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Pregnant and Angry Women

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Metrobaby · 16/02/2004 15:31

I think I must be going mad ... has anyone felt like this during their pregnancy ?? Instead of either having serene and sedately thoughts, or even getting teary and emotional, my emotions are completely the opposite. I tend to get very angry and annoyed with everything, getting riled easily and being argumentive. For example, last week for no real reason I wanted to jab my work colleague sitting next to me with some chopsticks. This is very very unlike me. I hope these feelings won't dictate the baby's personality.

Tell me am I going a bit nutty here?

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BIBIBOO · 29/04/2004 15:04

I've had some great anger moments and I'm only 15 wks pg so far! It's great to let off a bit of steam, esp when the recipient deserves it, unlike my poor husband.
My boss accused me of "trying to avoid the issue" when I said I had to go to the toilet before a "work-related chat" with her, so I told her (and the rest of the office in a louder than necessary voice) that I'd happily address the issue while soaking her leather office chair in my wee if that's how she wanted it...she didn't.
husband gets far too much abuse from me, but takes it all in his stride - Lucky for me I flagged up all the "hormones" passages in pregnancy books for him to read so he was well informed of what to expect!

nightowl · 30/04/2004 01:26

not so much in pregnancy (apart from having a go with my boss) but now i seem to let rip at anything that moderatly pisses me off. i have developed an obsession with mother and baby parking spaces and went looking for someone in the supermarket the other week for parking in one when they had no children. I never found them though.........perhaps that was a good thing.

GeorginaA · 30/04/2004 15:20

Does this count? I've just lost my rag with the Students Loans Company.

Still fuming.

Fucking idiots won't take my word for it that I'm not working and not claiming benefits because I'm a SAHM as evidence of deferment, but will accept identical letter off of my husband saying exactly the same thing (because I'm a fucking chattel obviously... I can self-certify tax assessment forms, but not capable of self-certifying a deferment application).

Anyway, I sent the letter off from dh 3 weeks ago and today I get a letter saying that they noted I was paying by direct debit but I was still in arrears and I had to pay up now.

Phoned them up and screamed at them how dare they take money from my account and how else could I fucking prove I wasn't earning anything?! I was going to start charging THEM £15 a letter and phone call for all the time it was taking to sort out and at 39 weeks pregnant (okay, I exaggerated for effect) I DID NOT NEED THIS STRESS.

All of a sudden they found the relevant paperwork, put the repayments on hold and told me it would be dealt with asap...

mrscrankyangrylady · 30/04/2004 15:47

ok i have changed my name - i'm that cranky and angry.

eddm · 30/04/2004 15:48

Well done Georgina! Wow, you must be really scary if they've actually pulled their fingers out Can't believe they wanted a letter from your dh, that's outrageous.

beansprout · 30/04/2004 15:54

Damn right Georgina - how dare they!!?? How can they justify that only a letter from dh stuff? It's like that Fast Show sketch - "Can anybody actually hear me?"!

I did stand in my office at work and say that (um, three times in succession) when 2 male colleagues would NOT listen to me when I had the answer to the question they were nit-f*cking around trying to find. Grrrrr.

GeorginaA · 30/04/2004 15:56

tbh eddm I'll believe it when I see it - it has taken 2 months to get this far!

Feel a bit guilty actually, because it wasn't the guy on the end of the phone's fault, and I used to work in customer services myself so should know better

summermum · 30/04/2004 16:09

Podmog, hate to tell you this but even post bump everyone thinks they have a right to come and coochy coo your darling baby, after a while you do get fed up off it. Hormones are bloody awful things in pregnancy, I managed during an argument with Dh to pull our very large very heavy samsonite suitcase from under our bed and throw it down the stairs at him and tell him to bloody pack it, i was 6 months pregnant at the time. thankfully he gracefully picked it up and went and made a cup of tea whilst I then burst into tears and started apologising for being the bitch from hell. I still get the piss taken out of me now and DS is now 9 months old, it is a good way to ice break now though, when we have a tiff he will say to me don't throw the suitcase please and we both can't help but laugh ( him in one upmanship me in embarressment (i think spelling is wrong there)

GeorginaA - i know exactly what you mean DH an I have just had to do the same thing, also what bloody business of theirs is it as too how much money he provides you and wether it is weekly, monthly etc.

I found in 1st pregnancy the people who really pi**ed me off were the ones that when you were overdue would say to you "are you stil here" eventually I started to reply no I am an optical bloody illusion what do you think?" They usually got all apologetic then.

BIBIBOO · 17/05/2004 15:43

DH gets a whole load of abuse from me, very similar stuff to the suitcase story Summermum! I hate being embarassed and now I'm pregnant I find it unbearably cruel (even when it's just a joke). I too have screamed at DH to leave, raging at him at what a useless, unsupportive husband he is when all he's done (poor love) is to put too much milk in my cereal so it's all gone soggy, or put the scrambled eggs on top of the toast, not to the side like he knows I always have it. My reasoning for my outbursts is usually along the lines of "oh well, I love you enough to rememeber how you like your food prepared, ra ra ra ... but you obvioulsy don't have the same consideration for me" etc.
Anyway, my question is, how do I stop being such a b*tch to him? Even as I'm saying these things I know deep down he doesn't deserve it, but I say them anyway - am I going to be this evil forever?

smellymelly · 17/05/2004 15:48

Right at the start of this pregnancy, even before I knew I was pregnant, I was the 'bitch form hell'. Then found out I was having 2, so would explain the major hormone change!!

