A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

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All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

Ok, I just need to share that I'm so bloated right now I could be 5 months along, not 5 weeks. It's like a beach ball!
Sorry, I know TMI, but I had to share and DH is in another time zone

I am really bloated too poppy. My jeans are way too tight at the moment, and I am flat out refusing to buy any new clothes until I am more confident that I am definitely going to need them. Is this bloating normal? And if so, when does it clear off? Obviously I am g

....oing (sorry!) to get bigger if all goes well, and I don't mind that in the slightest, but I do mind it right now when there is such a teeny tiny thing inside me and yet I seem to be doubling in size every day!

We are currently staying at in laws, and I only packed PJs for bed wear, but they are so tight I can't sleep, so am having to go bottomless. I don't know why that bothers me in someone else's house as I'm sure they aren't planning on walking in on us, but I still don't like it!

Poppy I was super bloated until about 8 weeks, its died down now and I can just about zip my jeans again!

Morning berries. How are you doing today tally?

Morning berries

Tally so sorry the hg arrived, hope you've been suitably rehydrated and dosed up and that they keep a close eye on you x

Hi mother nice of you to pop in, it's always good to be reminded that there's light at the end of this early pg panic tunnel!

No bloating here. No nothing here, in fact. No indication of pregnancy whatsoever, and major panic starting at lack of symptoms. No symptoms last time either, so maybe it's just normal for me or maybe it's a sign that it's going to go tits up again I'm finding this wait unbearable. I'm so sure it's going to go wrong again , just wishing the time away until I can have my scan.

Morning boom -don't worry about not having symptoms. As far as I could tell from last time, almost anything is normal for someone. 5 wks is early to be getting symptoms anyway - I don't think I had anything apart from tiredness until 6 wks last time, and tbh I get the bloating sometimes anyway, so I wouldn't be chalking it up to PG if I didn't have a bfp

tally hope you're improving and they let you home today - fx

haycorn know what you mean about it coming and going - back to a somewhat normal size this morning

Have done another test this morning to help reassure me - still bfp! I know it's a bit meaningless, but still helps a bit. Might even get the courage up to book to see my Gp and tell her today ...

katatonic I don't have an appointment for a scan as I've not told anyone I'm pg yet! Found out on holiday and I'm still away (I know, teachers and their holidays ) so will be calling the midwife when I get home next week, I googled the number and have it ready .

Boom congratulations!!!!!!!

Tally hope it's easing off, so sorry it's hit you again

Hi Poppy, and hello Cleo!

Merk I don't have any cravings (yet) but I have been eating a ridiculously healthy diet considering I'm on holiday. Loads of fruit and veg, and salads for lunch every day. I haven't had any sweets or chocolate since I got here (over 3 weeks ago now), and only one slice of cake!!! I am known for my ridiculous sweet tooth so this is unheard of!!!! (It was sweet of you Boom to assume my love of running etc necessarily means I eat heathily as well but you were a long way off!)

Thanks for the vitamin reassurance berries. I had horrendous nausea yesterday when we spent over an hour driving along a horribly winding road (nothing like you're going through Tally though). DP actually pulled over and stopped the car to give me a break from it! Running is not going well, just not feeling it, and I'm tired all the time so poor DP is doing way more than his far share of driving.

tally that sounds awful - can't begin to imagine. Do any of the drugs help or is it a waiting game?

To all bloated berries - I am with you! I look pregnant though obviously this is just impossible. Well that and IVF has put loads of weight on me - and I am just so tired. So long I can't remember where the gym is! Been in bed by 9 every night this week - party party party.

Right, feeling slightly less morose this evening. Have a shiny new haircut and having tried on my dress for the wedding tomorrow, I can confirm that my bazookas are enormous. So at least something's happening, although they were an E already so I could do without them expanding much further!

Is it weird that even though I'm technically diffed, it hasn't stopped the crazy-lady jealous reaction to people's scan pictures on facebook or seeing a preggo waddling round the supermarket in front of me? Suppose it's just because I can't picture myself at that stage or because I'm mental

Tally how are you feeling?

Merk working on a cunning plan to liberate a scan machine. Sure they won't notice if I just borrow one for the next 8 months..?

Kat hope your tum feels better today!

Shattered. Bedtime for this little berry x

boom Have you had your hair done? It looks really nice!

