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A thread for elderberries who are hovering in the bfp helicopter

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barkingtreefrog · 19/08/2013 15:33

All elderberry grads welcome and anyone who fills berry criteria: ttc #1 a long time now finally bagged that elusive bfp, over 30...

Come join the next stage of the journey and compare sickness reports!! Grin

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Cavort · 01/09/2013 10:41

Merk this happened to me at 9+3 pretty much exactly as you describe and the resulting baby is currently on my lap trying to stop me typing on my phone so try not to panic, which I know is near impossible. If you search there are loads of stories online of early pregnancy bleeding (some really bad) resulting in healthy babies which I found reassuring to read when it happened to me.

Get yourself on the sofa with a box set and a supply of drinks and snacks and don't move for the rest of the day. There is no point walking around to make it worse when you actually want it to stop! And also don't panic if you can't find a heartbeat with the Doppler as it's far too early to reliably find it every time and some MW's even struggle to find it at 16 weeks.

It also happened to me on a weekend and I had to go through the torture of waiting until EPU opened on Monday morning. I couldn't self-refer to mine (I think some you can) so I phoned my named MW first thing Monday morning and she arranged for a scan Monday lunchtime.

EPU shouldn't want to see the towel unless it is unusual in some way, they will want to know about the colour, whether there are any clots, quantity, duration and any accompanying pain. I got the impression that brown blood isn't seen as a potential problem so if you want to get a scan make sure you emphasise how red it was.

I would only go to A&E if you have symptoms of ectopic (which you definitely haven't if you've already had a scan showing a baby in the right place?) and phone your out-of-hours GP number if bleeding gets heavier or is accompanied by cramps and they will get someone to assess/advise you over the phone, although all they can really offer is pain relief. NHS Direct were useless IMO and not worth bothering with for early pregnancy.

You've seen a good strong heartbeat already so I'm sure this is just one of those unexplained incidents which don't indicate a problem. Smile

CatsCantFlyFast · 01/09/2013 10:52

Thanks Cavort. Feel a bit like this is teaching me a lesson for finally starting to feel a bit more confident. Am not getting the Doppler out as that will just worry me more I think.
The weirdest thing is that I woke up after a random dream where OHs friend was asking me what to do with his bed sheets because they were covered in blood. Strange.

CatsCantFlyFast · 01/09/2013 11:02

I'm back... Beware TMI. Final knicker check before leaving the house was lots more brown blood and a v small black clot which left a red blood mark on the loo roll. Doesn't change anything, however full blown panic is back. Am willing this baby to stick with me but so worried its not going to be.
Not sure what i think telling you all this will do...

Quodlibet · 01/09/2013 11:53

Oh Merk how stressful. I really feel for you.
One very normal thing it could be is a subchorionic haematoma - when I had my early scan she noticed I had one of these and said that I might experience a bleed, or it might re absorb. It's basically when the implantation causes a little bleed outside of the amniotic sac and the blood just hangs around (hence why old brown blood and not worrying). I know it's very very hard not to get wound up about it - likewise can't believe EPU is not open on weekends!

barkingtreefrog · 01/09/2013 13:22

Oh Merk, have you got anything to keep you occupied? Is DH being helpful? I wish I could send you a time machine and whizz you forward to when the epu opens tomorrow. Thanks

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BlindKitty · 01/09/2013 14:20

Just came in for a nosey (nowt good to report!)

not that I know anything about this sort of stuff but from what can gather this can happen to list of people and be nothing to worry about. Like barking said, go and put on a box set or listen to a relaxation cd or something. Thinking of my fellow berry Smile xxx

CatsCantFlyFast · 01/09/2013 15:48

Still here, have had 3 hours on the sofa dozing during the football... Thought my back and stomach were starting to ache but I suspect that might have been my imagination from worrying.
Still brown blood when I wipe,but as per before lying/sitting down isn't going to give me a clear picture. However I don't really feel like doing anything other than sofa hugging so am going to just stay here and assess in the morning. Thanks for all the positive thoughts

PoppySeedBun · 01/09/2013 16:42

Sending lots more positive thoughts, merk
Can only reiterate what others have said - brown is good, hang on until you can get to EPU in the morning. But I know that doesn't really help with the waiting and worrying. Hope that OH is fully up to speed and being supportive.
Fingers crossed for you, and hoping you get a nice straightforward all clear in the morning. Thanks

MotherOfCleo · 01/09/2013 20:13

Thinking of you Merk

haycorn · 01/09/2013 22:35

Only just checked in today. There's another hand to hold over here Merk if you need it, although it seems that you are weighed down with hands at the moment (now have image of you buried under pile of disembodied hands - much creepier than the supportive image I was going for).

