you wanted to know!

I suspect they won't have done the test so no way to find out now!