I know what you mean about the crazy-lady bit - I'm still giving everyone with a bump a bit of an evil look. Maybe just habit now?

wimwom I have a strange thing where I get really tired between about 7-9pm, then wake up again and can't sleep until about 1am - gaah!

barking I'm with you - still keeping it v quiet until I get a few more days under my belt. Currently trying to focus on 7wks as the next milestone, but might change my mind if I start to vom next week

Urgh feeling grim again. Feel bad moaning when I wished for this for so long and when lots of people have it much much worse but it's just so miserable feeling like this all of the time

Sorry to hear you're feeling rubbish merkin
Don't worry - you can always come on here and have a good old moan. Just because you wished for it to happen, doesn't mean it has to be fun!
Sending hugs your way

hugs merk, it's rotten isn't it? I'm home, the drugs are keeping the nausea at bay for the moment. I'm working at a quarter speed at the moment and I can't get my head around doing anything, but it's better than being sick all the time.

Hello berries this is where you have been hiding
Think it's a great idea to park your helicopter here for a bit. I too found the ante natal threads too much until after I gave birth so understand you feeling safer over here.
I'm sorry some of you are feeling rotten and yes we have been waiting for this but it's still hard! I had no MS but was so incredibly tired from 6-9 weeks, all I did was sleep and whinge . I promise you it gets better.
Are you all having early scans? I had one at 6 and one at 8 weeks, both on Nhs due to previous mc. But I would have happily paid for it as well.
Well congratulations on these recent bfps- we do seem to have them in groups- maybe twice a year??

well I was too ill to get to the scan I had booked, but hospital sent me for one anyway. my dates said 6+1 and the scan said 5+3 so not too huge a difference. all ok so far. they are giving ne another on the 2nd, so I will be over 7 by then.

Glad you're home and a bit improved Tally, hope it keeps getting better.

Nice haircut Boom.

I'm not feeling so sick today which of course I'm worrying about rather than happy because I'm an idiot.

Having a wonderful time away but really lookong forward to getting home and calling the gp or midwife, get myself on the system. Maybe then I might believe this is happening? but probably not until I get a scan

New symptom to add to list - hair falling out whenever I wash, dry, brush, touch it. I thought your hair was supposed to get all lush and thick during pregnancy? I know I asked for this, but I am not enjoying being an exhausted, fat, sick baldy.

My hair had gone very dry and horrible but isn't falling out! I am covered in spots though.
Counting down the last 16 days until 2nd trimester when hopefully it gets easier!

Hey guys, sorry your suffering. Just a thought but Merk, check your vits, I suffered with spots at the start and changed from vitabiotics to a different brand and my skin cleared up within a week or so. Just a thought.

Sorry, sodding off again now.

I second the vitamins comment. Pregnacare gave me the worst skin I have ever had... switched to Seven Seas and cleared up immediately.

Sympathies to all you who are suffering

Ooh thanks ladies for the tip, will swap tomorrow

Very interesting about the vitamins. My acne came back with a vengeance when I stopped taking the antibiotics before ttc and all visits to the dermatologist were a waste of time as they couldn't give me anything while we were still ttc. They did helpfully mention once or twice that getting pregnant would probably help my skin due to the surge in hormones. Thanks, not like I wasn't trying....

Anyway, skin is worse than ever and I have been taking pregnacare (although as stated earlier, not very regularly recently). I can't really blame the bad skin purely on the tablets but if there's any chance they might make it worse I shall definitely switch brands when I get home! Cheers for the heads up!

boom and poppy I'm still jealous of pg ladies as well. Was with one tonight and she looked so 'comfortably' pg with her third I was v jealous. All my pg symptoms have disappeared and I don't feel remotely pg. I'm struggling to convince myself I actually am, keep reminding myself that I definitely had a 3 bfp 's and I haven't had any bleeding since so I probably am. Part of me doesn't even want to tell my mum when I get home (although I had intended to) as I feel like a fraud and want to wait until a medically qualified person tells me there is definitely something with a heartbeat growing inside me. Doesn't help that everyone was on the beer and wine tonight (catching up with DP's family in New York) and pg woman was obviously not drinking, and neither was I, but for no reason I could really think of. First time I've met his step sister so didn't want to come across as the boring one and actually really, really fancied a nice glass of red!