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First trimester crazy paranoia - anyone else?

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 17:32

This is my first time, and apart from being exhausted and feeling sick all of the time, I'm also making myself a nervous wreck by imagining everything that could go wrong every five minutes. Did anyone else go through this and did it wear off? I keep working myself up and feeling like a nutcase.

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CrispyFB · 03/02/2014 17:38

Sooooooo normal! All the trimesters are full of anxiety, but personally I feel the first trimester is the worst because you have no way of knowing what is going on. Before six weeks even a scan won't tell you anything. And the odds are much worse than later on too. It's hard to think of much else especially as the symptoms are a constant reminder.

Having said that, later on although the odds are better and you have kicks for reassurance, there is so much more invested in something going wrong..

I end up crazy neurotic during pregnancy which is funny because as a parent I am pretty laid back and let them get up to all sorts of risky (but still reasonably safe, I'm not that crazy) activities! But when they're in my uterus I can't relax for a moment.

Congratulations though! Today you are pregnant, and statistics are on your side

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 17:42

Thank you - that is really kind! Will just have to hang in there - mostly I know it is just hormones making me crazy, but my usual prescription (glass or three of rose...) is off the menu!

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juju283 · 03/02/2014 17:46

Yes i did get this and no it hasnt gone away for me but i have high anxiety so you might find by your 12 week scan if all is fine you'll start to panic less. Just stay away from google! It will make you more paranoid and trust what doctors and midwives tell you. If theye are not worried about something you shouldnt be either. But if you are feing this anxious you really need to find a way to deal with it because it becomes exhausting worrying the whole time. Talk to other mum on here and in real life to e reassure yourself that what you are going through is normal and try to treat yourself a bit as youbbeing calm and relaxed is good for baby.

weebairn · 03/02/2014 17:49

First trimester is the worst for anxiety, I think. And it's easier later on when you don't have to keep it all to yourself.

Do not Google.

weebairn · 03/02/2014 17:50

I am 6 weeks and miss wine too and used to like a glass when I was feeling stressed.
I am going to try and find time to get a massage. And I do a bit of yoga each morning and that genuinely helps.
Sex too

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 17:51

Thank you - that's good advice - I do have a tendency to be a worrier. Am only 8 weeks, so it all still feels slightly unreal. My period hormones usually make me feel a bit crazy anyway, and now it's like that all the time, it seems. Have calmed down a bit now - though I do feel a bit emotional because you guys are being nice!

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 17:54

Weebairn - the keeping it secret thing is really getting to me! But yes, I must stay away from Google. I always have good intentions about yoga in the mornings, but have been so tired I haven't managed it yet. I know it would be good for me though, so I will try!

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weebairn · 03/02/2014 17:58

It doesn't have to be strenuous. When I am really run down I just sit and do deep breathing and some stretches for 20 mins. (My toddler thinks it's great fun and climbs all over me) The deep breathing helps with the nausea too.

It starts to feel more real once you've had - midwife appointment, scans (though I found scans stressful), once you have a bump, once you can tell people. Once baby is kicking I found everything a lot easier and enjoyed it from that point onwards.

Exhuastion and sickness are grim but also fairly reassuring (I keep trying to tell myself!)

sharkey1187 · 03/02/2014 18:01

I've been awful.... I've gone from being a fairly worry free person to being totally irrational. up until about 9 weeks was the worst, but I had to tell work due to my job as it's not safe in pregnancy. After the secret was out I relaxed a little, im now 12+4 and the worry has set in again as my first scan is on Thurs. Once you can talk about it, it does get far easier so just hang in there. Avoid reading up too much on risks and just take it day by day!

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 18:03

Thank you - am trying to build some daily meditation into my routine, and could combine it with stretching I think. I know I'll feel better once all the 'real' things start happening. I also keep telling myself the nausea is a 'good' sign...

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weebairn · 03/02/2014 18:03

Good luck sharkey , I'm sure all will go well!

I found I relaxed quite a bit after the 12 week scan (I had my eyes shut for half of it!!)