I hope you are able to get some sleep tonight, and that your mind is put at ease tomorrow.

Thundercatsarego · 01/09/2013 22:53

Sending Thanks merk, keep us posted tomorrow and hope you get some good rest tonight.

CatsCantFlyFast · 02/09/2013 06:01

Woken up this morning with a tightness across my abdomen, not quite cramps but close and uncomfortable, and its on and off every few mins. Braved a trip to the loo to see the expected red blood. Have now got back into bed (wimp) as EPU doesn't open for another 2 hours and im not sure what else to do. Feels quite inevitable now I'm afraid. Thanks for your lovely messages. Feel like I'm clinging on to the helicopter by a frayed rope that isn't going to last today x

Boomgoestheweasel · 02/09/2013 06:21

Oh merk keep hanging on! It's not over yet, just get yourself through the next couple of hours and down to the EPU as soon as you can. Wake the OH up for some support, have some breakfast and just take yourself down there. So sorry you're feeling so worried (wins prize for understatement) but there's still hope. Thinking of you xxx

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barkingtreefrog · 02/09/2013 06:38

Thinking of you merk, wake DH up, don't stress on your own. It's not over until a scan says so, fx for you Thanks .

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Thundercatsarego · 02/09/2013 06:43

Same from me, merk. Wake him up and get a cup of tea and some biscuits and a cuddle. I hope the epu are open on time and lovely Thanks

Cavort · 02/09/2013 07:44

Merk I know you won't feel any better until you get that scan, but this really is exactly what I had for 3 days and all was fine, so please don't give up hope. Unexplained bleeding really is very common Thanks

haycorn · 02/09/2013 07:45

Thinking of you Merk, and hoping against hope for good news.

CatsCantFlyFast · 02/09/2013 07:55

On our way to a and e, cramps are unbearable and making me physically sick

Wimwom · 02/09/2013 08:04

Oh merk - am so hoping everything will be ok for you and this is just one of those horrid bumps in the road. We're all thinking of you and sending positive vibes.

Cavort · 02/09/2013 09:03

Thinking of you Merk. I hope everything is ok x

Brodicea · 02/09/2013 09:14

Thinking of you this morning merk will keep everything crossed xxxx

MotherOfCleo · 02/09/2013 09:31

Thinking of you merk, hoping against hope that all is ok! xxx Thanks

CatsCantFlyFast · 02/09/2013 10:15

I'm back home. Went quickly through a & e triage (as all the pain was on one side so i think they were particularly worried). Saw a doctor in the EPU after about 90 mins, by which point, after 3 hours of agony, the cramps suddenly disappeared. Anyway, doc says my cervix is closed which is potentially a good sign and I've to go back on wed for a scan. Currently no pain and only brown spotting. Two other women in EPU/gynae were looking down their noses at me as they were all glam and immaculate and I had not brushed my hair or washed my face, I looked like I had got dressed in the dark and then been dragged through a hedge backwards. However whilst kneeling on the floor in pain I didn't really care.
Am going to have to tell work now (awkward as my boss and I don't get on and he is a complete prick) and am planning on taking days off til after the scan, assuming I can get a sick note from the doctor. Anyway that's a long way of explaining I'm back in bed, ok but petrified iykwim, and sitting on a fence precariously until wed morn. Thanks for the support x

PoppySeedBun · 02/09/2013 10:26

Ohmerk so sorry you have another wait. V. annoying that they couldnt scan you today. Still, glad you got seen quickly, and it must be a good sign that the docs weren't too concerned at this stage. Rest up and try and distract yourself with some rubbish telly or something. Hope your boss is helpful for a change, and if not, he can have a wang from all of us!

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