Please date my scan photos

[JamesCurtis]

To cut a long story short. I'm pretty sure my girlfriend has lied about being pregnant (to the 9 month mark!).

She told me a due date of 14/9/13, on which she was out for her friends birthday she then went to Ibiza for a week... which she told me about but I assumed she wasn't going. I have a picture of her drinking too... yes the week after she was due...

Anyway, she told me she was pregnant the first weekend in January and that she took the test on new years eve (I hadn't seen her or had sex with her since mid December and first time we did was mid November), we continued to have sex until the end of Feb/start of March by which time she said she didn't feel like it and we haven't had sex since; she's still really close to me and talks about that she bought things for the baby already (at her dad's attic) etc

Quite obviously my head is a mess (considering I've told everyone we're having a child!).

The only solid evidence she has or such is 2 scan photos below; I'd appreciate if anyone could approximately date them? I know it's very hard to do over the internet but I don't know what else to do.

She told me she was pregnant 5/1/13, she guessed conception at first week December and told me due date was 12/9/13 and then it changed to 14/9/13.

She sent to me 18th of May

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and this one on the 19th of August

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I've taken it to a midwife and while they didn't want to say too much they estimated that the photo dates don't match? Especially with the due date etc

Please help. Thanks.

BTW I have just mentioned this to my husband and he says he reckons she lost it early on and didn't want to tell you.

I had an EDD of 12/9 and also found out on 5/1 (9 years ago) so those dates tally.

Given you last saw her at a week overdue I am convinced there would be a discernible bump. V. Strange

That August one is more like a 20 week scan. Definitely.

I'd say she's whipped the photos off google.

All very bizarre. Have you confronted her yet? Go round and see her?

I'm really sorry to say this, but I think I have found the second scan image online <a class="break-all" href="http://www.google.co.uk/imgres?imgurl=www.smallvictoriesusa.com/images/StreetReports/11/Apr_Jun/Aprw3/20%2520wk%2520ultrasound.jpg&imgrefurl=www.smallvictoriesusa.com/StreetReports/2011/Aprw3.html&h=249&w=315&sz=32&tbnid=U5Ojjj30F3nbkM:&tbnh=96&tbnw=121&zoom=1&usg=__7CDFZLrhobfjiUg_D_QF2L982Q4=&docid=kVpEUoeF4cmyRM&hl=en&sa=X&ei=dOhGUsTMJaOR7AaSmYDQDA&ved=0CD4Q9QEwAg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">here (I work finding things online). I can't say for sure that it is the same, but it looks like it to me, and I'm sure if it has been posted on one site, it has appeared on others.

I can't really advise you on what to do next, but I am sorry that it seems as though she has lied. All I can say is that she must have some emotional issues herself, not that it will make you feel any better.

I dropped the second scan image into google image which tells you where the original image is from and I have found one remarkably similar, I would personally say it is the same scan image but perhaps someone more qualified than me can confirm it

here from an American site

I made your image bigger and had two windows open to do a side by side comparison. Sadly, I think you have been had. I know someone this happened to hence going the extra mile for you.

Oh, and if it is the same one, it is a 20 week scan.

Snap Potterer

I you find out this is all lie and it does sound like that have use protection if you have sex again sorry but she sounds like the last type of women you want to be bringing a child up with. It's a very sad thing that some one would lie to you like this. Maybe you need to put your foot down go to her house and ask to see the actual scan pics with her name on and dates.

You are in a very awful situation but maybe you need to take the next step and find out what's going on. If it's all lies run for this hills.

I don't think you should be together even if she is pregnant as it does sound like she's has lied about actual dates. Just be there to support her and bring up the child.

Hope you sort this out

We are like detectives!!!

If you sorry not I you

There is a better image here which includes the markings on your image.

It also mother's name which can just about be made out in the top left hand corner - the surname is fully visible.

Sorry again.

So am I right in thinking...

You don't think she particularly looks pregnant, even though she's apparently nearly 2 weeks overdue.

None of her family or friends that you've met, including her parents, know about the pregnancy. The only friend that does know is one you've never met or spoken to.

You've never tagged along to any scans or appointments, and never seen any paperwork relating to the pregnancy.

The scan pics are clearly from google.