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 18:05

Sharkey1187 - I'll just hang in there - I can't imagine the worry will go away completely, I'm hoping it will calm down a bit once I can talk more openly about it. Think you're right and I should steer clear of google/too many books!

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Pregnantberry · 03/02/2014 18:12

I am 7 weeks 5 days, and I have been very up and down, worrying about miscarriages, missed miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies! The last week though I have had horrendous morning sickness so that is keeping my mind occupied... This baby is making him/herself very well known, so my worries have subsided.

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 18:19

Pregnantberry - I am the same - everything the hospital has sent me has made me worse, but the nausea kicking in was definitely a positive

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weebairn · 03/02/2014 18:22

It's also worth remembering that people are more inclined to come to internet forums when they need support and so you find clusters of people here who've had a really hard time - I think if you read mumsnet it seems as though the miscarriage rates are higher than they are. Most people have healthy pregnancies.

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Biscotti76 · 03/02/2014 18:25

Weebairn - thanks again. I'm feeling a bit calmer now, think I'll head off and have some Shloer in a wine glass (I know how to live!).
Thanks all - good to know I'm not the only nervous wreck!

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Cybercat · 03/02/2014 18:28

Me. I'm 7+2 and last night had a huge stress about toxoplasmosis. I am prone to anxiety at the best of times and this pregnancy is following a miscarriage.
I am very fortunate in that I have had an early scan and seen a heartbeat, also I am booked at 9 weeks too but oh my god the anxiety is awful. That and the fact I am sodding knackered.

Cybercat · 03/02/2014 18:29

I can fully recommend alcohol free Kopperburg if schloer gets boring!

paddy29 · 03/02/2014 22:18

I cant imagine what it must be like for your ladies, as a man I can't relate to what you experience. However, my Mrs is 11w tomorrow and I have done nothing but worry since I found out in December. I think about it constantly.

We had a scan just before 9w and everything was fine and we saw heartbeat, at that point for a few days I was able to relax. I am trying to do the worrying/research so my Mrs doesn't have too, she already went to few forum posts elsewhere and stressed for days after it.

Girlsville · 03/02/2014 22:26

V common. I'm 9 weeks and this will be my 3rd if all is well, and I lie awake at night freaking out! No basis at all and have two lovey children already but it think it's the hormones.....best wishes to everyone!

Sofe1978 · 03/02/2014 22:28

I'm fast getting to the anxious stage. Like you my period hormones tend to make me irrational and this isn't any better! I'm 4 weeks now and just focusing on the 12 week mark when I can tell people.
At the moment I'm just terrified of it all going wrong but like others have said most pregnancies are fine so I just keep that in my head and try to enjoy it.

Mummytobe2014 · 03/02/2014 22:35

I worried before the scan and combined blood tst but i actually worry more now in last trimester than the whole pregnancy. I worry about the way i sleep how much he moves or doesnt move, am i drinking enough and worry about birth (what if something goes wrong and he end up hurt etc)
Im usually very laid bck so i am doing my own head in at the mo. Im 35 weeks so not too much longef left

Kels13 · 04/02/2014 06:06

I found out yesterday that I'm 4 weeks pregnant. Absolutely delighted but am also now so emotional and worried about everything! What should I eat? What cleaning products can I use? Can I have a massage? And the list goes on! Slept for approx 3 hours last night... Argh! Think I'll be better once We've told parents and closest friends. When did you tell your nearest and dearest?

SweetPea86 · 04/02/2014 08:10

Don't worry Hun it's normal just shows you care so much about your little baby already. I felt much better after 12 week scan, I felt like there would be nothing there. Like I'd lied, as the docs didn't tell me to take a test or blood.

The only thing I had was vile sickness and nausea. 30 weeks now and as I type he's kicking me hehe

Firstimemum3 · 04/02/2014 08:53

biscotti76 this is my first pregnancy, I'm 8 weeks and finding this so hard as well. I've stopped feeling nauseous and really tired. All I do is just worry something has happened. Just want to see there ok on first scan to feel reassured. We will just have to hang in there and try be calm. :)

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