PG after MC: Keeping the Posifrickingtivity going into 2014!!

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Oops I managed to finish the last thread - so here we go!

Janie - fingers crossed

fedup I'm so sorry. Big hugs x

Ah Fedup I'm so so sorry. I have no doubt you'll be back here soon. I hope you're being looked after - hugs x

Thanks Pentagon despite the fact that last week I was a bit of an hysterical mess about it I'm now feeling rather calm and today I was actually excited at the prospect of finding out whether it's a girl or boy, so here's hoping all this posifrickintivity lasts through the next 36 hours!

OhFedUp I am so sorry. There is no rush to do anything you don't feel ready for. Hope you have lots of support IRL as well. Hugs.

I'm so sorry fedup. Take lots of time and take good care of yourself x

pentagon thanks - it was just such a weird conversation - like I had to rationalise or justify the way I felt! I think he's anxious I'm going to keep being upset about the mmc indefinitely - but saying it was a sad thing and this is how I felt (and feel) about it, doesn't mean I'm never going to be able to move on! Baffling. Anyway.

saggy thanks for the maternity belt suggestion - I will definitely check that out - and kjh for the pelvic floor exercises link! Glamorama.

kjh ooh 20 week scan on Friday! Glad you're feeling excited about it x

so sorry fedup hope you get a chance to rest and recover over the next few weeks and get plenty of looking after xxx

Really sorry, Fedup, having it confirmed is a grim and sobering moment. Thank goodness not ectopic but I'm sure you're not really feeling much comfort from that right now. Be gentle with yourself x

Had my scan today at 7 weeks. Saw the heart beat and baby measuring 6 weeks 3 days, which given I'm a late ovulator, I gather makes discrepancy nothing to worry about.
Massive relief, albeit temporary. Celebrated by promptly throwing up violently out of car window on way back from hospital. Good times.

great scan news scone although not so great on the vom front

so baby pixie, having previously been beautifully head down, has now been breech for last week. DD was breech from this stage onwards and never turned. I have tried hanging off the sofa upside down and hands and knees but both make my hips and pelvis kill. DH thinks I should just accept things rather than risk triggering worse episode of spd and ending up on crutches again. I feel guilty for not trying harder to get baby to shift though. And a bit sad that I might not get to try vbac delivery. I know this sounds melodramatic as only 28wks and plenty of babies do turn after this point but my previous experience suggests otherwise. What do you think ladies, risk worse SPD but maybe turn baby or just accept and see what happens. One good thing is that I am still managing to walk places which is more than I was able to in last pregnancy by this point and think that goes some way to helping position...

Right, I'm cheating, reading on my iPad and typing on my phone to try and keep up!

MeDoing - congrats on the good scan
Blue - cramping is normal, I had some awful cramps early on but all was fine.
Kjh - thanks for the pelvic floor info, hoping that helps this stupid PGP! And good luck with the scan on friday, Hopefully your little one will cooperate and not cross their legs!
Scone - congrats on the good scan and the throwing up
Pixie - it's a hard one. As you say though baby has plenty of time to turn. Be careful, the last thing you want is to be on crutches with a DD to run round after!
Fedup - so sorry to see you go. Look after yourself and give yourself time.

Had the midwife today, still measuring 3 weeks ahead so next week il have a 'full term' (37wk) size bump with still 6 weeks to go!

so sorry fedup - sending you lots of hugs xxx

Really sorry Fed-up hope everything is sorted out soon for you and you can concentrate on recovering.

Pixie - I would just let baby pix be - will turn if it wants to, and won't if not. Mine was transverse at 28 weeks so read up about baby spinning and ECV's - even if they do turn, they can always turn back.

I'm still here, baby CTB is still pretty active and showing no "signs" of getting ready to come out. This is according to my mum who reckons he should stop kicking me and I "should" start to get more lower down pain. Supposed to be taking Ds to a soft play tomorrow morning so no doubt I will start my labour during the night

Oh meant to say - if anyone feels like they are getting a head cold/sinusitis - then I massively recommend getting a NeilMed Sinus Rinse from Amazon. Basically a bottle to which you add saline(salt) and water and squirt up one nostril and out the other.

It has stopped 2-3 sniffles developing this time round so far and I havn't had a sinusitis attack since getting it. Washes loads of gunk out of your nose which I find satisfying in a very weird way and when you can't take anything more than paracetamol, you'll try anything

Congratulations scone, wonderful news. Hope I get to see same at my scan next week. I'll be 6+6 then according to my OV date.

3rd day of nausea and all I want to do is eat even thought I don't feel like eating - know that doesn't make sense! I remember putting on nearly a stone with DD in first trimester as felt so sick I just ate super noodles 24/7 with heaps if toast! Am trying to take the nausea as a good sign but now I'm wondering whether I've convinced myself into feeling it and it's psychosomatic!!

I know exactly what you mean ickle - Im the same dates as you I think and Im feeling waves of nausea although not entirely sure if Im just willing it to be there for some reassurance

I think Im more feeling just a lack of interest in eating anything - normally I have a very healthy appetite and love my food but now no food interests me at all and its a struggle to eat anything at all - is this normal??
I think my sickness is a bit pyschosomatic as Ive never felt like throwing up just very very uninterested in eating anything which is totally unlike me

Im going for my first scan next week and am petrified :(

ickle and blueskies, in my limited experience, your attitude to food is completely normal. I am 14 weeks and last night I cooked a whole meal that I really fancied and then by the time I sat down to eat it, I didn't fancy it at all!