It felt like I had PMT, but just 10 times worse!! Have calmed down a bit now, just not very nice to dp when I feel so sick. It is just the hormones, I hope. I do tend to get very into the baby thing, so dp gets a little shut out. Will try and be better to him. I promise!!

Twinkie · 17/05/2004 15:56

Being a bitch to the man who has impregnated you is mothernatures way of making sure they know you are uncomfortable, hot, tired, have piles, sore boobs and have worse to come - don't knock it girls!!

I like being a bitch - feel too bad to do it normally but am having fun doing it now - had a go at a woman for parking in a M&B space on Friday she told me that I was out of order for telling her off cause she had a disabled badge and the only spaces that were free and disabled were too far away for her - the other side of a covered walkway!! - GGGRRRRR and she used the last M&B space!!!

And then got home with ehavy shopping to make my yummy cheesecake and guess what some twat with a f*cking caravan (my pet hate is caravans -people driving with them on their cars, staying in them - sorry caravan people) is parked right across my drive - checking something caravany - and he ignored me when I drove up and bibbed at him - so I parked up the road stuck out my bely (not really big enough without huffing it out to make a statement) and lugged my shopping up the road with great effect!! - then I got back in car turned round and parked opposite my drive and sat in car till they moved - sad thing is that I thought they were some bloody day trippers and they are from just around the corner and poor man came round and apologised to DP as he had upset me and made me lug my shopping up the road but he did not realise I was bibbing cause he deaf and his wife had to tell him when he got back in the car!! I hid upstairs cause was too embarrassed!! - DP told them that I am MAD!!!!!

BIBIBOO · 17/05/2004 16:06

Twinkie - loved the caravan story! Made me chuckle! I sometimes think I go out looking to pick fights with people just so I can vent my anger - is this wrong?

Toots · 18/05/2004 09:00

bibiboo, if you're wrong, I'm wrong.

Twinkie, was just about to log your story in my mind under 'cautionary tale' when I thought 's*d it, most people aren't deaf, I'll take the chance they aren't and vent'.

prufrock · 18/05/2004 12:30

Twinkie that is hilarious.
Can I just tell you all that it doesn't stop after you've had the baby. We had friends staying this weekend. At 9 am teh men were in the kitchen making bacon sandwiches. I had just put ds (3 weeks) down to sleep when dh shouted up to ask if I wanted ketchup, and woke ds. I hissed vitriol at him (and said no) before resettling ds. 5 minutes later (I was now feeding ds) he brought me my sandwich and apologised again. I grumped some more. After he'd gone, I bit into the sandwich only to find it had ketchup on it. So I went downstairs, threw it at dh and hissed some more before going back to ds. Dh came up agin with a perfect sandwich, and coffee, and apologised profusely, and took over burping ds. Which was very good of him as it transpired later that it was our friend who had put ketchup on my sandwich and not him....
Do you think I should apologise for being a cow

mummytojames · 18/05/2004 12:34

metro baby your not going crazy its hormones (remember what you desribe to well)it was because of those that i found out i was pregnant all i can say if you go like me it does get easier
hth

Celou · 19/05/2004 16:38

I find myself feeling VERY angry with members of the "in law" familly giving me advice about what to buy for the baby, what to do in pregnancy, breastfeeding etc... it's really weird but I can't help it. I sometimes fantasize about the arguments I would have if someone was to say such and such. It does really annoy me when people seem to know it all, when they haven't been in contact with a baby for thirty years. I normally do the opposite to what they tell me. On purpose.

secur · 19/05/2004 16:45

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scruff · 14/07/2004 16:13

glad I read this thread was feeling very bad. People moved into the rented house beside us but would not cut their grass. drove myself and my husband and anyone who would listen mad about this and even cried in the end told the landlord(who used to live next to us) to sort it out . Then my husband had to sufffer verbal abuse from the tenant. Felt reallly bad. Is this normal at 25 wks?

Angeliz · 14/07/2004 16:15

ROFL Twinkie

Toots · 14/07/2004 16:46

Scruff - yes, yes, yes. Or it least, if it's not normal, I'm not normal with you

I find myself fixating on small things and becoming incandescent about them. DP's eating for instance. It hasn't been an issue for me since I was last pregnant. And just his general noise level doing anything. On Wednesday I found myself shouting swear words like a banshee at the weather, because it was raining and the wind kept blowing my brolly about.

Sorry the grass thing has led to bad feeling though. You could go round to next door and just burst into big round pg tears by way of explanation. Or kill them. Might be kinder.

Pennies · 14/07/2004 16:50

Ohh I'm glad I read this too. Was recently advised that perhaps a suitable channel for my agression would be to appear as part of the prosecution team at Saddam Hussein's trial.

kalex · 14/07/2004 16:53

ROFL Twinkie

beansprout · 14/07/2004 17:24

I lost it last night when I got home to a huge (£400+) bill. Dp had to take me by the hand and practically pull me down the hall to the kitchen. I did the reluctant walk of an upset child. Very becoming (not).

suzywong · 14/07/2004 17:28

PMSL Twinkie!

I used to make to most of being PG and angry, oh yes those were the days, now I have not excuse

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