She was out drinking and partying in Ibiza at supposedly 9 months pregnant.

Well all I can say is that this is going to crumble down all around her in the next few weeks when she can't produce a baby. Unless she plans on sending you some more pictures off google of a random child and coming up with reasons why you can't see the baby in the flesh.

If I were you I'd run like the wind, be thankful for a lucky escape, and maybe look into some counselling for yourself, to work out how you've allowed yourself to involved in such a dysfunctional relationship.

She's seriously fucked in the head. If you do decide to stay with her, for the love of god DON'T have sex without using a condom. I would seriously fear for the safety of any child born to this woman.

Sorry That does look like a smoking gun

Please don't continue a relationship with someone who has lied like this, even if they make excuses.

those are definitely the same scan! she's just nabbed it off the internet :(

God OP must feel awful about this.
You'd feel sick to your stomach.

Sorry for you OP.

Habitual liars tend often to be very, very bad at it. You can easily find the second image from the internet.

Move on with your life and away from this person.

Poor Dan. She needs help. 9 months is a long time to string someone along, and lying about a pregnancy?

So sorry for the lies she put you through and the hope of having a baby being snatched sway from you like this. Ditch her, you deserve a lot better.

you poor bloke. This woman must have some serious issues, i'm just sorry you have been hurt so badly by her lies.

She obviously is not pregnant at all as the pictures are definitely from google. :(

This did genuinely happen to my male mate, she was pregnant to begin with but miscarried. She didn't tell him about the miscarriage so they carried on having unprotected sex. She went awol when the 20 week scan was due for obvious reasons.

She finally had a baby over 2 months after her original due date. We tried desperately to tell him that she had lied about many things, including that this was her first baby, we told him she had been married and had 2 babies. He didn't believe us, he said they were her step children. We told him to look at her pregnancy notes which would show how many babies she had had. It all came out in the end, her mother was horrified, her children disowned her and her siblings went crazy at her.

They are still together despite all the lies because all he ever wanted to be was a Dad. Very sad, the deception. How can you trust someone?

Dan I genuinely feel bad for you. She clearly has problems. Honestly, run like the wind from this girl. I had to find that image for you because it is proof that she has lied

Potterer I felt a bit sympathetic for the lady you mentioned because I can imagine how devastated she was when she miscarried. She should've told the truth but she let it get to a point where she couldn't.. the other bit where she lied about her kids I'm not sympathetic over at all.
However, to lie to a man about being pregnant regardless is inexcusable and the fact that this person lied to Dan this long, even going on Google to send scan pictures is disgraceful. I can't imagine how devastated Dan must be feeling.

You're not a mug Dan, don't think of yourself as one because you did what any man would do if they are told that they are going to have a baby, and that's believe the person that told you. Don't let this experience put you off other women either, not everyone lies about things like that.

Keep your head up and leave her be. She's -deranged- something else

Oh OP, what a terrible situation you've been put in. Please don't blame yourself for falling for her lies, why would you even question whether she was telling the truth or not?

There are sins of omission and sins of commission.

First of all, if she did lose the baby, she omitted to tell you. I think most people would understand how hard it would be for her, and have a degree of sympathy.

Secondly however, fabricating scan pictures (we think, and they do look copied to me as well) is a sin of commission, and she has actively taken steps to deceive. This is not as easy to forgive and this is the reason that continuing a relationship with her would be dangerous for you.

As the other poster said, 99.999% of women are absolutely not like this so hopefully you will be able to find someone who will be able to have a more functional relationship with you.

The interesting thing is that you sound a decent sort of bloke, prepared to acknowledge your (theoretical) child, and be a father properly, so I am sure things will work out for you in the end.

What an awful thing to do to someone. I'm sorry she has put you in this situation. I hope you get the truth out of her soon

I meant to mention before I think its possibly two different scans of others as in the first it looks as if the placenta is forming at the front.. And from the second picture I cannot see it, so possibly posterior or lateral.. It's a good profile pic and if it was at the front I would expect to see a little bit of it even..
Also the first picture may be on someone a bit plumper than the second scan picture? The person who's scan it is on the first scan is not particularly slim and the didn't fill their bladder up at all. (Unless they'd just emptied it for scan)

It's hard to judge everything from a static picture.