PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

Saggy - I'm still here, hovering about. Am doing ok, just getting on top of things. Have taken tomorrow off work and me and the OH are going to the cinema followed by a few drinks! Think we both need to get out of the house (not for work!). Very much looking forward to this year being over!

hello everyone, just checking in. me sorry to hear about the slapped cheek, really hope your test results come back as immune. I don't really know much about it but hope it's ok, horrible to have extra worry. Hope DS feels better soon too.

santa poor you still waiting! I think it is probably a myth but evening primrose capsules are said to help, either using them as a pessary (it contains prostaglandins that ripen the cervix) before bed and/or taking orally. No evidence to back that up but might be worth a try? I went into labour the day I took the first epo capsule but entirely sure that was a fluke I had also spent all afternoon bouncing on my ball so maybe plenty of that too. I was a week early so will be similarly unprepared if I go over, I'm fully expecting to have a baby at least a week before due date but could yet be surprised! they have said they will only let me go one week over though so wouldn't be much longer to wait. Hope you're not too uncomfortable.

More family here but being strict with myself and letting other people do things. Although in MIL case it is more a case of spelling out clearly and then reiterating when she gets distracted and stops said task half way through I sound harsh but I reckon if I'm going to host 6 people for several days at 31 wks pregnant with SPD and insomnia they better flipping well make themselves useful

30+ wkrs, have you noticed a change in baby movements? mine is still moving regularly but not as vigourously. Do you think that's ok?

Another query... my mum will look after DD when I have the baby. haven't discussed ins and outs with her but sort of assumed she would pick up DD when I went into labour and take her back to hers for a couple of days so we had a bit of time with baby before dealing with 2. My mum on the other hand was planning on staying at ours until we got back from hospital then leaving. I really feel I'll need at least a day with new baby at home to concentrate just on him/her without worrying about DD getting enough attention. She loves being at my mums and stays there often so that's not a big deal. My mum seemed to think that wasn't a good idea though and made me feel a bit harsh about wanting some time on our own with new baby. Any thoughts or experiences ladies?

Miss, new year new start. . xx
Pixie it sounds like your mum wants in on the action! It'll do DD no harm to stay at hers for a day or two.
Apart from the fact that she will get first sight of the baby if she stays over, I predict leaving you with DD straight off is also a cunning ploy to get you to ask her to help out so she gets to come back and 'assist'. [cynical]

santa I hear that sex is the ultimate induction technique apparently it makes the uterus contract and the Semen helps to break the waters etc

I too have been suffering with a sore throat.... Could this be pregnancy related???

Sorry to hear things haven't gone well for you missh. I hope 2014 brings better news for u. If its any consolation I had my erpc this time last year and now I'm 34 weeks pregnant.

Santa happy due date for yesterday. Here's hoping things happen for u soon!

pumkin are you still there? Your due soon too aren't you? Any developments over Xmas?

Oh and blackholes hope you are doing well. Did u manage up find a name for your little girl yet?

Ha saggy think you may well be right think my mum is a bit overly sentimental about DD meeting new baby and likes the idea of us bringing baby home to DD and having 'new family time'. Unfortunately after discussing this morning it sounds like DH agrees with her! I just feel for my own sanity and everyone's best interest I will need recovery time! even if DH or DM are around for DD it won't stop her hassling me incessantly and I will be completely knackered

Think I'm also being a bit sensitive about this as I really felt DM rushed me into being with DD after finding out about the mmc. She insisted DH and I go to hers the next day when I just really wanted to be on our own. The two situations are very different and I think her reasoning was to keep me focused on DD and therefore not fall apart but I really felt I needed that time and was just overridden so I feel anxious about something similar happening.

Sounds to me like they both need kicking into touch. How old is your DD? Old enough if she stays around to just be honest? "Hey sweetie" mummy is having a new baby and its VERY hard work so when we come home I need you to be very quiet and stay with daddy so I can have a big sleep, then tomorrow we will have big hugs and you can come and see the new baby"? Not ideal I know, but... Other than that, I'd just be stamping my feet and telling them exactly what will be happening. but then I'm a stroppy cow It's just one day. In 'olden days' new mothers would have spent weeks in hospital away from their dcs. If DM makes it fun DD won't even notice you're gone! I actually think that it's them who are being incredibly selfish. They need to listen to you. There will be strict rules regarding visitors when Ryvita gets here, and woe betide anyone who ignores them!

And as for not letting you fall apart, I honestly think that that is very important! I'm a firm believer in better out than in!

Thanks saggy it's good to get another perspective and it is hard to explain these feelings to people who haven't been through an mc. I think I really needed that time and I think my underlying resentment about it is affecting my normally good relationship with my mum. I never had any mourning time as life pretty much then went back to normal. I think I will find stubborn pixie and lay down some laws on this one. I'm strict enough with ILs and boundaries, visiting etc but need to be firmer with my own family!

Hi ladies, hope you all had lovely Christmases! I'm having a chill out day today after 8 days of travelling the country visiting the rellies. The hordes descend on us tomorrow for New Year's Eve.

It was nice having lots of baby talk with the family over Christmas, and my lovely sister has given me a big sack of her old maternity clothes and baby books. I asked my six year old niece what we should call the baby. She wants Bernard for a boy and Holy for a girl. Hmm

So sorry to hear your sad news misshobart, and what a rotten time of year for it to happen. I hope you are back with us soon, I'm sure it won't be long. Small consolation but at least you get to have a nice drink on NYE.

santa hope things start moving for you soon. And pixie I think you should just do what you want and stop trying to please everyone else! After the effort of birth you deserve some me time.

