A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

[barkingtreefrog]

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!!

Thunder your pic is simply gorgeous, you can even see its little nose! No doubt mine will just be a blur!!

I'm trying not to freak out. Bleeding is heavier, but not only that, I just went to the toilet and there were lots of clots, lots of red, and a weird clump (about 50p coin sized) that was like skin or brain matter. Really wishing I hadn't insisted DP stuck to his plans and went away.

Please help me hold it together .

And I'm out of sanitary towels after this one but can't face leaving the house to get more. Bollocks.

Barking you're up north aren't you? Otherwise I'd happily bring you towels and hold your hand. How much more bleeding? Do you have someone you can call to come round? Hand holding

Can you call OH?

Oh Barking can your DH come back from wherever he's gone or could a friend come round and pick you some towels up on the way?

I'm sure it's just a scare and all will be fine but I think you need someone in RL to help you through it.

Hi all, thank you for the lovely comments. Still feeling very surreal.

barking you poor thing. I second the others- can you call someone/DP to get you some towels and some treats? This is not the time to be struggling on your own my lovely.

Oh Barking, you definitely need someone in real life to do all the hand holding and reassuring that we can only offer through a screen. You know we are all thinking of you though.

I know that if I called my mate she'd come straight round but she's over an hour's drive away with her 1 year old and I don't know if her husband is home. My other close friend is away for the weekend. I don't really want to tell anyone else what is going on. DP is a few hours away and wouldn't be able to come back without messing up his mate's weekend as he's driving the four of them.
It's the stuff that came out with the blood that's freaking me out. Just taken more paracetamol for the cramps and will warm the wheatbag up.

Barking I was told in the hospital on Monday to go back if I was soaking through a pad in an hour OR if there were clots. Can you ring the triage line again and speak to a midwife to see what she advises? Don't worry about bothering them.
I really don't like that you're on your own, what about your mum? Honestly I think telling somebody else at this point is less important than having somebody there. Also can you text/talk to DP... Just talking to him may help x

Please barking call somebody to be with you x

What I keep thinking is that there's nothing they can actually do to stop anything bad happening, and while the pain remains manageable I'd rather be at home. They pretty much said that this morning.
I dragged myself to the corner shop and now have sanitary towels and tangfastics .

Thank you for the online hand holding berries, it really helps .

That was what I was thinking on Monday barking, however in this case they can do something (apologies for being very frank here). They can scan you and tell you what is happening. If it is bad news you have other options for pain management etc. If its just an unexplained bleed they will be able to tell you that, which will make a big difference to how you feel.
Also, I would not recommend leaving it much later on a sat night to go to a&e, you would be there all night.
Keep posting (even if we are interrupting your strictly) x

Oh Barking I'm only just catching up on this. To second what the others have said please don't do this alone and please get medical advice, even if you only ring NHS Direct or the EPU in the first instance. I wish I was up North to come round and give you a cwtch. Take care lovely, we're all thinking of you

Jealous of happy offering a cwtch! One of my fav words!!

They won't scan me merk as I only had one on Thursday, that's what they told me this morning. She brought the next one forward to the earliest they can do it - 7 days after the last. That's why the advice was to be wherever I was most comfortable, and the only reason to go in would be if I needed help with the pain. For the moment the paracetamol and wheat bag are doing the job. Seeing Louis again on Strictly is helping as well .

Merks are you Welsh??

Not welsh, but one of my bridesmaids is
Barking they will scan you if they need to. Can you at least ring them and explain what has happened today and get their opinion?

Sorry for being bossy but am worried about you on your own and would like at least an nhs opinion rather than us randomly speculating

Ok merk I'll give them a call .

Yes do as you are told barking

Right. Pretty much as I thought. Nurse said it could be that I was miscarrying and if I had miscarried then the scan would show the womb was empty. However I wouldn't get a scan overnight anyway. As it was so small on Thursday it's still unlikely I would see a heartbeat so even if the scan didn't show an empty womb it would still be inconclusive. Waiting until Thursday's scan is really the only option. If I am feeling unwell or just want to be seen I can give them a call back, but they won't be able to tell me anything until the scan.

Well done for ringing even if I was wrong how are you feeling now? Will DP be cross if you don't tell him until tomorrow?

Well other than the weird stuff in the blood the situation hasn't really changed from this morning. Still bleeding, don't know why, and won't know if it's all gone wrong until Thursday .
Have calmed down since the shock of the last toilet visit . No point in dragging anyone round here or worrying DP, I'll be in bed soon, and I'll let the dog come up for cuddles .

Take care Hun x