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Please date my scan photos

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JamesCurtis · 28/09/2013 14:13

To cut a long story short. I'm pretty sure my girlfriend has lied about being pregnant (to the 9 month mark!).

She told me a due date of 14/9/13, on which she was out for her friends birthday she then went to Ibiza for a week... which she told me about but I assumed she wasn't going. I have a picture of her drinking too... yes the week after she was due...

Anyway, she told me she was pregnant the first weekend in January and that she took the test on new years eve (I hadn't seen her or had sex with her since mid December and first time we did was mid November), we continued to have sex until the end of Feb/start of March by which time she said she didn't feel like it and we haven't had sex since; she's still really close to me and talks about that she bought things for the baby already (at her dad's attic) etc

Quite obviously my head is a mess (considering I've told everyone we're having a child!).

The only solid evidence she has or such is 2 scan photos below; I'd appreciate if anyone could approximately date them? I know it's very hard to do over the internet but I don't know what else to do.

She told me she was pregnant 5/1/13, she guessed conception at first week December and told me due date was 12/9/13 and then it changed to 14/9/13.

She sent to me 18th of May

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and this one on the 19th of August

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I've taken it to a midwife and while they didn't want to say too much they estimated that the photo dates don't match? Especially with the due date etc

Please help. Thanks.

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WhoNickedMyName · 28/09/2013 14:15

What a bizarre thread. So has she actually had the baby yet?

niffernaffer · 28/09/2013 14:21

Think you need measurements to try and tally up dates. Do you have any (i.e. crown to rump length at the 12 week scan)

Andanotherthing123 · 28/09/2013 14:33

If your girlfriends due date is the 14/9, i don't think they wouldn't let her go past 2 weeks over that date so she should be induced around now. Your best confirmation of whether she's pregnant would be a call to say she's gone into labour.

She would also have a green folder from the hospital with scan details, birth plan etc.

NickNacks · 28/09/2013 14:35

And all my scan photos have had my name, DOB on etc.

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:35

Yes I know it's bizarre! That's my situation :-(

(also changed my name in case she googled it)

These are the only images I have and she sent them to be as a text. I see her once a week on average, maybe every 2 weeks...

No she's not had it. Keeps giving me nonsense excuses like it's not ready yet, or I went to the doctor and he said it needs to wait etc

A long time ago (start of June) she asked me if I'd leave her if she lost it and obviously I told her no, as I loved her and know my head is all over the place as the girl I loved clearly doesn't exist as such!

Methe · 28/09/2013 14:36

Women aren't allowed to fly after about 30 week iirc. Certainly not at their due date.

Does she have a bump?

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:37

I know scan photos should have names on which considering it's past her date made me think...

I have no paperwork off her; the relationship is an odd one to say the least!

CheeseandGherkins · 28/09/2013 14:37

You wouldn't be allowed to fly at 9 months pregnant would you??

gamerchick · 28/09/2013 14:40

Well this might sound like an obvious question but does she look pregnant.. has she showed you kicks?

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:40

With regards to a bump; there's definitely something, her work trousers don't fit for example but there's no big bump but I know some women barely show and she told me because her ribs were broke when she wa younger (abusive step father!) that it could be moved up slightly... now I'm an intelligent guy but when you're emotionally compromised and love the unborn child already then it really mucks with your head...

Honestly I'm destroyed inside.

MaryPoppinsBag · 28/09/2013 14:41

Have you not seen her in a while?
Surely you would be able to see her bump, she'd be quite large by now.

MaryPoppinsBag · 28/09/2013 14:41

Sorry x posted.

gamerchick · 28/09/2013 14:41

But surely she's let you feel the kicks?

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:42

I know with flights; she barely shows and she is just mental I guess...

I thought I have before (but then again I wouldn't know what that felt like) and swear I heard movement/heartbeat but everything just doesn't add up!

PrincessKitKat · 28/09/2013 14:42

How Bizzare. I have soooo many questions...

Haven't you been to any scans? (My name is on the top of my pics)
And if you see her regularly, hasn't she got a bump? And don't you see or feel the baby kick?
And do her family or friends ever speak about the baby?

MaryPoppinsBag · 28/09/2013 14:42

Ask to go with her on her next Midwife appointment.

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:43

I last saw her a week ago... :-(

No real bump; but there's something there! Whether she just put on weight I don't know.

I know everyone is confused and all the questions but I've thought them though all myself and all I can think now is scan dates and wait till I see her and confront her!

HaveYouTriedARewardChart · 28/09/2013 14:44

Hmm. Well you wouldn't be able to hear heartbeat without an instrument. ....and not sure you can hear movements either. .... sorry, it sounds very suspicious.

Methe · 28/09/2013 14:44

I does sound like she is stringing you along :(

I work with someone who has lied and lied about being pregnant so many times ( before I started working there ) that now she is actually pregnant no-one is interested. Sad really. Some women feel the need to compulsively lie and it is quite common the lies to be based around a pregnancy.

It would be unusual for a woman to be pregnant and be so slim past about 7 months that it wasn't really obvious to someone who is used to seeing her body. Pregnancy generally really changes things!

Cjilly · 28/09/2013 14:46

hmm I'm sorry but if you were my brother and you had told me this I'd feel

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:46

I've asked about midwifes appointment; there;s always an excuse.
Been to no scans (work etc I wanted to but then her excuses).

Yes another thing, her friends and family don't know (although she told me her best friend knew...) who I've not met.

I get on really well with her mum and help her out with all sorts but never met her dad (where she lives because of proximity to work, whereas her mum lives near me)

Titsalinabumsquash · 28/09/2013 14:46

It sounds like she's not as far gone as she's telling you, it's all a bit strange tbh.

DanRoberts · 28/09/2013 14:47

I think that too Methe!

It's just I need closure so I can dump her and move on with my life. I feel like a complete mug and don't know how anyone could do that to another human being.

gamerchick · 28/09/2013 14:48

Well that second scan photo is from the second trimester so she's either lied to you about dates or she's full of shut.

Go and knock on her door or speak to her parents even.. You can't pussyfoot about on this.

HaveYouTriedARewardChart · 28/09/2013 14:48

No way is the second pic 8 months. .... they're so squashed up by then you can't make much out. Looks like a 12 or 20 week scan.... sorry again.