Could be worse Penguin! DS wants Bernard for the baby! She is definitely female!
waaay too much Blackadder viewed round here!

hope the appointment goes well tomorrow kat

we've got family here for new year, I'm very much looking forward to a glass of bubbly and a few rounds of pictionary hoping to manage to get everyone out for a trip to a nice market town nearby so I can go and drink hot chocolate and browse boutique sales on my own while they all go on a riverside walk

ooh entirely off topic but had surprise news tonight that the little girl my friend has been expecting is very much a little boy as of her 36wk scan I can't imagine how shocked they must be, they've not bought loads of pink stuff but have been referring to her as her and had girls name lined up etc. Just goes to show they can still keep you guessing these babies!

Hi Pixie - I think you have to do what is right for you, only you know your family and your DD and how she will react to the situation. My experience of the birth of DS2 was kind of reverse to yours. Had a 26 hour labour which meant DS1 went to Mums almost straight away and was there overnight. All fine as he loves both my mum and dad. Then brought DS2 back from hospital and mum offered to have DS1 for another night. Seemed like a great idea but as soon as it was too late to go and get him I felt dreadful. Missed him, felt guilty for not seeing him and basically didn't enjoy our first night at home with DS2 as felt like I'd lost a limb. DH went to get DS1 in the morning, after 2 nights away from us and he was very distressed. He was only 2 and barely able to speak properly so couldn't articulate his feelings. For us 2 nights away was not good but for others it would be right. You will know. Can you keep it flexible?

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. It's useful to hear another side of the story me - I think that is what DH is worried about, feeling a bit incomplete because DD isn't with us immediately with the new one. I am just anticipating how rubbish I am likely to feel and really want to rest as much as possible afterwards before launching into life with two kids! DD is 3 and well used to little 'holidays' at DMs, so it won't feel unusual to her, she loves it there. I think I'll prob end up with a section tbh and will then get a hospital stay anyway although baby has woken me up with head sticking out my side and kicks on other side so guess it is still a possibility that it could be a natural delivery if it manages to get it's head down and stay that way!

Hello

Just catching up after xmas! I had a nice week at home with my family, back with DP and DSDs now. Over the last week or so symptoms have been on and off. Feel worried that lugging suitcases round won't have done any good. Also didn't quite manage to stick to not DTD
Have friends coming round tonight, which I'm sure will be fine but I hate finding an excuse for not drinking and I'm not sure I'll be able to eat the food as nausea was bad yesterday. Scan on Friday and I can feel the clouds of scan doom gathering.

Hi everyone, I haven't been on MN for a while, hope you're all doing well!

blackholes I know I'm more than a week late but massive congratulations on the birth of your baby girl. I hope you're both doing well and I can't wait to hear the name!

Welcome alb1 and all the best for your pregnancy

misshobart I'm so sorry I hope it all goes well next time

me I hope you're immune and have nothing to worry about - have you had the blood test yet?

kat good luck with your scan today and nerdy with yours on Friday!

santa I hope things start happening soon - good luck!

pixie I can see where your mum and DH are coming from but I'll have to agree with you. I didn't have this dilemma as I knew that the baby and I would stay at the hospital for at least 24 hrs due to GBS; I have to admit I really enjoyed having some calm time with the baby only; please insist if that's what you want; after all, you're the one giving birth and if you need time to rest and bond with your baby it's only fair;

hi to everyone else and wishing you all a Happy New Year! 2013 has been a rollercoaster for most of us - but mostly happy with successful pregnancies - and your support has been invaluable ladies, thank you so much! All the best for 2014, with many more lovely thread babies!

Phew! Goodbye to 2013! How is everyone seeing in the New Year tonight? DH and I were supposed to be staying in and cooking up a deluxe feast. However, in addition to our non-working bathroom, we now also have a non-working kitchen sink which is somehow so blocked up there is dirty water overflowing all over the place. I suspect at this stage, we'll be forced to get 2for1 Dominos in.

DH has taken it apart and says he can't find the blockage - so I found myself doing three days worth of dirty dishes in the bath this morning... I tried to see the funny side, I really did, but after having to deal with overflowing dustbins and a filthy kitchen (when I am not supposed to be doing any housework) I instead turned into a raging banshee and threatened to leave home unless everything is fixed immediately and he starts helping out around the house or gets a cleaner in.

I think the poor bloke is wondering what happened to his normally calm wife and where this hysterical lunatic has come from. I'm trying very hard to find my sense of humour and regain control of my miserable hormones before he gets back from work this afternoon - if he doesn't just decide to pop into the pub and stay there all evening instead...

I hope everyone had a nice Xmas.
missh really sorry to hear what's happened. Hope you're doing OK. Let's hope a new year brings some new luck.
blackholes congratulations. Lovely news. Hope all is going well.
kat & nerdy best of luck for your scans.
pixie I'm also with the majority here that you have to do what's right for you - it's you giving birth & your needs come first.
santa hope not too much longer for you.
liesl I can't believe you're 34 wks - fantastic - not too long now. I was due around the same time as you but then had my 2nd mc so now just 15 wks but at least through the first trimester. Wish I could relax a bit more about it.

Wishing everyone a great NY & looking forward to hearing of the arrival of lots of lovely thread babies in 2014.

Hi joining thread here pregnant again after mc ! Hope that's ok :) xx