I am feeling very sorry for myself today as have cystitis, a really nasty cough and cold and have occasional pains in my tummy (which I am trying not to panic about, it is probably indigestion!)

thanks for the food reassurance pgchimp - I do hope you feel better soon - poor you

I am REALLY panicking as Ive very madly!! (I know I shouldn't be doing this!) but have been doing the HPTs every day just to check that Im still pg - I know this is a crazy thing but I just want to keep checking the line gets darker

Up until two days ago the line was not getting darker but just staying the same colour

Im really panicking as Ive been testing every day with FMU and for the last two days the line has definitely got lighter with the line today being really really faint :( I am absolutely devastated and really unhappy as I am so worried about this not going well

I am feeling slightly sick which is a good sign I guess but I am absolutely heartbroken to see the line get fainter - all the tests were done with the same brand of internet tests and all with FMU at the same time so this is surely not a good sign :(

really really panicking and any reassurance would be greatly appreciated

blueskies I haven't had any experience with this as with DD I only tested once, with the MMC twice (when I found out I was pg & then to check all hormones were fine after ERPC) and twice with this pg - a CB digi 1 weeks apart. I'm not testing anymore, the scan will tell me all I need to know next week. I would leave the testing and just listen to your body. It's difficult I know, I keep comparing how unfeeling now to the 6 weeks mark with DD and the MMC & it's sending me crazy! DH said to me last night "what will be will be" and by analysing every detail every day til the scan will only make me feel bad every day, we can't change the outcome by worrying and yes, if the scan still shows nothing next week, we'll be devastated, but in the meantime we don't know anything so we've just got to try and relax. Easier said than done I know!

*gone not fine

Blue STOP. You will drive yourself insane. To be brutal, Either you are PG or you arent and only time will tell. No amount of PG tests will change the outcome and all you are doing is messing with your own head. All you can do is stood and wait.
To be kind, we have all been there lovey. Honestly. We all stress every minute of every day, at 27 weeks still knicker check EVERY time I pee, and if she doesn't move on demand I panic, But there's a long slog ahead, and life goes on. Try and distract yourself if you can. We are all here for you. xx

Blueskies I completely echo what Kat said. These tests really are where madness lies. Different batches can have different comcentrations of dye and yes, after a certain point in pregnancy (hazy about when exactly but 6 weeks sounds about right) they are not good at measuring the quantity of HCG. If you are seriously worried then you could go to your doctor and ask for Beta blood test to check HCG levels are doubling every 48 hours or so, but really at this stage I think it is best to hold on for a scan - although I would try to resist before 6 weeks as unlikely to see heartbeat - I forget how many weeks you are exactly. But really, these tests are the work of the devil, please stop now.
Ickle a general apathy towards food and not being able yo work out what I wanted was how I felt initially. Now into the full blown most waking minutes of every day nausea.

Blueskies, kat and saggy are absolutely correct, pregnancy tests tell you nothing at this point. You just need to hang tight until your first scan. I had mine at 7+1 at EPU due to some bleeding concerns and saw a strong heartbeat. The general consensus on here is to try and hold out until 8 weeks if you can. That is just two weeks away. You should try and do something to distract yourself. Every single week you get through pushes the statistics more and more in your favour. Today you are pregnant. You are in this for the long haul, the first trimester is definitely the worst but the second and third come with their own challenges and you don't want to exhaust yourself with stress now!

Needless to say I am now absolutely bricking it about my scan tomorrow. Not helped by all the excited texts I am getting from family and friends - they all can't wait to find out if its a boy or a girl and no one can understand why I won't tell them what time the scan is (I've said its in the morning) or why I am so damn nervous about it.

Everything is going to be ok right? The baby is moving around loads - surely this is a good sign? I can feel it all day at least every 3-4hours and this morning it was kicking up a storm - so much so that for the first time I could feel the kicks externally. I can't wait for DH to feel them, I might wake him up when I get home from work tonight if the bubba is really active.

ahw thanks so much everyone - I know that Im a silly billy for testing - I stupidly bought loads of tests and was so amazed to see when I got my first bfp a few weeks ago that I wanted to test everyday and see that line increase in colour and was devastated to see it fade

I will put the tests away and try and wait till my scan - Im 6 weeks now and have a scan next week due to my previous experiences I have been asked to go in then

All your advice sounds good and for me Im just going to try and make it through one day at a time and every day I can get through is a bonus

On the plus side I am feeling sick every day - just a very mild nausea and not really wanting any food so I guess that has to be a positive - may go to the gps and ask for a beta test - they haven't been too helpful and I guess some will let you have a hcg test and others not but being such a mass worrier it may be a good thing to do if I can organise this

thanks so much everyone for all your wise words and support

fingers crossed for your scan kjh5 - I really hope that it goes well tomorrow
ickle - I have my fingers crossed that it goes well for your scan too - I will also try and relax as this is the best thing to do at this stage
thanks saggy, scone and kat - that's all good advice - this is such a stressful experience and I really don't want to make it any worse and this testing is the most stressful thing so I will definitely stop doing them